Such people talk about self-discipline, which is particularly worth seeing.
As for self-discipline, the author thinks that self-discipline is just a tool, a tool to achieve life goals. Self-discipline is not the ultimate goal. As a tool, as long as you know it, understand it, use it and master it, you can make the tool serve your wonderful life.
The author divides self-discipline into five systems, namely, motivation system (cognitive breakthrough), action system (action breaking ice), achievement system (ending breaking ice), balance system (dynamic balance) and growth system (continuous evolution).
The first system, the dynamic system, the author suggests writing his own life basic law from four aspects: life mission, life goal, life principle and life strategy. After a whole period of special meditation, write down the basic laws of life and provide motivation and internal drive for self-discipline. Think about it. If you died at the age of 80 and had the opportunity to go back decades and start over, how would you restart your life? This system is very important, it is a way of self-discipline, and the rest can only be regarded as self-discipline
The second system, action system, the author puts forward ORK method. O is an object, a goal. Rk is the key result, the key result. What work do you have to do in order to complete O? In other words, as long as you complete KR, you will definitely reach O. In my opinion, this is an upgraded version of goal decomposition. I have heard the book okr Work Law in Fandeng Reading Club before, but I only stayed at the stage of knowing such a term for okr, because I didn't study it carefully and didn't pay special attention to any cases. And by looking at the detailed case of Uncle K, let me pay attention to this method again.
Second, full of passion. For example, I want to be a supermodel instead of losing weight. In short, I want to describe your goal with words that will make your blood boil.
Third, it is challenging. In this respect, I think it should be similar to that advocated in Flow. The goal set should not be too difficult or too simple. Just stand on tiptoe and work hard to achieve it.
Secondly, the setting of key results is also necessary!
Heart. We must grasp two key words. Only in this way can we be targeted and spend our time and energy on the most important and most effective places. The setting of key scores needs to be studied, and every time okr needs to study hard. This reminds me of what Li Xiaolai said. If you want to do something, first, see if anyone has done it. Secondly, study how they made it. If you use it here, it can become, when you set OKR, you can see who did it and how it was done. In the book, the author teaches you how to set okr: the first step is to find out what 108 wants to achieve most. Second, find out the key results corresponding to the target. Third, the task is decomposed and executed. Fourth, make a weekly review and review regularly.
I have been writing for nearly a year, and many of them have become a mere formality. The author summed up the essence of the resumption in four words: finding fault and praising. This tells us that the resumption is not only a record, but also a reflection and accumulation of experience. At the same time, we should also summarize the template of accumulating some things, or call it a routine. This routine is a framework, a process, an experience, a mode of thinking, and an artifact that can be directly used when encountering similar problems to simplify complex things.
In addition, the tomato clock working method mentioned in time management should be practiced in the future. I have heard this term many times, but I have never practiced it. I'll try next week.
The third system, achievement system. The author introduces this system from three aspects: positive feedback, concentration and micro-habit.
Positive feedback: the importance and psychological basis of positive feedback are no longer strange to many people, but how to actively design and make positive feedback available to us? The author lists four steps.
First, set quantifiable key results. The key words here can be quantified.
Second, set quantitative achievement milestones.
Third, establish an incentive mechanism.
Fourth, stick to tracking and continue to resume trading.
In the process of doing these four points, at the same time, we should pay attention to believing in the power of holding a group and repay it with imagination.
So many descriptions are actually for cognitive positive feedback. If you don't want to bother to know why, you can directly apply the personal performance feedback system template. This template is the most important dry goods in this chapter.
Focus: this is also a cliche. The way is to keep mindfulness, be stingy with cognition and reduce choices. Concentration is not always available, but it can be consumed, so do what needs concentration most at the best time.
Micro-habit: I have heard the book Control Habits before. Remember four tips for forming good habits: obvious, irresistible, simple and enjoyable. But the operability is not strong. The author of this book directly lists eight steps to apply micro-habits to our lives: first, choose a micro-habit.
Second, tap the intrinsic value of micro-habits.
Third, put micro-habits on the agenda.
Fourth, establish a return mechanism.
Fifth, record and track the completion.
Sixth, micro-start and overfulfil.
Seventh, obey the arrangement, please have high expectations.
Eighth, pay attention to the micro-habit development logo.
What touches me most is that habits should be small. For example, to stay healthy, start with doing sit-ups every day. Yes, not much, just one. According to the principle of micro-habit, it is much easier to implement the "battle years" plan I made. I believe it won't be long before I have such a good habit and gradually trigger other chain reactions.
The fourth system: the balance system. First, balance is the balance of life, body, intelligence, emotion and wealth. The second equilibrium state should be dynamic equilibrium. Balance does not require that autumn colors should be divided at all times. Second, the whole system can have different emphases in a certain period, but it seems to be balanced in a certain period. Third, balance is a three-dimensional balance of thinking, learning and action. Thinking determines cognition, cognition determines action, action determines result, and result determines fate.
This chapter also mentioned energy management, which is divided into physical energy, emotional energy, thinking energy and spiritual energy.
The fifth system: growth system. Three modes of thinking, cross-border thinking, borrowing thinking and potential thinking. Be as close as possible to the person you want to be, even if it's only physical distance. Take the initiative to link and find a life coach. Benchmark the person you want to be, see how he thinks and chooses, then analyze the logic and reasons behind it, and in turn examine whether you need to adjust.
Writing here, it suddenly occurred to me that in fact, benchmarking cattle should not be just a slogan, but should form a routine and quantify.
