? I have always liked Rumi's poems, especially this sentence: "The wound is where the light comes in."

When I step into the consulting room, I hope my inner pain can be seen, because the existence of these pains makes me want to protect myself in many ways.

Counselors don't judge you right or wrong. Most of them just listen attentively to your story, explore what happened with you, and try to understand why you chose this way.

? Gradually, I will realize that in order to avoid injury, I locked the door of another person's relationship with my own hands. I thought the other person didn't want to walk into me, but in fact, I locked the door and suffered from the dark loneliness.

? And the counselor stood outside the door and approached my fragile heart. When I felt the warmth and trust he brought, I didn't hesitate to open the rusty lock and let the light through the door to illuminate the scarred place in my heart.

I remember I told my counselor, "My counseling goal is to have a happy and happy interpersonal relationship. You have removed all the parts of my personality that I don't want and carved out the perfect me. "

He pondered for a while and said softly, "I can't do it." But we can try to make this "good me" and "bad me" live in harmony. "

? Since then, my "good self" and "bad self" have started a journey of integration hand in hand.

? The "good self" I want comes from parents' feedback, social discipline and cultural dogma. What meets public expectations is "good", and what doesn't is "bad". So I can't accept my "bad" side at first, which is the part I want to escape most and have to finally choose to accept and face frankly.

? The so-called "bad" has great power. I often like to come to play with me, but I can't hide my pain. Only when I crustily skin of head came on stage did I find that only those parts of myself needed more attention and acceptance. When I give it more tolerance and love, I know my life path along the way, so I no longer feel worthless, worthless and meaningless.

Hiding under the scar-she has been trying to live in her own way.

"Self-growth" is not a slogan, it can be realized immediately by shouting, far from being so relaxed and comfortable. It is obviously more comfortable to stay where you are than to go out step by step. However, if you don't come out, you will never see how cute you are.