In life, many women call for equality between men and women, but have you found that some of them actually want "privilege" rather than "women's rights"?

Such people often have the following characteristics, "be lenient with others":

If they encounter unfavorable situations in real life, they will immediately put forward the slogan of equality between men and women to safeguard their own interests;

If the status quo is good for you and bad for men, or you need to sacrifice men's interests to fulfill yourself, keep silent about the word equality between men and women.

What exactly is the marriage that we expect to be truly equal between men and women?

It doesn't matter whether you marry or not. I just met you when I needed love. It is that we support each other and grow together. We all have to pay and gain.

Living is actually very simple. What is complicated is human desire. Only by truly thinking from the bottom of my heart that marriage is not asking for anything, but enjoying a process in which both sides pay for each other, share weal and woe, and never give up, can a beautiful marriage be achieved.

Yi Shu once said: "It is impossible to depend on others and get their respect in life."

Bingbing felt that she was in a dilemma. She has a boyfriend who has been in love for four years. My boyfriend wants to get married, but she is hesitant to get married.

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Bing Bing and her boyfriend met in the study room of a university, except that Bing Bing is a full-time undergraduate in this university, and her boyfriend Xiao Dong obtained a junior college degree through self-study exams.

They met in their junior year, and everything was quiet at school. Until two years after graduation, Bingbing became increasingly dissatisfied with her boyfriend.

Bing Bing has been doing administrative work in an enterprise since graduation. Administrative work is very leisurely, but the salary is not high. Bing Bing's current salary is 5000 yuan, and after deducting insurance and provident fund, her salary can no longer support her daily expenses.

Xiao Dong also found a job as an ordinary clerk in an enterprise at the beginning. After a year, the monthly salary is in the early 6000 s, but they rent a house in this city, and their daily expenses reach more than 7000 per month, and most of these expenses are borne by Xiao Dong. Due to economic pressure, Xiao Dong began to move to the take-away industry after working in the enterprise for one year.

After Xiao Dong became a deliveryman, he got up early and worked hard. He worked full-time every month, with an average monthly salary of 15000.

At first, Bingbing was satisfied with a life of "buy as you want", but with the passage of time, new problems came again.

Bingbing's parents often ask her about her and her boyfriend. Bingbing felt that telling her boyfriend that it was a takeaway would make her lose face. She felt that she could not introduce the real situation to her parents, so she kept perfunctory with her family.

Because of the characteristics of her boyfriend's industry, she has to get up early and get greedy every day. There are no holidays and rest days, and the company with ice and ice is getting less and less. Gradually, Bingbing began to subconsciously find fault and quarrel with her boyfriend.

Every time I ask my boyfriend, "Do you want to make takeout all your life? Go every morning, come back in the middle of the night and go home to sleep. What does a boyfriend do? I can't even say it. Can such a life see the future? Do you want to marry me or not? "

"Don't be angry. The difficulties now are temporary. I have a low education and can't find a well-paid and decent job, but we still have to maintain our daily life. "

As Yi Shu said: "One person can be poor, but two people can't, because they can't help complaining about each other when they are poor."

After that, Xiao Dong bought a gift for Bingbing and treated him to a big meal before the storm passed. But this kind of conversation happens every one or two months.

Gradually, Xiaodong couldn't stand it. When Bing Bing mentioned the future again, he said:

"Really not line, we separate for a period of time, I a person here the company will provide dormitory, don't need to rent a house, including food and shelter. Give me a year, and I can save 200 thousand, and then we can go back to your hometown to rent a facade and do some small business. "

Bingbing's first reaction was: "Are you disgusted that I spent your money?" After rejecting this plan, the relationship between the two people fell into the kind of infinite loop before.

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I really want to say to Bing Bing, where did you get the courage to dislike a boyfriend with a monthly salary of 5K?

Please consider your situation carefully: the monthly salary is 5000 yuan. After paying the rent, even the daily living expenses are difficult to guarantee income, which is equivalent to a negative value.

The difficulty of my own life, raising my boyfriend, requires his boyfriend to pay a high salary, and at the same time doesn't like his career. Such an obvious double standard makes people speechless.

Bingbing's problem is that she always places all her hopes for her future life on the other person and shifts the pressure of life to her other half, instead of improving her quality of life by her own efforts.

But her boyfriend doesn't work hard to make money every morning, and he doesn't have any recreation or entertainment activities. In her eyes, it is not love and encouragement, but that he has not given himself enough companionship and a decent life.

In fact, any profession has its own development path, and an excellent takeaway can also be promoted from a rider to a team leader, webmaster, regional manager and executive.

Even if there is no promotion, the high salary earned by your own efforts is worthy of respect.

Poor people can be cured, but poor hearts can't be cured.

Boyfriend's plan is one year, but what Bingbing wants is not to wait, not to suffer, and to get rich overnight directly.

However, as we all know, if a person does not know how to control his mismatched desires and self-growth, but always wants to rely on the nourishment of others to achieve himself, then even the best boys will be forced away by her.