I went to a wedding reception with some colleagues the other day. Teacher Wang at the same table smiled and said, "Don't clip it, the plates are full, which makes the aunts who have no daughters jealous ..." We didn't notice that her two daughters had been putting vegetables on her plates. We all praised our two children: "These two girls are really sensible. They are really mom's little cotton-padded jackets!" " "The other two colleagues also took their daughters. Two children were infected when we praised two girls. They not only help their mother, but also help the three of us who have no children. Out of reach, they ran to us and affectionately shouted "Aunt XX". They praised the two children for being sensible when picking vegetables. The two little girls became more and more enthusiastic, and soon our plates were full of food. Two noisy little girls before meals seem to have grown up a lot in the process of picking vegetables, and they are very sensible throughout the meal!
A few days ago, the physical education committee member of our class told me, "Teacher, when running exercises between classes, only a few people in the front row shouted slogans, and many people in the back didn't shout slogans ..." The next day, the Physical Education Commission told me, "Boys shouted slogans, but girls hardly shouted slogans." In the past, I would punish them for running two laps after running. I remember last semester, I also punished girls for running a few laps after aerobics and shouting slogans while running. But every time the penalty is finished, the effect is not obvious. Even if I follow, I won't shout slogans too loudly.
This time, I decided to change the way. I have time to practice these two days. Just before I started running, I said to the girls in my class, "Boys shout slogans loudly. Today, I will see how girls shout. Many girls can shout in the classroom to see if they can be used in running practice. " I run and exercise with them. Every time I shout a slogan, I will say, "Great progress has been made. It seems that girls are still good. " I saw someone who didn't open his mouth, so I called his name and said, "XXX, you didn't open your mouth and shout slogans just now!" " "Don't say anything else. I will also say: "The girl in front shouted very well, come on! """Listen to the boys shouting so loudly, we girls are as good as them! Come on! "See a little progress, to praise. The more slogans in the class, the better. These days, because the slogan is well shouted, the class gets extra points! This wonderful result is unexpected! It seems that praise effect is much stronger than punishment effect!
There is a chubby girl in the class who is usually lazy. When you don't exercise, you often borrow shoelaces and run less for one or two laps. Even if I fuck, she will fall behind several times. Yesterday, she told me that she had a stomachache. I thought she was faking it, so I didn't give her a holiday. As a result, she didn't fall behind once during the running exercise yesterday. After running, I praised her in time in class. I didn't ask for leave or fall behind in running today. During the running, I praised her in time: "Look at XXX, I haven't fallen behind in these two days, and I have made great progress!" " She smiled shyly. Another chubby girl next to her whispered, "I didn't fall behind either!" " "I patted her on the shoulder with a smile and said," You have never been left behind! "Look, how eager the students are for the teacher's praise!
When praising them, they are strengthening their good behavior; When punishing them, they cling to their problems. We adults still want to be affirmed and praised by others, and we don't want others to be obsessed with our own problems! Aren't children at home and school the same as us? Then let's praise our children more and make them all good children!