Taylor, a master of psychology at Harvard University and a doctor of philosophy and organizational behavior, explored and studied a life topic that most people think is a cliche-looking at happiness from a rational perspective. Most of us think that people must do something in this life, big or small, more or less, otherwise there is no point in living, which seems to dispel the difference between people and animals. As we all know, people often only know that doing things is meaningful, but forget to pay attention to their inner feelings. How many people have asked themselves: What I do is meaningful, but am I happy? Maybe sometimes it is enough to feel meaningful, taking meaning as the purpose of life itself and equating it with happiness itself. That was not the case. Happiness is the greatest meaning of living. Otherwise, no matter how great your career is, no matter how great a thing you have done, you will not have real satisfaction just because it is meaningful. Only meaningful things that can make you happy will bring you long-term happiness.
What is happiness? How to find happiness? Dr. Taylor revealed the fact of happiness in The Method of Happiness. Everyone wants to live a happier life, but in the process of pursuing happiness, the meaning of happiness and the ultimate goal are often ignored.
Many people take the pursuit of wealth, fame and status as the goal of happiness. Many parents also instill this concept in their children. If they don't study hard, they won't make a lot of money and have no position in the future. Recently, however, I learned from the media that nine billionaires have committed suicide in China. Why do they choose an extreme way to end their lives when they are struggling for their lives and are as rich as an enemy? Dr Taylor's analysis may answer this question: "People who only pursue wealth usually can't give full play to their true potential. They are more stressed, depressed and anxious than others. In terms of physical and mental integration, they appear unhealthy and lack vitality. " Therefore, Dr. Taylor concluded: "Wealth, prestige, prestige and other goals can not be compared with happiness, and the pursuit of material or reputation is ultimately the means to pursue happiness. Although human body lives in the same material world, human spirit lives in different spiritual worlds. Some rich people live in villas and drive luxury cars, which everyone envies, but their spiritual world may be just slums. Low-level happiness is in the material world, and high-level happiness is in the spiritual world.
Dr Taylor said: "I think the definition of happiness should be the combination of happiness and meaning. Really happy people will enjoy it bit by bit in a lifestyle that they feel meaningful. This explanation is by no means limited to some moments in life, but the whole process of life. Even though they sometimes experience painful feelings, people are still happy on the whole.
What is a meaningful lifestyle? Study, participate in beneficial activities, write, draw, solve problems, volunteer, and often go home to see. Dr. Taylor suggested "repeating this meaningful activity frequently to make it a rule and habit." Only in this way can happiness and happiness accompany you. Psychologist Carl. Jung said, "Even if meaningful things are of little value, they are more valuable than meaningless things."
However, some people spend all day in Internet cafes, shopping, playing mahjong and chatting. They think that this can bring them happiness, while learning can only bring them trouble and pain. Dr. Taylor believes: "Our bad habit of combining work and hard work with pain has deeply affected our happiness in school and work." Experiencing difficulties can make us cherish happiness more and stop taking it for granted. Grateful life itself is also an important source of meaning and happiness in life. "Linking hard work with pain, leisure with happiness has actually interfered with our objective cognition of our own experiences. When we begin to turn the positive experience at work into negative experience, we are actually limiting our potential for happiness, because happiness is not only about experiencing positive emotions, but also about the experience in this process. I am deeply touched by this.
After retirement, I came to Shanghai. While enjoying my family, I also undertook the necessary housework. Due to the limitation of time, place, environment and conditions, it is unrealistic to continue painting and creating. Just to find other spiritual sustenance, I tried to write some articles and popularize some knowledge, information and methods of art appreciation to the public with my own professional knowledge of art. Do our bit to improve the cultural level of the Chinese nation. So I often work hard after my family goes to bed at night and enjoy it. Staying up late is a common practice, sometimes staying up all night. The next day, I entered the normal pace of life very early. When you encounter difficulties in writing, you will feel distressed and agitated, and sometimes you will want to back down, but with your tenacious will, you will soon get through the difficulties. Just before I retired, I was worried that indulging in heavy housework and taking care of my grandchildren would accomplish nothing and reduce my happiness. However, although it is hard now, I feel that life is more fulfilling, happier and more meaningful.
To be a happy person, we must set a clear goal that can bring happiness and meaning, and then strive to pursue it. As Dr Taylor said, faith is the language of self-realization. When we make up our minds, we have completely believed in ourselves and our abilities. Maybe this goal will succeed or fail. We should all regard it as a meaningful thing, and understand that anyone who is successful or pursues happiness must keep a positive attitude and aim at self-harmony. The so-called harmonious goal is to choose the goal actively, not attached to us, but born from the deep desire, not just to obtain material and reputation. Only in this way can we feel the joy of following life, not only enjoy life, but also be more successful.
After in-depth analysis of the two propositions of "what is happiness" and "how to realize happiness", Dr. Taylor brought us seven thoughts on happiness: loving oneself and caring for others, happiness is a tonic, transcending short-lived happiness, illuminating the world with his own light, imagining happiness, calmly living and a happy revolution-it still looks not much different from a successful forum full of slogans, but what makes Dr. Gentelle different is that he has turned the spring breeze into a happy revolution. Which areas will feel happiness disappear because of time pressure? What changes should be made to get closer to happiness? Dr. Taylor is not just talking about teaching, but using specific questions and exercises to motivate us to participate in reflection and take action, find our own answers in each question and find our own solutions in each exercise. In the same book, different people will get different life passwords.
The spiritual baptism brought to readers by The Method of Happiness is not something we can immediately experience after reading it, which requires us to calm down and think slowly in a world of cross-flow of materials. One comment on the Internet said that in the courses of "Positive Psychology" and "Leadership Psychology" taught by Dr. Taylor, "surprisingly, when students left the classroom, they all took the same steps as in spring."
Everyone has the opportunity to have happiness and happiness, and the key is how to recognize and find a suitable way of happiness. The method of happiness makes every reader reflect on his inner desire, learn to accept his past successful experience, and make you a happy master.