The growth system requires lifelong learning and requires people to constantly adjust their growth with a modest, open and positive attitude.
This book brings out a good book:
Miracles of mindfulness, micro-habits, the power of habits, strange life, roads that few people take, principles, living the meaning of life, living methods, anti-vulnerability, thinking skills, strong work, gentle life, everything can be done just because there is no time, how to measure your life.
The wonderful power brought by this book (TV series):
This is us, fighting, rich brother and poor brother.
A good case or sentence in this book:
1, micro-habit, the extraordinary transformation caused by the author's push-up every day.
Teacher Li Xiaolai said: You can write the first message today and the second message tomorrow. You can write one sentence today, two sentences tomorrow, and finally become a paragraph, an article and so on. Everyone's growth is accumulated bit by bit.
Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in 10.
A good tool or mode of thinking for this book:
1. Reply: Find fault+like it.
2.Okr rules
3. pomodoro technique
4. The importance of convention
5. Achievement milestone design template
6 automatic driving
Reflections on this book
It is really important to study with a positive, open and practical attitude. I remember the first time I read this book, I read it quickly and glanced at it. Because I had learned a lot before, I just flipped through it. It was not until I read it for the second time to write notes that I realized that this book was worth practicing seriously. Yes, yes, many things in the book are not new, but have you practiced this knowledge and put it into action? The simplest example is that many places are clamoring for role models, mixing circles, benchmarking cattle, getting close to cattle and becoming cattle. Are these slogans realized in How to Benchmark? It is useless to know too much truth without practicing, which will only make people blindly confident or doubt the usefulness of reading.
About dry goods: I finally understand why I have to talk so much and give so many examples instead of serving dry goods directly. The human brain likes stories and knows why. First what, then why, then how. How about dry goods? More than half a year ago, I was exposed to the knowledge of dry goods such as Tik Tok powder absorption method, and my husband also said that this was a slogan. But because there are no stories and friends around me have nothing to do, they have no interest and motivation to learn. Until recently, some people around me really started Tik Tok, just thinking, hey, good, I can do it myself. This is enough to show that the sensibility of the brain is far greater than rationality. I can think so now. Before writing dry goods, there were so many words just to satisfy the sensibility of the brain and mobilize the emotional brain, and then open dry goods. This has caused another part of the practice of psychological knowledge, how to mobilize the emotional brain? How to be a better elephant rider?
This book is very operable. To this end, I decided to set my own settings according to the author's various templates:
1, write the basic law of life.
Mission in life: According to the advantages of Geplo paid some time ago, combined with the actual situation, it is tentatively defined as: combining study with travel, combining play with learning, influencing more children, including sons, having a beautiful childhood, better family education and more optimistic and happy personality.
Life goals:
Health: Good health (I don't feel pain when I am old, I can climb Mount Tai, and I am in good spirits. Like 83-year-old Mr Zhong Nanshan, I can still contribute to the society. Well-proportioned, excellent temperament, comparable to Tamia Liu, Angie Chiu, wear anything good-looking, no swimming ring. Good skin, good state, good energy, can run a marathon, beautiful)
Intelligence: cognition is constantly expanding and thinking is constantly upgrading. Clear thinking, insight, intelligence, humor, philosophy, eloquence, eloquence. High EQ makes people comfortable.
Emotion: love: correctly handle the relationship between husband and wife, communicate nonviolent, reduce the desire for control, and don't try to change others.
Affection: the son is educated and accompanied, balancing the degree of doting and picky, not a bad reviewer.
Friendship: three or five friends, till death do us part.
Wealth: financial freedom. Living a life with a nanny, a small garden, traveling everywhere and other American dramas.
The meaning of life: money is not the only thing. There is love. Valuable. Mindfulness. Reduce desire. Satisfaction is an eternal feast.
Life principle: lifelong learning, initiative, kindness to others, gentleness and friendliness, win-win, extreme altruism and contentment.
Life strategy:
Text: For details, please refer to the "Struggle Years" plan.
Intelligence: read books, communicate with experts, watch movies, think more, output and input. Different views on Hauser. Keep a diary every week. Practice deliberately. Tik Tok live.
Emotion: high-quality companionship. Create an atmosphere and visit more.
Wealth: bookkeeping, fixed investment, open source, etc.
Example: DW, Sister W, Peach, Sister ZJ, KXm, LJW, etc.
OKR template:
This week's resumption:
P 1
P2
P3
(template, see this week's resumption) goal (to be a thin and beautiful fairy)
KR 1: Weight loss 10 kg
KR2: Get enough sleep for 7 hours every day, five days a week.
KR3: Eat regularly, be nutritious, chew slowly, be seven or eight full, and don't eat junk food five days a week.
KR4: Exercise five days a week, and mask twice a week.
Next week's plan: this month's plan:
Personal achievement feedback system:
O: Become a thin and beautiful little fairy.
KR2: Get enough sleep for 7 hours every day, five days a week.
KR3: Eat regularly, be nutritious, chew slowly, be seven or eight full, and don't eat junk food five days a week.
KR4: Exercise five days a week, and mask twice a week.
KR Milestone 1 Award Milestone 2 Award Award
KR 1 thin 4 kg Huawei bracelet to buy skirts for myopia.
KR2 insists on watching TV one afternoon a week and going out to play 1 day.
KR3 insists on rewarding himself with yogurt and nut snacks for a week and taking personal photos.
KR4 insists on weighing contact lenses once a week, changing hair style and laser freckle removing 8.