Beating chicken blood has no effect. In 2009, Joanne Wood, a psychology researcher at the University of Waterloo, found that positive self-statements are sometimes ineffective or even harmful. If you think you are "good", then chicken blood can help you feel better about yourself. If you think you can't do it, you want to do it by shouting the slogan of chicken blood-don't stop, chicken blood is poisonous to you.

In Wood's research, people with high self-esteem do feel better after saying "I am worthy of love" to themselves several times. And those who feel inferior, after repeatedly encouraging themselves "I am worthy of love", are more depressed.

There is a simple reason. The key to the effect of chicken blood lies in a person's sincere belief in chicken blood.

When you already feel great and valuable-that is, "self-esteem is high enough" in psychology-you are easily inspired by the slogan "I can do it".

For people with low self-esteem, absolutely positive self-statement does not conform to their inner evaluation of themselves, so the positive slogan of 100% will cause their conditional self-denial. While they shouted "I can do it" against their will, they also suppressed countless "I can't" that rose automatically. Studies have confirmed that emotions and thoughts are irrepressible, and the more depressed they are, the more violent they will rebound. The more I am eager to forget, the more I will never forget. The more you want to deny it, the more worried you are. The slogan "I am the thinnest" helps thin people maintain, but it can't help fat people lose weight.

Wood found that "dialectical" self-statement is very useful for people with low self-esteem.

After all, a small mistake can drive people with inferiority into the dark abyss. People who are used to discrediting themselves, how can they convince themselves that they are pure white? Neutral light gray is more suitable. Compared with "everyone loves me", they agree that "some people love me and some people don't love me". They believe more in "sometimes I can do it, sometimes I can't" than "I will always be the best"-don't underestimate these statements. Calm self-pity is at least better than depressed self-denial.

In addition, the statement "I can be good at a certain aspect" also applies to people with low self-esteem. Rather than saying "I can do anything", I might as well say to myself "I can write a concise report".

There is also the best way to say it, that is, the growth theory. No matter whether your self-esteem is low or high, you can say to yourself, "Although I have shortcomings, I can learn from setbacks." What can't kill me will make me stronger.