Those under the age of 8 will follow their mothers with better economic conditions and those with similar economic conditions (up and down 30%).

If you are over 8 years old, respect your child's own opinions.

The reason is that children under the age of 8 are generally raised by their parents, and the other party pays the maintenance fee. Since it is the choice of adults, from the perspective of adults, the importance of economic conditions for children's growth is self-evident. Extreme situations are not discussed here. If the economic conditions are not much different and the mother is fighting for custody, then follow her, because young children have close natural ties with their mothers, children are naturally dependent on their mothers, and mothers can better take care of their physical and mental growth because of women's meticulous and patient characteristics. Let's be realistic. If you have a stepmother, you have a stepfather. If your mother is a stepfather, you can't do anything. . .

For children over 8 years old, the judge will fully respect their own opinions in divorce proceedings. If the husband and wife agree to divorce, it should also be the most important to advise their children to ensure their growth.

Then there are some other problems of husband and wife, such as remarriage plan, housing location, job nature and so on. , need comprehensive consideration.

Divorce between husband and wife means the separation of family of origin for * * * and children. Even if the parent-child relationship between mother and father is very good, children will still feel different. Therefore, when a husband and wife divorce, don't be busy fighting and dividing property. Children's future arrangements, especially underage children, need two people to think carefully together.

Very helpless and heavy topic, here I just want to say an old saying: I would rather talk to a beggar's mother than a rich father!

Generally, it is more with the father, because children are more likely to take the father's surname. When you grow up, you can reason with your father. If you marry your mother, it will be unnatural and will affect your child's growth.

Who is a divorced child better with than with his mother? It is best not to get divorced. Parents' divorce is a kind of harm to children. Let's think about what is good for separation, mutual understanding and tolerance, and never divorce.

Parents divorced, poor children, can only choose one side! What about parents' divorce, children and mothers? Or with my father? Let me answer this question! Welcome attention!

Who is the child with? Really tangled! No father, no mother, no father, no mother I have no choice but to talk to one person! Who is the child good with? That should be judged according to the specific situation. Look at my analysis of who the child is with!

First, girls are better than fathers! When parents divorce, both parties have to remarry. If it's a girl, I think it's better to be with my father! Why? The mother remarried and the daughter was arranged beside her stepfather. How uneasy! In society, stepfathers rape stepdaughters from time to time! Although some stepmother is not good for stepson! That's just some difficulties in life! The baby's fine!

Second, boys with young children or docile children are better off following their mothers! Children are young, follow their mothers who need careful care, and boys who are trained warmly follow their mothers! This is not the godfather's fault! An overbearing boy, no fucking force can resist him! This kind of boy might as well follow his father and let his father frame him!

Third, if the child is older, she can follow whoever she wants! When the child grows up and she has her own ideas, her (his) feelings for her parents will be different. Follow whoever the child chooses!

No matter who the child is with! Parents are always the parents of their children, and whether they have children or not has the responsibility to raise them! Parents should let their children know that divorce is just a difference between parents, not children! For parents who have not followed, alimony should be provided in time! Follow your parents, educate your children well, and accept visits from parents who don't follow! Divorced parents are more concerned about their children and try to reduce their injuries! What's my answer? If you have different opinions, please leave your opinions in the comments section!

Hello. Lawyer Chen Qun will answer your questions, hoping to help you.

You will ask:

If the father is divorced, it is better for the children to follow the father or the mother. Why?

For children, it is best to have both parents.

If the divorce is confirmed and irreversible, then the child and the father or mother should look at the specific situation.

If there are multiple children, it is basically one parent.

The basic principle is that boys and fathers, girls and mothers are just the arrangement of Rainbow Bao Qiang's divorce.

If there is only one child and the child is under three years old, there is a clear legal basis with the mother in principle.

Because young children need careful and thoughtful care from their mothers. Such a small child has a strong attachment to his mother.

If it is a child over 10 years old, the judge will ask the child's opinion and ask him if he wants to be with his father or his mother.

The judge will also consider the financial situation, cultural status, living conditions and housing conditions of the father and mother, as well as who the child used to live with, especially grandparents or grandparents, which should be referred to.

If one of the parents has bad habits and abuses the child, the judge will consider not giving him custody.

Hello, friend, scholars will answer for you.

