Adolescence, we can be disobedient, disobedient, but not bad.
Seriously, this question suddenly reminds me of my rebellious time.
My latest single cycle song is Faye Wong's "Children":
You're wearing a bright suit,
Leave my warm fortress? ,
Can't you learn from bad habits? ,
You can be naughty. .
A few touching words immediately aroused my inner turmoil.
What I can't say is always in turmoil, so for me, who has been living a very obedient life, "I can't be bad, I can't be too good", which really pokes my restless self.
I always feel that in the past 20 years, I have lived like a straight line, without any ups and downs or twists. I have been living in the expectation of many people, step by step in the standard area of "good boy" and "good student".
Sometimes I think that I am too smart, but I miss a lot of vividness and arbitrariness that should belong to a cardamom girl.
Of course, "I don't think I'm very good" does not advocate that you do something unconventional under the slogan of emancipating your personality. Is to let you regain the spontaneity of live high, not to live according to the standards in others' eyes, and not to give up the pursuit of self-choice.
This "not so good" is that we no longer simply listen to some arrangements of our parents, and we begin to stop easily compromising some things that have disputes with our parents, but to stick to our own opinions.
I have a cousin who is one year older than me and will graduate soon. When chatting with her once, she said that she wanted to stay in a first-tier city after graduation. But what my aunt and uncle mean is that they want her to go back to her hometown after graduation, find an easy job and get married in a few years so that she can settle down. For them or many parents, this is the best destination for girls.
But my cousin doesn't want to, let alone.
I wouldn't do that either.
In fact, as girls, we are sometimes bound by many established prejudices and want to fly high. Although the times have progressed, many people still hold a very traditional thought: "I don't think girls should be too motivated, and graduation is the right way."
But now many young girls in society have gradually developed their own opinions, and many of us don't want to fall into this stereotype.
We began to want to break this unwritten definition and filter out some ideas that our parents installed for us that were not suitable for us.
It's not a good idea to be disobedient.
I changed the signature on WeChat to "I won't learn badly, but I don't think it's very good". After the change, I have been secretly pleased, as happy as the first bite of cotton candy when I was a child.
My friend saw a special news and made fun of me. I responded to her and said, "This is my first step to be cool." At last, she sent me an expression of approval.
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, young people are not sensible and obedient, but in fact we just want to do what we like in a cooler way.
Our bad conduct is not the pursuit of tattoos, hair dyeing, bars and other seemingly cool things, not ignorance, but the insistence on what we like and are internal.
The friend who sent the message "Tucao" told me something about her senior year. She said that in the third year of high school, she told her father that she was going to participate in an essay contest, and his father refused her to participate on the grounds that her studies were the most important. Although she knew that the college entrance examination was approaching, she made a naughty decision, secretly signed up without telling her father, and finally got a good ranking, but she didn't get married until after the college entrance examination.
When she finished, her father faintly said, "It's getting more and more naughty", and then she smiled happily beside her.
I asked her if she did it again, would you do it again?
Of course, even if the ranking is not good, I will not regret it. She answered neatly.
I praised her without hesitation.
In fact, as a college student and a young man, most of us don't want to be mediocre. We have our own independent thoughts and desire to keep climbing, so we are unwilling to obey some stable arrangements of our parents.
Some people may say that you really don't know how to be content. Obviously, your parents have arranged a very clear and stable road for you, and you have to find another way out yourself. However, for the younger generation, we prefer to run alone, and we prefer the feeling of excitement to gentle stability. Even if we finally break our heads, we can clean up and come back.
Because we deserve the best and can bear the worst.
"I am graceful, carefree and fearless" is a sentence in Xi Murong's Lotus Heart? Her exact words were: "I am slim, I am not worried or afraid." ?
I wrote this sentence in my diary, because I especially like the indifferent confidence and fearlessness revealed by this sentence.
I am not very good, and I do not do very good things in the right range. I am fearless.
As a matter of fact, I appreciate Leah Dou's misconduct. At first, my first impression of her was that she was different from many people, but after getting to know her, I realized that this 20-year-old girl was just doing what she liked in a misbehaving way.
She is not bad at learning, but she is not very good either. I don't think she lived up to Faye Wong's expectations of children.
I saw an interview with her online, and she said, "It seems silly to me to rebel for the sake of rebellion."
Yes, we won't be too lazy to be naughty because of being bad. We just don't want to indulge in our own likes because of some forms.
We won't be bad, we just want to be naughty.
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