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The slogan of gentleman education was first put forward by John Locke, a famous British political thinker, philosopher and educational thinker in the17th century. John Locke was once known as "an educator who cultivated gentlemen and ladies". He advocates training young people into gentlemen who are physically strong, knowledgeable, brilliant, elegant and good at handling all kinds of affairs. From today's point of view, this idea has developed into an elegant culture, a kind of self-restraint.

What is gentlemanly demeanor?

Be cautious in everything, behave appropriately and avoid possible suspicion, sadness and resentment. He pays attention to friends around him, treats shy people kindly, treats strangers gently and treats ridiculous people kindly. When talking with people, he seldom shows off, but it doesn't make people feel bored. He never shows off himself, never defends himself against others, and doesn't want to listen to rumors; He will carefully tell his goals to those who interfere with him; He will understand everything around him out of goodwill, especially when arguing, never use despicable means or sophistry, never use insulting or fierce words, and never attack others by innuendo; He likes others and is liked by others, so he will naturally gain a lot after giving them away for free.

So, what is a lady's temperament in the modern sense?

? A lady should not only have the unique charm of women, but also pay attention to her own wisdom. The ideal pursuit of modern women should be both external beauty and internal beauty. In this way, even if youth is far away, it can still attract all beings. Therefore, pure ladylike temperament comes from her intellectual accomplishment. This is the embodiment of natural beauty and the natural expression of noble life temperament. Without wisdom, a woman's virtue becomes melodramatic, not to mention charming. Some people have concluded that a lady should be five points gentle and charming, three points elegant, and two points of wisdom are indispensable.

? Temperament beauty is first manifested in a rich spiritual life and a broad inner world, which mainly refers to a lofty ideal pursuit. Because ideals are the driving force and goal of life, without the pursuit of ideals, emptiness and poverty in the heart, it is impossible to breed temperament beauty.

? Only by constantly learning all kinds of knowledge, striving to enrich ourselves and broaden our horizons can we remain smart, not outdated, not tacky, good at expressing, full of humor and passion, infectious and creative. When you have these conditions, you will stand out in social situations.

-Roses in the hollow valley