Marry Liu Yiyang? It became the slogan of most girls' mate selection standards in that era. Liu Yiyang is affectionate and tolerant to Tong Qian Jia. He always puts Don Qian Jia first and never refuses her. On the other hand, in the eyes of many boys, children are willful and delicate, which is by no means the standard of ideal girlfriends.
I was a college student the first time I saw the play. Like most of the boys and girls mentioned above, I agree with kindness and condemn children's kindness? Work? .
However, after many years, times have changed, and then look at naked marriage, I believe many people will have the same feelings as me. How much I was addicted to Liu Yiyang's affection at the beginning, now it seems that a slap in the face will be loud. I love children, a silly girl who is desperate for love and goes through fire and water. She tried her best, but she still lost to Liu Yiyang's verdict? Detail trumps love? . I'm not sure whether I'm completely defeated by the details, but from all indications, Liu Yiyang is not a lifelong partner.
One: Different family environments will inevitably bring about differences and frictions in the three views.
Liu Yiyang was born in a worker's family. His parents are ordinary workers, including his grandmother. A family of four crowded into a small house with two rooms and one living room. Tong's family environment is very rich, her parents are both cadres, and there are even two separate bathrooms. In addition, her parents doted on her so much that Tong developed a proud character of winning everything from an early age. As long as she wants, there is nothing she can't get, including love.
This also paved the way for her to turn against her mother, deliberately spoil the blind date arranged by her mother, and then go on a hunger strike to steal the household registration book from her mother's unit. Liu Yiyang's family environment has always taken Zhu Dexiao as its family purpose, so naturally it dare not go against parents' wishes like children.
Liu Yiyang lacks the concept of right and wrong, blindly obeys his parents and elders, and completely ignores his wife's feelings, which puts him in a dilemma and doesn't know how to reconcile the contradiction between his wife and her husband's family. Whether it's the first time I didn't manage the kitchen properly, or I bought sugary snacks for my grandmother who was hospitalized by mistake, or I opposed my father-in-law giving his daughter a name that didn't sound good at all. Right or wrong, did Liu Yiyang say a word for his wife?
Obviously not.
He not only kept silent, but also let it go, as if he were out of it, but he couldn't hide his dissatisfaction with the conflict between his wife and his elders. In short, in Liu Yiyang's mind, they are all elders. As a junior, it's better to let nature take its course and talk less, but the time is not a day or two, okay? Past? In fact, understatement is an excuse for him to shirk his responsibility and not fulfill his responsibility as a husband.
Two: Sweet talk is really just that if you don't practice fake tricks, there is no substantive action.
After careful observation, it is not difficult to find that Liu Yiyang has repeatedly expressed his determination to stab Qian Jia. Every sentence is from the heart, but there is no substantive action. For example, as I mentioned at the beginning, he doesn't have the conditions to get married, but he is determined to accompany him to his old age. In other words, although my working ability is not enough and my salary is low, I have a heart for promotion and salary increase.
I have passion, but I can't take practical action. How can I be nice to you and what can I do for you? Tong Qianjia asked us how to live in this life and said that there was still me. He didn't eat less, but none of the problems that should be solved were solved. Liu Yiyang has been painting cakes for children from beginning to end.
Venus once warned her daughter that no matter how good a man says, it is better to do something practical. After all, we are all over the age of listening to love. It's a pity that children are involved without knowing it. Even if she suffers hardships, she is willing to put all her eggs in one basket for the love she hears. She doesn't know that such a man can't carry anything at a critical moment.
Three: swollen face is also fat, and the face is bigger than the sky.
Liu Yiyang's own skill is not much, but he is arrogant at heart. He is always unconstrained and unrealistic, and all kinds of work can't enter his eyes. The most terrible thing is that he is proud and painful.
At the beginning of the child's pregnancy, her mother-in-law sent chicken soup to the company but accidentally broke the customer's artwork worth 50 thousand yuan. However, I can't bear to use my savings accumulated for many years to compensate my mother, and in order to maintain my independent face after marriage, I lied that Tong's company can get insurance to avoid compensation.
Liu's mother believed it, but the young couple themselves were short of money and the cost of giving birth was extremely high. Fifty thousand dollars is also very difficult for them, but Liu Yiyang is proud to say these words, so naturally there is no reason to take it back. Tong Qianjia is very dissatisfied but helpless.
Because public hospitals are full, children have to give birth in private hospitals, which is very expensive. In order to earn more money in a short time, without telling his family, he went out to a luxury car in the middle of the night and was detained, leaving Tong alone to give birth in the delivery room. Has he considered the consequences?
His wife had a difficult birth, but her husband was in the police station. It is conceivable that Tong Qianjia felt at that time. Even Tong's mother said that the old couple had already prepared the money, so let me know if there was no money.
But these just lost to Liu Yiyang's poor and useless face and dignity. Even if he lost his job and income, he didn't want to entrust himself to his father's unit. A tired and helpless wife and a hungry young son can't compare with his so-called dignified face, and can't compare with the grand blueprint he outlined for his ideal when he was young. He totally refuses to accept the reality. It can be said that in Liu Yiyang's world, his face will always appear before his wife and children, and will eventually become the fuse for their marriage to come to an end.
Four: the huge contrast between pre-marriage and post-marriage is comparable to turning your face.
If you observe the whole story, you will find that Liu Yiyang's attitude towards children is very different before and after marriage.
The pursuit of children has started since high school. He got up early and made a detour to the gate of the children's community just to see her more. Tong is beautiful, and it is not the taste for other boys to look at her more. Liu Yiyang likes Tong Qianjia. He scrimps and saves just to take her to the movies and eat Pizza Hut. If he can't afford a good cigarette, he smokes once ... It's no exaggeration for Tong to spend nine days on the moon and go to five oceans to catch turtles. Such words touched Tong's father, and even Tong's mother began to waver and resolutely oppose it.
He made great efforts to finally get what he wanted and get his beauty back, but after that, Liu Yiyang's attitude began to change. Because her mother-in-law was worried that her daughter had signs of miscarriage, she went to the company to talk to him, and even wrote a letter of guarantee, which led him to lose his temper with the child for the first time. Although the mother's behavior has gone too far, isn't this for his wife and even this family? Has he ever thought about talking to his wife calmly to solve the problem?
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Tong didn't adopt grandpa's plan to name his daughter, and was given a cold shoulder by the whole family. When his wife and family disagreed, as a husband, he didn't stand up and say a word for his wife, and even almost divorced.
Whether a woman marries the right person depends on how her husband coordinates her position in her husband's family. If there is a contradiction, you will know. If he doesn't speak for you and think of you, can you expect your husband's family to take care of you? Obviously not.
Five: It is not only the details that defeat love, but also the lack of sense of responsibility and the heart that loves oneself more.
Eight years in love and one year in marriage. It took me nine years to understand a truth. Details triumph over love. I have nothing better than you except that I love you more than you love me. ?
One sentence tells the essence of marriage and the reason for the final separation, which touched many people's tears.
Liu Yiyang always knew that he was not as good as Tong Qianjia. He really didn't deserve Tong Qianjia. I can't say that Liu Yiyang doesn't love children, but I can only say that he loves himself and his so-called dignity and face more than children, even at the expense of hurting children. He did not change from the most favored only child in the family to a husband and father, nor did he shoulder the corresponding responsibilities. After marriage, children have nothing but fatigue and suffer indignities.