People's minds are gradually enlivened and their horizons are constantly broadened. Especially now, parents who have daughters at home seem to regard their daughters' marriage as a commodity.
It is not uncommon to clearly mark the price.
It was a bride price a long time ago, but now it looks like selling a daughter.
Economy determines strength, but at the same time, economic development and civilization complement each other, but extremes meet, and now many men can't get married.
What is the reason?
Girl independence
I watched a video two days ago, which talked about girls' attitude towards marriage now.
She said that the history of women's development should be a history of blood and tears.
In the past, women had no place in society. Let's take a look at Japan, South Korea and other countries. Until now, there is still this old concept that men are superior to women.
But China is different. In this nearly 100-year historical development, women in China have stepped onto the stage from behind the scenes. They can be independent in the workplace. They are more tenacious, nervous and hard-working than men.
Nowadays, many women can buy their own houses and cars, and men are dispensable for them.
The independence of girls and the excessive dependence of boys on their parents will make it more and more difficult for boys to get married.
After all, women can live well by themselves. They don't want much. They just need this man to protect her and comfort themselves when they are wronged. But boys who listen to their parents will not be favored by independent women.
2. The population ratio is out of balance.
From the late 1970s to the early 1980s, the state began to vigorously promote family planning. China has a large population and a low economic level. Agricultural output is not enough to feed such a large population.
From a macro perspective, the state has decided to implement family planning, which has been implemented for nearly 40 years.
In the past, the economy was underdeveloped and the strength of science and technology was weak, so the slogan of modernization was put forward.
Then before the full realization of modernization, the production work still depends on people.
Especially in rural areas, the interests of more people are reflected. Moreover, China has always been obsessed with having more children, and physical labor needs boys, so he is also eager for boys.
After the implementation of family planning, I also thought of various ways to have a son.
Slowly, the problem of imbalance between men and women appeared.
Now there are more boys than girls.
The end result is that it is getting harder and harder for men to marry their wives.
3. Bride price
Bridal gifts are also a stumbling block for boys to get married.
After all, the bride price that girls want before getting married is still relatively high.
Like not moving.
Moving refers to the house and moving refers to the car.
These are understandable, after all, these are the necessities of marriage.
However, the pressure of life is so great now. If the man's family can't get a bride price, or the woman demands that the house must be bought in the city center, the price of the car must be. If the overall value is relatively high, the economic conditions of the man's family can't be reached, which will lead to difficulties for boys to get married.
Based on the above points, it is now a fact that it is difficult for boys to get married.
At this time, they may focus on some second-married women.
And now with the development of society, more and more women are getting married.
The main reason for rural children's divorce is their age.
Because young men and women in rural areas get married earlier, especially girls in some poor places, and want to change their poor lives through marriage.
If they leave their hometown and quarrel with their husbands every day, then they will choose to divorce.
However, divorce does not mean that a second-married woman is not good. Because they have been married once and know how to get along. Combined with the last failed marriage, they will also look for reasons for divorce. Once they get married again, they will definitely not make the same mistake again.
In addition, because it is the second marriage, the required bride price is also relatively low.
For a man whose family conditions are not very good, he can marry a wife and weigh the pros and cons with less money, which is why the man is willing to marry a second wife.
Finally, the second married woman will feel even more distressed about her current husband because she experienced the last failed marriage.
It is also important for a man to have a wife who cares about himself and can live.
And the fact that getting married is getting harder and harder is in front of us.
These will become the fact that men marry mistresses.
Summary:
Nowadays, this is the current situation that it is difficult for rural men to get married. Of course, it is undeniable that it has something to do with the development of society, which is also the necessity of this era.
Therefore, the popularity of the second married woman is an inevitable result.