Most divorced couples around me have daughters living with their fathers. As for who to follow, it depends on the daughter's wishes and other factors.

First, it depends on who the daughter likes and who she is closer to.

Sometimes, it is not for her parents to decide who a daughter will learn from, but for her to make a choice. In the family, the daughter always has a favorite person, whether it's her father or mother, who she will choose as long as she thinks it's good to follow.

Second, with the party with good material conditions, the daughter suffers less.

From a realistic point of view, a daughter will suffer less and suffer less if she follows the side with good economic conditions. It is not a good thing for a child to suffer from hardship since childhood, and her parents don't want to see their daughter suffer. In order to have a relatively comfortable living environment for children, it is best to let the party with good economic conditions raise them.

Third, who gives her daughter more company?

When parents divorce, the children suffer the most. At this time, she needs constant companionship to help her with psychological enlightenment. If you are busy working to make money every day and don't care about your daughter's mental health, she will be unhappy all day.

Fourthly, we should create conditions for our daughter to receive a good education.

Don't let children lose at the starting line, which is the slogan that parents have been shouting for many years. Since you have been shouting for so many years, you have to act. Provide a good educational environment for my daughter from the beginning, and when she grows up, she will naturally be closer to success.

In fact, no matter who we are with, our final result is for the good of our daughter. So you must go through many measures before choosing.

I think since the husband and wife are divorced, it is very important who the child is with, not who can't have children. I believe that as parents, everyone loves their children very much. After all, children still feel sorry for themselves.

As for who the daughter is with, those who meet the following conditions can raise children and will have a good development in the future.

One: Have a stable job with a good salary.

Children spend a lot of money, such as going to school, eating snacks and attending interest classes, which must be backed by enough money. If their own lives are difficult, there is no need to drag their children to suffer together and let them lose at the starting line.

Two: The elderly are healthy and have time to help with the children.

I can't take my children to work, and I'm not at ease to give them to the nanny. Therefore, you will easily have an old man to take care of your children, and your children will grow up healthily and happily.

Three: Have hobbies.

As the saying goes, the child is the teacher's first teacher, and his words and deeds will affect the child. Therefore, parents have some hobbies, and children will be edified. In the future, we can focus on cultivating interest, which is also good for children's development.

Four: You can spend a lot of time with your children.

There is a good saying, spend more time with children when they need company most, accompany them to some entertainment places to increase their social circle, or take a long vacation and go to some tourist attractions to broaden their horizons.

In my opinion, it is harmful to the growth of children to try not to divorce emotionally unless absolutely necessary.

Be nice to your father. The question is whether your father is a responsible person. With my mother, I may take care of you more in my life.

After divorce, if the husband and wife have two children, they can each get one. If there is only one child, should it belong to the mother or the father? Let me tell you in detail. \r

First of all, look at this mom and dad. Who is more like a reliable person? Generally speaking, if the mother is reliable, the child should belong to the mother. After all, maternal love is the greatest love in the world. Generally speaking, if a child lacks maternal love, he will feel that the child is pitiful, but the father loves it. It seems too far away from maternal love. \r

If it is the kind of mother who only knows painting and dressing up, has a bad style, never cares about her family and is out of tune, and her father is just a father who just wants to live a good life, in this case, the mother often thinks her father is timid and useless. If they get divorced, the child must follow her father, so that she can have a hot meal with her father and receive some good education! \r

If both parties insist on having children after divorce, they can ask for their opinions. Who does he (she) prefer to be with, the warm embrace of his mother or the care of his father? \r

Also, if one of them is obviously in poor health, it is better for the child to belong to the healthier one. After all, raising children is a big project that lasts for a long time. Without a healthy body, I'm afraid it's hard to be competent. \r

You can do the same. Whoever has good economic conditions will have children. After all, today's children, from kindergarten to high school, have participated in extracurricular remedial classes and interest classes since childhood. Needless to say, abacus, swimming, all kinds of ball games, calligraphy, painting, dancing, even Go, robotics, piano and other musical instruments, Taekwondo, martial arts and so on. If the economic conditions are not good, how can they afford this expensive expense? \r

Children belong to the more practical kind of love for children. \r

For the sake of children, the children will belong to whichever side can give them a better future. \r

I really want to say that for the sake of children, it is best not to divorce.