Many parents are very helpless when they meet a child like Youyou, fearing that the child will stay at home and watch TV for a long time and become "four eyes" at an early age; Worried that children stay on sofas or stools all day, lack exercise and exercise, and become spokespersons for obesity; Worried about staying at home, so that children lack the necessary interpersonal communication, language skills can not be fully exercised, become a "boring gourd." Why do children like "houses"?
The child's voice-
"Mom and Dad ignore me": Many parents are always busy and have no time to take care of their children. The child wants to talk to his parents for a while and talk about kindergarten. Parents always use TV to perfunctory: "I am very busy. Go and watch cartoons. " After a long time, children will habitually watch TV and play games when they come home every day. Even if sometimes parents come to ask about their children's situation in kindergarten, the children will just talk and not do it.
"What I learned from them": Many parents are also very "homebody", either sitting on the sofa watching TV series or playing online games by the computer. I don't take part in outdoor activities on weekends. Children who are left unattended are too young to go out and find children by themselves. They just stay at home watching TV, playing games and reading fairy tales like their parents. After a long time, the child has formed a withdrawn and introverted personality, unwilling to go out and communicate with others, and has become a lonely "house treasure".
"I just like staying at home": Some children are naturally introverted, don't like busy places, don't like to associate with people, and like to close themselves in a small world, reading their favorite story books or drawing pictures to express their feelings, so it is difficult for other children to open their hearts. Many parents will not easily disturb their children's tranquility when they watch their children being so clever and obedient at home. After a long time, except kindergarten, children just want to stay at home and immerse themselves in their own world.
What would a smart mother do—
Spend more time with children: Nowadays, many people are under great pressure and are constantly busy for their livelihood, but children should not be the "victims" of adults' busyness. Mother can find a fixed chat time, or take the initiative to talk to her child about his situation and problems in kindergarten on the way home with her child. If the weather is fine, parents can take their children out for a walk after dinner, simply talk to their children about work, or invite other children to participate in the conversation. In this way, children's interests will expand, go out of their homes and explore the vast world.
Set a good example: parents are children's first teachers, and children will unconsciously learn habits similar to themselves under the influence of their parents. Therefore, "stay-at-home parents" should act quickly and take their children for outings, picnics, walks and sports, which will subtly affect their enjoyment of outdoor activities instead of staying at home all day.
Pay attention to cultivating children's sense of partnership: it is unwise for parents to immerse them in their own small world for introverted children. Parents must pay attention when they find that there are quiet children at home. First of all, we should communicate with kindergarten teachers so that teachers can pay more attention to cultivating children's sense of partnership. For example, when playing games, let him play some important roles and experience the happiness of playing with children. In daily life, parents should also create more opportunities to play some parent-child games with other parents, so that children can participate and enjoy the fun of cooperation.
Cultivate children's interests in many ways: interest is the best teacher, and early childhood is a good opportunity to cultivate children's interests. In addition to cultivating children's interest in learning, parents can also guide their children to develop a variety of hobbies. For example, parents can often take their children to participate in some social activities and be small environmental guardians in the community. For older children, parents can also take him to develop good exercise habits such as running and swimming in the morning. Children have a wide range of interests, their self-confidence will be enhanced, and their personality will gradually become cheerful. Naturally, they don't want to stay at home all day.