The world of a "bad" man is relatively complete, and any emotional relationship is not a necessity but a choice for him. Any woman is just her playmate when she is empty and lonely. He will not value women's feelings, take care of women's trivial matters as his own responsibility, and will not appreciate women's meticulous care for him.
Your independence and self-confidence are your capital.
Whether you are the boss of a company with hundreds of people or a waiter in a restaurant, you must ensure your confidence in yourself in front of men, ensure your independent space, have completely independent economic ability, and have no shortage of career, family, friendship and dreams. You can't give up because of a man's looks. Although men often let women lean on their shoulders, men don't like women who are highly dependent and ready to rely on them at any time.
Most women think that the whole world is him before meeting a man, but after meeting him, they find that he is the whole world. A "bad" man likes to enjoy the contribution of a woman, but he doesn't like the selfless contribution of a woman, because he will feel that it is a burden imposed on him by a woman. Smart women don't regard men as their whole lives. She has her own position and opinion. When she is dissatisfied with a man, she will gently imply that she doesn't necessarily like what men like, and she can accept what men hate. "Bad" men often see her different places, and of course they are full of appreciation for her.
Let him guess what you think.
In men's minds, things that are easy to get are not good things, and of course they will not be cherished. They like to pursue what they don't have. The more enthusiastic he is, the more disgusted he is; The colder you are to him, the more you can arouse his curiosity and study the mystery of women.
If you are too attentive or eager to please bad men, you will never get the respect of bad men, which is not conducive to maintaining a long-term relationship. "Neither supercilious nor supercilious" is the secret for a smart woman to impress a man. When a bad man is interested in her, no matter how much she expects and cares about him, she will "control" herself.
If a man is a tree, women's feelings for him are like fertilizer to be applied in a bottle, and some women will sprinkle it on him without reservation until he is burned to death; Some women know when to say it and when to keep it. They will give men free space and let them fly out like kites, but the thread will always be in her hand.
You should be clever with his self-awareness.
"Bad" men usually love face and have a strong sense of self. Only when a woman makes him feel his "man" status and thinks that he is in power will he be full of joy. A clever woman will give him enough face outside, and occasionally show satisfaction with him, but at the same time she will reserve the right to spoil him, and occasionally she will be a little grumpy and angry.
For example, one weekend, I went shopping with a girlfriend. My girlfriend told me that before going out, she saw that the living room was not cleaned up, so she simply went out in a mess. Seeing that I didn't understand her for a moment, she went on to explain, "I messed up the living room to remind my husband that the living room should be cleaned up." When he gets up and sees such a scene, he will definitely clean it up. On the contrary, if I order him to do this and that, he will definitely be reluctant and think that a big man can't let a woman boss him around. Every time he takes the initiative to do housework, he is particularly satisfied with my praise. "
After shopping, my girlfriend invited me to her house for dinner. As expected, her husband kept the house spotless and mopped the floor. The girlfriend said to her three-year-old daughter, "Look how clean dad has cleaned up the house. In the future, we should pay more attention to cherish the fruits of dad's labor! " ! Is the baby hungry? Tell dad to cook delicious food! Aunt came to our house to try the delicious food cooked by dad! "She went on to say to me," My colleagues say that my husband's cooking is delicious. "Her husband was put on this tall hat and must cook well. In fact, the food cooked by my husband tastes ordinary, but it is also a kind of enjoyment to have food without helping yourself.
Hide yourself so that he can't see through it at a glance.
Stories that know the ending are always uninteresting, so are men and women. Smart women will never let themselves be seen by "bad" men in front of men. She won't let him know everything about herself. When reporting the day's life to him, she will only say 70%, leaving three points for him to ponder and imagine, and remain mysterious in front of him forever. Mystery will attract men to keep approaching and exploring.
Giving his body to him too early is asking for it.
A man will say that he appreciates an open woman, but if a woman sleeps with him easily, he will definitely lose respect for her in private and be wary of her. "Is she so casual with other men?" "Is she a reliable woman?"
Women have sex because of love, and men have sex because of sex. Once a woman has sex, she will firmly remember this man, and men can clearly distinguish between love and sex. Afterwards, men are still chic, and women care more.
Not to mention men's inner "virgin complex", at least they know that hard-won achievements need to be cherished. Smart women will not throw themselves into a "bad" man too early, but will say "no" when they know how to refuse. In this way, the man not only thinks she is beautiful, but also has enough enthusiasm to appreciate her.
Some wars can be avoided.
"Bad" men will unconsciously philander and women will unconsciously be jealous. Men don't think women are jealous because they care too much about him. They just think women are narrow-minded and suspicious. In order to keep an eye on men, women often regard other women around them as imaginary enemies, and even force themselves to compete with another woman. "What can I compare with her?" "What's so good about her?" This will only usher in men's contempt.
Many times, a woman's deterrent to another woman depends on her positioning of that woman. Smart Women When a beautiful woman walks up to her man, although she will feel threatened, she will not easily show this feeling and pretend not to see anything. She showed confidence and indifference. She knows that it is useless to cling to love. It is better to keep a man quietly. There are countless "bad" men who look at women, and of course they know how to distinguish and eliminate women. He knows which women are taking part in accidental amusement and which women are suitable for him. If you force him to defend himself all day, or report his whereabouts at any time, or even negotiate with his "lover" or fight. Then, it is not too much for men to describe women with narrow-mindedness. No man wants to clean up such a mess, especially when women are just chasing shadows. To make matters worse, this woman pushed a man to another woman without knowing it.
I don't know who first put forward the slogan "men are not bad, women don't love", which made men elated, and some even claimed to be "bad" men. Of course, I'm just talking about a "bad" man in a narrow sense, a man who makes women love, hate and feel helpless. The "bad" men in women's eyes may not necessarily do the activities of burning, killing and looting, but what they do is enough to make women deeply grieved.