We are so small and ignorant, but we always stand on the commanding heights and measure each other's value with our own scale, and call it meaning.
I'm tired of this cycle. When you start to pursue meaning, you are already trapped in meaning. You have been chained to a running treadmill, and the only way to stop you is to stop pursuing meaning.
So, I chose to leave the treadmill.
Why should I be with a group?
Fish said that people are gregarious animals and should get along well. Johnny Ma retorted, "But there are also maverick people. There are all kinds of people in this world. His aim is to gain the right to live and a better life. Natural selection, survival of the fittest, there is no right or wrong, and there is no light and darkness. Survival is good and worthy of respect. Everyone in this world has built this colorful world, so that the world will be better. We all live here and are working hard for our goals. "
The heart is as firm as the sun and the appearance is as hot as a volcano.
I don't know how to refuse Hao Tao.
From the north and south, Xiaoyu, jiaozi and Yin Nan, we experience all aspects of our college life. We may envy Yin Nan's parents' respect for their daughters, and they will feel the same way as Xiaoyu. We hope our parents can listen to our ideas. Want to respect is by no means neglect and laissez-faire, and discipline is by no means disobedience. For Yin Nan, she may also envy Xiaoyu for having a parent who can nag at any time, and Xiaoyu may also envy Yin Nan for having a parent who can let him choose freely. To some extent, we are all small fish and Yin Nan. The two men told the judge about it. They hated each other and lived a jealous and uncomfortable life.
Secret love should not be two of a kind, but a process of love waiting to be discovered.
Efforts are deliberate, but whose love is random? The best thing about love is the efforts of two people. Those compromises, quarrels, entanglements, contradictions. Those split personalities who can't slap him one second and feel heartache the next are like being stuck in their hearts. This is the most fascinating place in love. If we can't learn this, maybe we are losing the most precious wealth in love.
Perhaps, as another debater said, the success rate of love in college is not high, but in the face of every sincere emotion, please cherish it, cherish it, use our lives to maintain it, and strive to manage it, so that every hopeless love may bear the sweetest fruit.
Can bear and let go, follow the fate.
About affordability: The real meaning of affordability is to dare to take it. The endurance on the road of life is to dare to undertake and challenge, and dare to pursue everything you pursue. Think about it. There are not so many honors, responsibilities and obligations that you want to pick up on this road, but it has brought us to this day on such a long road of life. Faced with a difficult problem, I will pick it up one by one and solve it. I'm not afraid of losing face when I go to the stage for the first time. When my parents get old, we must take on family responsibilities. In the face of love, we must summon up courage to pursue it, instead of giving in to fear and making excuses for our mediocrity with escape behaviors such as fate.
About letting go: But should we get everything? The name is greed. And it's really not an easy thing to get. I want to go home by wind, but I'm afraid of Qionglou Yuyu's worries. "Because the world can't satisfy our desire" and "Tomorrow I will loosen my hair and go fishing" are full of helplessness and sadness in the face of life. Is it normal to get? No, the normal state of life is loss. We have been losing, losing time, losing opportunities, losing people we love. And life is to let us experience that distress and hardship in such repeated losses, so we should learn to let go. Only by learning to let go can we shift our limited energy and resources to more important choices in life. Only in this way can we know what we should be able to bear, and we should have enough courage to bear what, so that we can have the strength to face the world.
About fate: fate is not not not making a choice, but not making a choice by force. It is the true fate and the wise philosophy of life to improvise according to the time and place. It's like I want to eat braised pork, but only Sam Sun and kung pao chicken are left in the canteen. It takes time and money for Party A's debater to take a taxi 10 km to eat in the restaurant. Party B's debater told himself so much, but his heart was always a little lost. On the long road of life, the first thing we should learn is to choose a delicious one between three fresh vegetables and diced chicken and accept this choice. When you learn to go with the flow, you won't spend energy because you want it too much, and you won't be disappointed because you are forced to give up. Reality and ideals will be finely balanced. Because at this moment, you understand the most important truth, analyze the specific situation, and do what you can do under specific circumstances. This is the real methodology of life.
Letting go is the premise of affordability, but if I can't afford anything, what should I let go? Is it empty-handed air? When we stand at the starting point, we might as well look at the end of life and think about what we can really leave and put down when we are dying. It is time for us to pick up the honor on the wall after our dreams, and it is time for us to take responsibility. Today's children and grandchildren are full of people, and we have picked them up again and again on the road of life, reminding us of the heavy tranquility when we were young. Life is like a customs clearance game. Some checkpoints are really difficult, and some enemies are bloody and even killed with one blow. What should you do? Party B's defense friend said put it down, then you don't play this game; Party C's defense friend said, just follow fate, but you can't beat it. However, I just want to see the scenery of the next level, because I know that it is there.
Everything in this world will be picked up because I want to pick it up, and will it be put down because I want to put it down? Then why can't you get enough and not let go? Take things as they are, and guide them according to the situation. It is not the passivity of life, but the wisdom of survival.
On the road of life, we should learn to let go: Tao Yuanming, who grows beans at the foot of Nanshan, or Fan Zhongyan, who doesn't like things and feels sorry for himself. This is different from our teenagers' mentality. It is normal for young people to be empty-handed and want to explore, create and get everything they want. But is the desire of life endless? We can't hate, we can't hate. We burn the midnight oil to study. Why can't I get into my favorite university? Lose weight and starve, why hasn't my weight changed? Shouldn't there be a reward after giving? Did you get a look at him? The mentality collapsed. If we say that we are constantly building our lives and increasing the number, then we are stripping away the worthlessness of life and subtracting it. This kind of stripping, putting this sentence down, makes our life simple and pure, and endows us with the beauty of personality. But most importantly, it makes us see clearly what is really worth between people.
