"A woman without talent is virtue." Our ancestors didn't ask too much of women, but were more bound, mainly in quality: daughters should listen to their fathers and brothers, husbands and sons when they get married, and they should honor their parents-in-law to do housework. As for social responsibility, they don't have to bear it, even if the sky falls, men have to bear it. In contrast, men are much more tired. The phrase "ruling the country and leveling the world" sums up what a man needs to struggle for in his life. At that time, no one would say, "It's hard to be a woman, but it's even harder to be a celebrity", although in fact, women at that time were not easy either.
But now everything has changed. After the feminist movement was introduced into China, it really flourished and developed more thoroughly than any other country. It seems that women's social consciousness was suddenly awakened, and they took the initiative to put forward the slogan "Women hold up half the sky". Moreover, as if this is not enough, they must be better than men everywhere and do everything better than men. On the contrary, men relaxed, and all the housework was "delegated" to their wives, while half of the tasks of governing the country and calming the world were rushed to do, and the rest seemed to be just how to eat, drink and be merry. Therefore, there is a strange phenomenon of "Yin flourishes while Yang declines" in China, which is particularly obvious in the sports world: women's football can dominate the world, but men's football can't even rush out of Asia; Women's table tennis wins the championship, and men's table tennis always makes people sweat; Badminton, volleyball, basketball, softball, hockey and so on, women's level is higher than men's. It stands to reason that men live easily enough, so you shouldn't tell them when you take advantage, should you? Don't! Men want to improve their quality of life. When their wives work hard for the country and family like "yellow-faced women", they begin to ask women to be feminine and behave like ladies (this voice seems to be very high recently). If your wife is not competent, you can go to bars and nightclubs and find a young lady or a female secretary instead, so extramarital affairs and divorce have become hot topics. Women began to feel wronged: What's the matter? Am I not virtuous enough? What did I do wrong?
The TV series "Hand in Hand" was once a hit. The heroine in the play wants talent and looks, but in order to be busy with housework and take care of children, she unconsciously gives up her major and becomes trivial. Husband and she lost the same language and fell in love with someone else. And "Desire", which is definitely a classic modern story of Qin Xianglian and Chen Shimei, is a social problem that China people have been paying attention to for thousands of years. The daughter-in-law here is a typical hard-working and hard-working wife. My parents-in-law have nothing to say to her, but they are furious with her son. Many people will find that man, list a series of advantages of his wife, and finally ask, "What's wrong with her? What's wrong with you?" Under normal circumstances, the men who are asked are dumbfounded and speechless, and they can only feel that they are an asshole. The hero in A Sigh seems to be one of them.
Speaking of which, some people may complain for women and think that men are born bastards, but who can blame this? Only blame the woman herself: you are too virtuous and completely lost yourself. It can be said that so many things like extramarital affairs happen in society now, which are women's own habits towards men. Moreover, they often fail to see the real reason for the change of marriage. Women often read such stories for only one reason. They can't compare with other women: Time and tide wait for no man, and they are no longer young and beautiful.
So, is it caused by age? Is all this just because women are no longer young and beautiful when they reach middle age?
Of course not.
Ruoye believes that the main reason is that middle-aged women are often no longer amorous feelings. No matter how beautiful a woman is, she will get old one day, and no matter how great her love is, it will be smoothed away by the years. If you want to maintain love for a long time, you still have to rely on such "amorous feelings", that is, the personal charm of women. Now there is a saying that "plain is true", and living at home is daily necessities. I beg to differ. Experience without passion is life 100 years.
If women in China want to be truly liberated, they must respect themselves and find themselves again. There is a saying: "Middle-aged men are treasures and middle-aged women are grass". Why is this statement popular, not only accepted by men, but also considered true by women? Standing at 30, not confused at 40 only applies to men. By the time he was not confused, he had matured through women and family. At this time, almost all good things in society are within reach. This pride in his heart makes him feel like a treasure. And women think that the pillar of life is youth, which is appearance. Without this, she demeans herself. At this time, she is not puzzled, but confused. Joye advised women not to forget that appearance is not the whole of women's life. If anyone thinks that, they will suffer a bitter pill.
So what should a woman do?
Ruoye thinks that women should pay attention to the cultivation of their own temperament and knowledge, and don't give up their career completely for the sake of family. Family is a family of two people, and children are children of two people. Don't think that if you sacrifice your time and energy to take care of everything for him, he will be grateful to you for a lifetime. A woman should spend more time on herself and enjoy all the fun life gives her, then she will exude irresistible charm.
First of all, women should be like women and don't compare everything with men. Moving gas tanks, moving honeycomb briquettes and other things are left to men. Few men like women who eat meat and drink alcohol. I remembered the story of the cow and the frog: Mother Frog summoned up her courage and asked the little frog, "Is the cow as big as me?" The little frog replied; "Don't go up, or your stomach will burst!" This female frog is so stupid! She shouldn't be bigger than the cow, she should be smaller than the cow. What is femininity? Generally speaking, women's taste in men's minds means that women should send some hair at the right time, so as to be pleasing. It means to express love and tenderness to the opposite sex or elders in order to win the favor of the other party. Educated women talk to the opposite sex with a little coquetry and a measured tone, which is a kind of female courtesy. When a woman asks a man for help in a delicate way (of course, she can't pretend to be disgusting _), which man won't be a gentleman?
Secondly, a woman can be ugly (not her fault), but she must love beauty and always tidy up, so as to please herself. Women should often go to beauty salons and fashion shops, not mahjong rooms and gas stations. There is a saying that beauty is dying. If as a woman, Ruoye thinks it is worthwhile to do that.
Of course, it is men who ask women to be ladies, and it should be their bounden duty to help women achieve this goal. Men in China often turn a blind eye to the old, the weak, the sick and the disabled. Every time they crowded the bus, the strong men pushed the women aside. And women have to go to work, support their families, and are afraid of being late. In this case, do you make a woman behave like a lady with a clear conscience?
Look at a foreign joke. Actually, strictly speaking, it's not a joke, because I don't think it's that funny. It is said that a blonde was so nervous when she first learned to drive that she was afraid to drive when she saw the traffic lights change color several times at the crossroads. Then a policeman came up and asked politely, "Miss, have you got your favorite color?"
What China men lack is this real gentlemanly demeanor.
How is a lady tempered? No gentleman, no lady.