For our generation, when people reach middle age, they will look at the old artists who accompanied them when they were young, one after another, including Ng Man Tat, Fui-On Shing, Lan Jieying, Liao Qizhi ... and Uncle Chiba, one of China's most familiar Japanese actors.
From comics to movies to TV series, the situation of dominating the world has now become a popular culture, contributing to such hot elements as "unicorn arm", "happy dad" and "roaring emperor" Although named "Fengyun", Xiongba was established as a villain, but we are increasingly convinced that Xiongba is the absolute male owner of this IP for two reasons: first, its character description is the most profound, and second, it can "do things" best. In my opinion, there are two kinds of temperament: straight man and "being a father". This is also the reason why Xiongba is full of controversy and charm as a big IP.
The death of our hero, as an actor, naturally makes the audience sigh unforgettable, but for a role that will never be forgotten, I think we can dig deeper and bring some enlightenment. Since charm and controversy coexist, we should think about how to have more charm and less controversy. Simply put, for contemporary men, straight male temperament is really a treasure; The essence of "being a father" is still less.
The upright and upright spirit is the best in the Jianghu. Although his martial arts is not the best, his ambition is definitely the best in the world. His character is even more domineering and ambitious. Compared with the reclusive, adrift, aloof and unknown blade master, the "soul of a hero" is more in line with the personality preference of modern people, especially modern men, so it is more attractive and exemplary.
The straightforward spirit that a man should have is sometimes simple and rude, but this simplicity and rudeness is not harmful, it is control, but a determination. In intimate relationships, men should show that they dare to love and hate, be decisive and outspoken, and be a "reasonable and overbearing president". This kind of determination, whether in the workplace or in love, can be manifested as a male charm, a charm that can make decisions immediately in difficulties and deadlock.
Our hero is in the Jianghu, surrounded by countless beautiful women, and even his wife throws herself at him. But our hero is not addicted to this, nor is he trapped by love (he only cares about his daughter), and he is a hundred times stronger than Fengyun and many younger generations. Judgment, insight, emotion, etc. , will not be out of control because of the tenderness of men and women. This is a typical straight male temperament, which is very important and rare for contemporary men. Of course, the correct straight spirit has not reached the point of "not approaching women" and "not understanding amorous feelings", which is also unrealistic for modern society.
"Being a father" is an image that frequently appears on TV screens in recent years. Under the slogan of "Xie Guangkun in the north and Su Daqiang in the south", it has become a famous brand. In my opinion, Being a Father is a negative and extreme expression of straight male temperament, and it is the "car accident scene" of straight male temperament driving without a license. This is also a struggle for hegemony. If we look at "Storms Dominate the World" with the mentality of "family ethics drama", we can find that almost half of the plots are "made" by the protagonist, and many people's deaths, including himself, are also "made" by him.
The difference between the essence of "fatherhood" and the temperament of straight men is simply the difference between arbitrariness and decisiveness, the difference between brainless and brainless, and the difference between being only for the overall situation and being only for yourself. Therefore, if you have any objection to the straight man's temperament, what you need to guard against is really not the "indissoluble amorous feelings", but the "fatherhood" temperament that is selfish, self-centered, trouble-seeking, and afraid of chaos in the world.
Men in modern society should guard against the temperament of "fatherhood", not that they will encounter this problem when they become fathers, but that they should strictly guard against it in any kind of interpersonal relationship. There should be no problem in the workplace, because no matter the boss, peers or customers, no one is a fuel-efficient lamp, and no one will spoil you. It will go out before it is "built". If you want to be a successful "father" in the workplace, you are either a "golden father" or a unicorn. What can really hurt must be relatives and lovers. Therefore, in intimate relationships, the temperament of "being a father" often means that you don't consider each other's feelings, you only care about yourself, and you can do whatever you want. You often make trouble, cause complications and make trouble. A ruthless character like a bear didn't "kill" himself. What ordinary men should do is up to them.
So, how to learn the spirit of being straight and stay away from the temperament of being a father?
Read more books and learn culture. You are not mistaken. This is an old secret. A bear is by no means a soldier. He has a super insight into treacherous Jianghu and dangerous human nature. He can master the magical power of "three points returning to the original force". He is by no means stupid, only knows how to practice hard, but he must have super understanding. Then, the support behind it must be cultural literacy. Which expert in Jianghu is not Wen Tao and Wu lue? Are there any illiterate soldiers?
Read more books, learn more culture, lay a solid foundation and increase your knowledge, so that you will have a cognitive ability higher than others, then you will have a correct judgment, then your decision will have positive benefits, you will be persuaded, and then your authority will be established. On the other hand, without knowledge, education, knowledge and vision, let alone any pattern and realm, the sense of existence can only be brushed by "doing", and "doing" can't produce good results, only a variety of indelible buttocks.
(2) Control emotions with reason. The "emotion" here has two meanings: one is one's own emotion. "Work" is emotional out of control, "straight" is just control. Therefore, the correct straight spirit requires men to be more self-disciplined and self-controlled in life, so as to improve themselves and become a "flower" of every age group, full of high-end attraction. The second is the love between men and women. Men's confidence and determination based on knowledge, culture and knowledge. Even in intimate relationships, it is easier to have a sense of dependence, and this sense of dependence is still a "high-end product" that is completely inferior to the sense of violent dependence of "arm strength".
Without this self-control, you will be taken away by all kinds of emotions, whether mad dogs or headless flies, bumping into each other without purpose or bottom line, causing troubles and injuries to your lover, and your image is getting worse every day.
I always think that "straight man" is a neutral word, and everyone's dissatisfaction and satire on it should be caused by the temperament of "being a father", but the result is just the opposite. "Straight man" is originally associated with "brain", "proper limit" and "clear logic". Therefore, as long as contemporary men get rid of the junk psychology of "being a father", it will let us return to the true nature of a real man.