We should be able to afford it on the road of life: in today's rapid development, one young person after another can do anything, yes, it doesn't matter, it's on their lips. Meaning, value, dreams, expectations, these have become words that they avoid talking about, and then retreat to the corner to get satisfaction. In Japan, this is a society with low desire; In Europe and America, this is the lost generation; Cynicism is in power, meaning is gone, young people put it down, it's all fate, who can afford it? So yes, our aim is to get more. In business, we just want to be an official. Emotionally, we are eager to enter the world of mortals. In wealth, we should dare to go to sea. This is our view.
Because in today's world, we still need everyone to have the ability, responsibility, responsibility and endurance.
What we are discussing today is the attitude towards life. Party A's defense friend said that enriching our life means increasing the quantity; Party B's defense friend said that letting go is a kind of stripping, stripping is not worth it, life is worth it, it is condensation. Accompanying fate is not a negative life, nor is it muddling along. In a chaotic life, knowing what is right can make every day a part of a wonderful life.
The fundamental difference between fate and liberation;
Letting go is to frown away the helplessness in your heart. Surprisingly, there is no way to doubt the mountains and there is another village.
Can you really pick up your books, concentrate on your studies and wait for the campus at four o'clock in the morning when your mood is retreating? It's like waking up in the middle of the night Can you really break off the relationship in an instant and let go of your ex who can accompany you for a long time? Can you really get a response when you pick it up and put it down in the world? Did you find it? Holding the golden hoop may not be able to clear the world, and letting go of the obsession will not be able to become a Buddha. The other debater thinks that if he can afford it, he will succeed, and if he can let go, he will be able to get out of the misery, but the disappointment in life is precisely that we only thought of the beginning, but did not think of the result. At first, we couldn't understand the bumpy road and the 81-year-old hardship. In today's game, golden sentences are teasing, chicken soup is brainwashing, slogans are encouraging, but they are also paralyzing our judgment. I believe some people here can let go, but some people can't. In this case, the success you can bear is nothing more than the crowning and letting go of some people and the habitat of others. Those who choose to follow the advice of Party A and Party B and pursue the ending of picking it up and releasing it are just wandering around their own countries with other people's maps. This guide points out your destination, but not my way. There is a time and a place in life, and there is also this moment. Every scenery deserves our correct attitude, but it requires us not to judge it before we meet it. This is destiny. There are many wonderful lives in this world, but only one is bleak. According to other people's stories, I failed to live my life well.
Accept the reality and change it.
So how do you define reality? How to define reality? Objective reality, unchangeable status quo? Men, it is difficult to really see the complete reality. Many times, it's just our thoughts. In the final analysis, we are too weak.
Another debater said that it is difficult to change the reality because it is aimed at the rules of this world; It is difficult to change the reality and face all the unknowns; There is also a huge risk of changing reality that I may lose more, which is difficult; But another debater, one thing is more difficult to change than all these things combined, and it is much more arduous, and that is ourselves. When we accept the reality, it means changing ourselves; When we accept the reality of fighting, it means changing our cowardly self. When we accept the reality of losing our loved ones, it means changing our habit of relying on ourselves. If you want to accept yourself who lost the true love of your life because of his cowardice and hesitation, and accept yourself who has done a lot of stupid things and said a lot of stupid things because of his previous confusion and timidity, you must change yourself, dare to pursue it, and know what you want. Is it difficult? This is too difficult. We believe that it takes more courage to accept reality than to change it, because it is a calm process and a self-shaping process. In this process, although we are in a quagmire, our hearts are towards the stars.
It's like we argue, eat, play, stay in the library and stay up all night together. We became best friends and had the best memories. But which team is not like this? Can friendship and memories win us trophies? I can't. No game will beat you for this, and the champion can only be bought with ability and sweat. We are all ordinary people. What we need is to go to college, earn money to support our family, do something useful to ourselves and be a useful person, instead of shouting that Zhuangzi's useless use will be of great use, but in the end, we lead our lives to an absurd dream.
About my thoughts:
In recent days, I watched the drama Hello, Debating Friends 2. The debating team composed of Nanbei, Xiaoyu, Tuanzi, Johnny Ma, Hao Tao and Xiaosa made us see our own shadow in our daily life and in the competition. It is a particularly important part of our life, whether it is the way we get along with each other or the daily bickering with a team member. North and South and Liu Yanze, two bitter friends, didn't expect it to be because of a problem with a game machine. Fortunately, the last two people let bygones be bygones and got back together, but they can still see that there is no gunpowder between them. There are Xiaoyu and Yin Nan, two friends who grew up together. They really showed us the happiness between two people who don't talk to each other. In addition to the laughter and bickering between friends, there are also quarrels between couples. From the first small fish and the north and south, to sweet dumplings and Liu Yanze, and of course, the unique relationship between Johnny Ma and Miss Sister. Through the debate team, we saw the life that contemporary college students should have, and also appreciated the ditches and hurdles that we had to go through on the road of life. Although there will be failures, as long as we don't give up on each other, support and encourage each other, we will definitely get our satisfactory answer in the end.