Wu Zhihong, a famous psychologist, said in the book Why Family Hurts People that "the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family. To establish a healthy family system, the relationship between husband and wife must be placed in the most important position in the family. "

But in real life, many families attach importance to parent-child relationship, but despise husband-wife relationship. Especially for those remarried families, children are an important hub to maintain the relationship between husband and wife. Without the crystallization of love, husband and wife will always live like partners.

This idea of putting the cart before the horse eventually leads to a fragile relationship between husband and wife, which will collapse once it is under the pressure of reality. There are many divorced couples around us. Did they divorce because they had no children? No, it's because neither of them is good at running their own marriage.

So, how should a married couple spend their lives?

In fact, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, couples who want to stay together for a lifetime need to make the same efforts.

First, trust each other. Contradictions and misunderstandings between husband and wife begin with mutual reservation and distrust. Building trust is particularly important for married couples.

Because of an unsuccessful marriage, some even started a new life with their ex-children.

If husband and wife can't trust each other and always have reservations, life will be different.

Second, try to meet each other's needs. Although couples who get married for the second time will face more challenges and problems than those who get married for the first time, this does not mean that couples who get married for the second time will not be happy. Such as Yi Nengjing and Qin Hao, Justin and Zhang Xinyi.

The two married couples had failed emotional experiences before they met, but they made their marriage life warm and beautiful through their own efforts.

The important day is that they are all trying to meet each other's needs. For example, Qin Hao's mother wanted a grandson very much, and Yi Nengjing gave birth to Xiaomi at the risk of getting old in order to satisfy the wishes of the elderly.

For Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing, Xiaomi is not the purpose of their marriage, but the arrival of Xiaomi can really make their marriage life more complete and harmonious.

Therefore, the first thing a married couple wants to live together for a lifetime is to listen to each other's needs and then try to meet each other's needs.

Third, be down-to-earth and live every day well. Life is too long. If we always want the future, we will have a hard time now. Couples who can really walk together for a lifetime are thinking about how to spend today, or how to make today better than yesterday.

As long as you live every day well, will your life be far away?

Life is not a slogan, not a promise, but a daily life of daily necessities. Seize the moment and live every day.

To sum up, two married couples can stay together for life and have no direct relationship with their children. Couples with children can't live a lifetime if they don't want to be sincere and try their best to manage their marriage, and their children will become victims of marriage.

Only by managing the relationship between husband and wife well can the parent-child relationship be more harmonious and the two people can last for a long time.

Author: honey Zen. "Love, love, listen to what you don't know." Focus on emotional counseling and answering. If you have anything to say, please leave a message to share.