Xueba, like his code name, is the overlord in learning. He is a person who often helps others. Although he often wants to refuse, he often can't stand others' soft grinding and hard foam, and often gives in calmly under the pitiful pleading or the attack of sugar-coated shells. There is a slogan circulating among students, which is called "Look for a schoolmaster if you have difficulties". In the past four years, he has helped students copy notes and summarized countless review materials. When it comes to homework, his phone calls, which have been silent for years, will become extremely busy. At the time of the final exam every year, his seat has also become the hottest gold business circle in real estate. He silently dedicated light and heat and never asked for anything in return. Later, I graduated from Xueba, thinking that I no longer have to enjoy the treatment of holding the moon every time I go to the exam. Some people are sad and some are happy.
I thought this story could finally come to an end, but Brother Kun, who failed in his graduation thesis, came to me, hoping that Xueba could help him sort out a qualified graduation thesis within two days. At this point, anxious to return, a schoolmaster, was so frustrated that he wanted to go home non-stop. Brother Kun tried his best to promise that if Xueba helped him pass the thesis, he would drive Xueba to high-speed railway station on the day Xueba left. Xueba looked at several big bags of luggage and thought that some of them were coming, so he agreed.
In the next two days, Xueba helped Brother Kun to seriously revise his thesis, and I felt very motivated when I thought that someone had helped him send that big bag of luggage. Brother Kun comes to care about Xueba from time to time and pays attention to the progress. Finally, with the help of Xueba, the paper passed. Brother Kun drove out happily and forgot the agreement with Xueba. Xueba can't help complaining to us, and we don't know how to evaluate it. Finally, we have to come to a conclusion: you are too accommodating.
In fact, when I said the adjective "easy to talk", I didn't feel anything at first, and even thought it was a compliment. Because I often heard a saying when I was a child, this person is particularly difficult to talk, and it is best not to provoke her. The implication is that this person is fierce and not easy to mess with. So the adjective "easy to talk" seems to be a description of a person who is kind and easy to get along with, which sounds like a compliment.
Xueba was forced to ask for help because he looked easy to talk to, and then stood up easily. At first, I was disgusted with learning bullying. Later, I found that the world is bullying and afraid of hard work, and no one can change this phenomenon. Easy is to lose money, easy is to lie innocent and be shot. We must change ourselves. When we are "difficult to talk", we can be overbearing and free. In short, it seems that "easy to talk" is like a word to describe others' cowardice and bullying.
In fact, people who are easy to talk or difficult to talk are generally people who know how to respect. They are modest, cautious in words and deeds, and try not to cause trouble to others. It's just that easy-going people are used to being kind to others and helping others. Many "difficult-to-talk" people are unwilling to help and are afraid of screwing things up. Easy-to-talk people often help others, sometimes beyond their ability, and sometimes suffer a little loss and care more about other people's opinions. Difficult people know how to refuse and protect themselves, and always put their feelings first.
In fact, being easy to talk and not being easy to talk are not two kinds of equal relations that can be completely separated. Take myself for example, sometimes I am an easy-going person, and sometimes I become difficult to talk. In fact, this seemingly simple question has nothing to do with the most complicated friendship. How I treat you, whether it is easy or not, actually depends entirely on your position in my heart.
In Nirvana in Fire, Xiao said to Mei, "I treat you with this heart because I want to. If we can exchange this for the same sincerity, it is certainly gratifying. If not, I have nothing to regret. "
Many things in this world are like this, which are related to friendship, and there is no clear reason.
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