Father's 18 suggestion

Recently, I read the writer Zhang's Listen to My Father, and I saw this passage: Your mother and I will only pray and expect you to live, maybe live healthily, but there is also one thing-live healthily and beautifully. If you really look healthy and beautiful day after day, we will have a further desire: you'd better be smarter, harder and smoother than other children ... If you keep looking forward to this, one day, we will definitely ask you to be more ethical, smarter, more successful and even richer and more powerful than others. Let me not be so greedy for a while, let me pause on the word health and go back to the edge of the story my grandmother told me.

I think, inevitably, people are greedy. When everyone wants to get ahead, it's a little different to think only of ordinary people.

1, that's your dream, not a child's dream.

Maybe you have many dreams that you have no chance to realize. Don't let children know them instead of you. Remember, that's your dream, not your child's dream. If you have just become a parent and still have time to realize your dreams, you should set an example for your children.

Please kneel down and talk to the child.

I like talking to her like this. For children, we should give them enough "respect". In other words, you can't treat children over 3 years old as "children", but as an equal relationship. How to achieve equality? Let's talk about height parity first.

3. When children play together, let them solve problems by themselves.

Whether they quarrel or fight, I think it's all their business Parents should never get involved in the "conflict" between their children. Children, after a fight, don't hold grudges at all, but they will play together five minutes later. Adults often don't. At the same time, adults should not use "words" to "teach" children to deal with such things. What they can do is to guide them positively.

4. Patiently play games with your child, even if you really think his game content is boring.

She likes playing hide-and-seek with me. She has no technical content. She also likes me to play with her. She has no skills at all, but I like her games and want to play with me. In fact, "parents are children's best toys", and we should all make big toys for our children.

5. Try to read a classic story with your child in turn.

When the children are older, you can try something that makes sense to you. This kind of "play" is actually a good "edification". This child is the epitome of an adult. He does what you do.

6. Take the children to the bookstore once a month for more than two hours at a time.

7. Let the child make a little effort or wait to meet his wishes, so that he can easily learn to cherish.

What children lack now is not "material conditions", but a sense of superiority. What they lack is "frustration" or exercise in a "hard" environment. Children in this environment may not know what treasure is.

8. In addition to praise, there must be punishment, but punishment education is not equal to simple stick education.

This is quite difficult. Personally, I feel that the punishment should not be too much, but it should be "hard", which means it must be effective, otherwise there will be no memory. Praise and encouragement are still suggestions, but they should not be unprincipled "saying yes", but should encourage children to do "good".

9. When he cheated, he would never compromise.

Never compromise, but when there are old people, it is much more difficult. Generally speaking, if there are only three of us at home, it will be easier, because the thoughts are more unified, and after a long time, the children will know that there is no point, which will be easier.

10, remember that the weakness of parents is that the older the child, the more we talk about his shortcomings. Please always appreciate him with the eyes of his birth.

Encourage more, be sure to encourage more, and don't say similar things (how stupid you are; Everyone else can. Why can't you? It is a great blow to people. Put yourself in others' shoes. How do you feel when someone says these things to you?

1 1. Don't be afraid of computers. There are far more people addicted to TV than to computers. Please keep children away from TV and cherish life.

Thought is more "in-depth". In fact, many things should be considered in this way and should be "channeled" rather than "blocked".

12, starting from primary school at the latest, be sure to do some housework for him.

Small housework can be done at the age of 2-3, such as cleaning toys, which children prefer to do. A feeling of "being recognized", my son always wipes around with a big mop or a small rag.

13, don't care too much about your child's grades at first, but care whether he likes school or not.

Achievement means nothing. First, I care about his "interest" and whether he likes studying in this school. As far as grades are concerned, my personal feeling is that I pay more attention to continuous progress (getting better every time) and try my best to pay attention to and reflect on the "wrong" topic.

14, don't go to the Olympics, where you are best at tossing ordinary people with the slogan of cultivating talents.

Personally, I think there are many classes in daily life, such as piano class, dance class, taekwondo class and so on. Enough is enough. There is only one happy childhood, and the children in the city have already spent their childhood (going to kindergarten at the age of 3). Growing up happily and healthily and forming a good habit are more important than anything else.

15, playing chess, swimming, riding a bike, playing upgrades, singing karaoke, these items that ordinary people like to play can be taught to him early.

16, cultivate a lifelong interest for him, whether elegant or popular, whether mass or minority, music, art, literature, writing, stamp collecting, handicrafts, these are all very good, but please don't study just for exams or further studies.

These are really important. Otherwise, if you can't "communicate" with others, you will be bored, and this boredom will accompany you for a long time. These should be cultivated from an early age.

17, let him insist on a sport that everyone can participate in. Badminton, table tennis, basketball, football and volleyball are all good.

Exercise from childhood, it is important to guide to "like" sports, physical health is the capital of revolution; Moreover, these sports have been running through our student days and are very useful.

18, love him and his father (mother) forever. He will remember and learn to love his wife and children.

Similarly, it is the same to treat the elderly. Love his grandparents, and he will remember to treat his parents well in the future.

Add a few:

1, unify thoughts, especially when the elderly at home take care of their children. Everyone's thoughts are not unified, and it is difficult for children to educate.

2. Give a man a fish, don't give him a fish, and teach him more ways to do things, instead of taking the initiative to help him do things well and guide him more, not once, but again.

Once, until it's finished.

3. Persevere and treat children with more "patience".

4. Make a promise, or don't make a promise easily.

If it doesn't fit, you can change it yourself.

Be sure to give points.