So, what should a wife do when she finds out that her husband is always having an affair with other women?
Before thinking about how to face the problem of her husband's infidelity, a wife might as well ask herself three questions before considering what to do.
1. Do you still love your husband?
Do you want to save this marriage or give it up?
3. If the husband is willing to change his mind, can he put aside his bad feelings and make up with him?
Why ask yourself these three questions first? Because, a woman should understand that when there are problems in her marriage and when her partner betrays herself, what she thinks of for the first time is not her husband's feelings and attitudes, but her own feelings and attitudes, and then she thinks about how to deal with her husband's problems. This is responsible for yourself and for the future of this marriage.
The answers to these three questions are actually hesitant for most women. Because after all, we are husband and wife, how can we get married without love and affection? Therefore, most women will choose to save their marriage after asking themselves these three questions. The reason why I want to ask myself again is actually to convince myself to understand my heart, at least when I face my husband, I won't be too wronged and too painful.
What should I do next after I know my heart?
First of all, it's definitely wrong to analyze why an emotionally derailed husband cheated, no matter what the reason, because he violated the principle of loyalty to his partner in marriage. However, if we want to save the marriage, then rational analysis is also necessary. Is it the husband's unilateral emotional "love rat", or the wife's lack of care and tenderness for her husband in marriage, or is it because the life of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar makes them lack opportunities for communication?
If the wife can calmly analyze, or the resentment of her husband's infidelity can be relatively reduced, of course, except for the first case, the husband is simply a "love rat", and other reasons are actually worth considering.
Then, find a suitable opportunity to have a calm communication with her husband. Here, it is not recommended that the wife directly pick the fault of her husband's emotional infidelity, because since she still wants to save this marriage and is ready to accept her husband's change of heart, then save face for her husband. Some things are hard to erase unless they are uncovered.
Therefore, the content of communication is not aimed at my husband's emotional infidelity, but to talk about some small things in life, my feelings about my present life, my imagination about the future (taking my family as a unit, not my own future, but my husband's future), my feelings about my husband and so on.
Finally, look at her husband's attitude and performance
I believe that when the husband hears his wife talking about these topics with him, he will realize what happened to his affair, which may have been noticed by his wife. But the wife's practice can also make the husband understand that the wife not only chose to forgive, but also saved her husband's face and the dignity of this marriage.
If the husband's attitude towards this marriage is the same as his wife's, then I believe that after seeing his wife's behavior, he will make a choice, cut off the ambiguity that should not exist, return to the family and be a good husband. Then this time is naturally a happy ending.
Of course, if the husband can't understand his wife's compromise, he still goes his own way and continues to have an affair with women outside. Then, the wife should understand that a person who cannot change his grievances and tolerance cannot give himself happiness. At this time, women should consider that long-term pain is better than short-term pain, and give up when it is time to give up.
Perhaps, after reading this, the reader will ask, isn't it the attitude of the husband in the end?
No, in the end, it depends on the husband's attitude, which is to decide whether this marriage can be saved. Before the recovery action, the wife asks herself three questions, that is, to decide whether the marriage should be recovered, so the wife's attitude takes precedence over the husband's.