Yesterday, my aunt called to ask when she would go home so that she could prepare meals. Aunt said she couldn't come back. She was afraid that the epidemic would come back and she couldn't go home again. She turned back to the house. In my opinion, I don't care if my aunt can go back to that shabby house in a remote town in Yunnan.
"Drunk can literally call names? Can you just hit people? "
My aunt fiercely accused the man on the other end of the phone: she was drunk every day, and when she was drunk, she would beat and scold her, and she was always awake.
Aunt and uncle work in the same hospital. Aunt is in the logistics department. He cooks in the canteen. We have been together all day, and we can meet at any time, but we have always suspected that menstruation has someone outside. We use this as an excuse to quarrel every once in a while, and the family is not peaceful for a day.
It is not hard to imagine how difficult it is for menstruation to be alone in Yunnan.
The last time I saw menstruation was before the Spring Festival this year. Their family of four is not far away. Wan Li came to his parents' house for the Spring Festival.
Aunt's appearance hasn't changed much. She has the same oval face as her mother, but her skin color has turned sallow, and her heavy eyebrows have lost their old look. Her hairline is very high, revealing a broad forehead, and a few strands of white hair can be faintly seen. Dressed up as a typical simple peasant woman, with two little girls. With a big face and a ponytail, she looks like my aunt when I was a child. Small eyes followed her, big and bright, full of air.
Aunt ran to Yunnan when I was very young. I haven't seen you for more than ten years, but I recognized you at a glance. She has lost weight, her slender hands are full of vicissitudes, and she has lost her ruddy complexion more than ten years ago. My aunt has more wrinkles than my old mother. I thought it was the hard years that smoothed her young and rebellious heart, not her uncle's frequent domestic violence.
That day, my uncle was wearing a black leather coat, an old cotton hat with two braids and a big bag in his hand. It is also a typical peasant worker dress. The Chinese character face, tall and burly, looks like an honest man with a volume; This is my first impression of my little uncle. He is a cook and came to my house to show off his cooking the next day. Well, it's just the level of Sacido. In my taste, it's not even a home-cooked dish.
How can it be a home-cooked dish without the taste of home?
Due to the sudden outbreak of the epidemic, my aunt's family of four was forced to live in my house for more than a month, so every meal in my house was at least four dishes and one soup, which was very lively. I also noticed that this little uncle drinks two or two glasses of wine almost every meal. In just one month, he drank all the wine at home by himself. There was no wine, so he went to the canteen to buy something to eat.
A man who is addicted to alcohol is not a good man. As a 25-year-old young man, I feel the same way about men.
My aunt's phone call to my aunt just proved my point.
For people who are suffering from domestic violence, many people will suggest: 1. They endured for so many years, and then passed; 2. The child is so big that divorce has a bad influence on the child; 3. You are too old. Now that you are divorced, who else can value you? As an adult, what do you care about her? ...
With the help of these people, the perpetrators are more arrogant and ruthless, and the victims will fall into deep despair. What's more, they stabbed the victim's heart with a long knife of "the victim's guilt theory" and ended their tragic life.
According to many media reports on domestic violence, the consultation shows that at present, women, men, the elderly and children are suffering from domestic violence or have suffered from domestic violence. This is a huge and small group.
In my opinion, in addition to the "passers-by" mentioned above, there are also some reasons from individuals and abusers that make them frequently encounter domestic violence:
1. [The perpetrators were spoiled from childhood, not influenced by good moral outlook on life values, or instilled with an inexplicable sense of superiority by their parents, which led them to disrespect others and life from an early age.
Second, one party is too strong, self-centered, does not care about the feelings of others, is too individualistic, and has a strong desire for possession and control; The other party is too weak to have a heart to resist, but has no courage to resist.
Three, one party's economic strength is relatively strong, and the other party's economic strength is relatively weak; In other words, it is impossible for one party to be economically independent and completely rely on the economic life of the other party. (This means that there is no job, and all living expenses and expenses come from each other's situation. Don't misunderstand that one party must give all the income to the other party for protection. )
Fourth, the victim is too kind and not determined enough. Once the abuser apologizes, a few crocodile tears will soften his heart and he will forgive the abuser unconditionally. They not only hurt themselves, but also chilled the hearts of those who helped them kindly.
5. The abuser has a serious inferiority complex, and wants to show his strength and authority through violence and control, and to cover up his fragile inferiority complex by belittling others.
6. People who have no education, no ability, poor communication, are alone and have no friends will only feel lonely, helpless and desperate when they encounter domestic violence. If there are no good people to hold them in time, they will completely lose the courage to escape.
Seven, the soul of one party has been hooked by the fox outside. Foxes are divided into male foxes and female foxes. )
Domestic violence, only zero and countless times.
Such a slogan may be comprehensive, but it is not unreasonable. If you unconditionally forgive the perpetrator's first violence and don't let the perpetrator pay any price for his atrocities, then you will spend the rest of your life under countless threats of violence.
Now it is a society ruled by law, and the perpetrators of any violent incidents should be severely punished by law!
Therefore, I am here to appeal to those who are suffering from domestic violence: it is time to take up legal weapons to protect themselves! Don't swallow your pride, don't sell yourself short, and don't unconditionally give the perpetrators any chance to hurt themselves. No culture, no ability; You are also living people with flesh and bones, not animals slaughtered by butchers on the chopping block.
No matter whether you marry far away or go to the door, you can't bow to "domestic violence", and you can't allow the liar who promised you a home to trample on your dignity. I would rather live a free and easy life alone than live a dark life under hegemony.
However, for a long time, this kind of voice has spread all over various network platforms. In some posts asking netizens to help her (him) get out of the suffering of domestic violence, many enthusiastic netizens are offering help and calling on them to resist domestic violence.
However, some of these voices were finally defeated by the weakness in the victim's bones; Others were discouraged by passers-by, reprimanded and ridiculed by some just people who hold the theory of "the victim is guilty", and did not reach the deep heart of the victim.
Therefore, I want to say to those who advise the victims: don't persuade others to muddle along and don't suffer others. Being a man for the first time, why should others endure the repeated injuries of the perpetrators! You are helping others!
I want to say to those hypocrites who hold the "victim guilt theory": If you don't want to lend a helping hand to the victims and speak for them, then shut your smelly mouth full of "rice fields" and unplug your salty and sticky keyboard. The internet is not a place of extra-legality. If you are a sharp knife, you will become the last straw to end other people's lives, and what awaits you will be severe punishment by law and condemnation by conscience.
Finally, I want to say to those victims: please keep your faith and don't let the good-hearted people who lend you a helping hand chill.