Life is the problem.

Marriage is not a short-lived passion, but a sublimation of love and a triviality of life.

Some people's love is unforgettable, but they go their separate ways because of the deviation of outlook on life and values, different living habits and different family backgrounds.

Therefore, you should carefully consider your choice.

The key content that you urgently need to consider now is:

First, are your living habits similar or complementary? If not, whether you and she can tolerate or compromise for each other.

Second, whether your outlook on life and values are consistent, that is, whether your future goals and understanding of life belong to the same kind or similar.

Broadly speaking, do you have the same outlook on life?

For example, in the pursuit of fame and fortune, both sides like power, one side will fight for it, and the other side will willingly assist and share with each other after obtaining their own goals; For example, they like a stable life, and neither of them has greater ambitions. They just want a quiet life, all have stable jobs and the cost of living is not too much. Occasionally they have a romantic western food, and you cook and wash the dishes. As long as we are together every day, we are very satisfied.

By analogy, your ideas can reach * * * knowledge.

Third, the family background, the ancients said: when the door is right. This sentence must have its profound meaning. Specifically, if the above two points are correct, in fact, two people's ideas will be similar. Of course, there are differences, as long as we accept each other. Simply put, some farmers like to eat in bed, while foreigners like to eat undercooked beef with knives and forks. Theoretically, there is nothing wrong with the habits of these two people. But because they come from different families, they are used to each other, and even if they change in adulthood, they can't fully adapt. The important thing is that it is not easy to change their existing habits, but a very painful process. Can both people bear and be willing to sacrifice?

Fourth, the views of both families belong to external factors, which can be changed through your efforts, and it is also the easiest to change. Parents agree or disagree, but they just want you to be happy. As long as you get happiness through your own efforts and let both parents feel it, you can turn opposition into blessing. Of course, this process is long. If you insist, your parents will still compromise. It's only a matter of time.

Friends around me also have such examples. She ran away from home. She used her independence and strength to prove that her choice was correct. In four years, it was a difficult process from no one in the whole family to her mother, who acquiesced. Her boyfriend's concern and care for her gradually influenced her parents.

In addition to the above points, in fact, the biggest reason why friends and relatives around you oppose it is for you. Once a stable woman is determined, it is not easy to change. This is the virtue of women in China, but there are many variables for men. The reason why society criticizes men's philandering is not because women are not philandering, but because the ratio of men's philandering is much higher than that of women. So on the one hand, your relatives and friends are worried that you will change your mind because of various temptations after you get a job, on the other hand, they are worried that your derailment will hurt her, and it is difficult to end up.

For this, you can only show it with actions, and appropriate participation in social practice is also your opportunity to prove yourself.

The key point is your attitude after employment. She has to make sacrifices, that is, wait for you to graduate. If she can't wait, your love is not firm enough.

Life is so cruel that not everyone can withstand the storm of reality for love. Many people are just scattered around the world in the storm and will never see each other again for the rest of their lives.

I hope you can stick to the end, harvest your love and organize a happy family!