0 1, Xiaomei, 36 years old, whose elder sister had dystocia was the origin of Dink.
Xiaomei is 36 years old and has been a dink for 9 years. Husband and wife agreed not to have children before marriage. In order to prevent accidents, Xiaomei had a ligation operation shortly after her marriage.
Asked why, Xiaomei said that every time a woman lives, it is like walking into the gate of hell. The risk of a woman giving birth to a child is uncertain, and so is the health of the child. In case the child unfortunately gets a disease that cannot be detected during pregnancy, it is simply a heavy burden for the whole family.
In fact, Xiaomei chose Dink because of her sister. My sister is five years older than Xiaomei and got married very early. Unfortunately, her first child after marriage was born, and just after 100 days, she died of illness.
In order to ease the family's mood, half a year later, my newly nursed sister became pregnant again. As a result, when she was 8 months pregnant, the baby was unfortunately stillborn.
My sister is on the verge of collapse because she was beaten twice. A year later, my sister became pregnant for the third time. Upon examination, it was a boy. The whole family finally smiled a little, but during childbirth, the fetus was too big, which led to dystocia, and finally she bled to death.
That year, Xiaomei just turned 18 years old. She watched her sister die painfully, but there was nothing she could do. Finally, my sister had to take her unborn child with her and regretted it.
Since then, the scene of my sister's dystocia has left an indelible shadow on Xiaomei's young mind. After falling in love, she rejected having children from her heart.
So, before marriage, she discussed with her boyfriend and decided not to have children after marriage, insisting on Dink to the end. Her husband has many brothers and sisters himself, and the children are too noisy. They hit it off immediately.
In this way, they have been living a sweet two-person world since their marriage. Usually they go to work together, and they travel anywhere on weekends. In recent years, they have almost traveled all over the country. Next, they plan to save money and start a romantic trip around the world.
I asked them, don't you regret not having children? They said, there is nothing to regret, and the choices you make should be borne by yourself. They enjoy their present life and really feel very happy.
02. Sister Hua is 40 years old. Her mother's unhappiness is her heart disease.
Sister Hua is the most beautiful 40-year-old woman I have ever seen. She feels particularly comfortable, which is probably the external expression of life. As soon as she opened her mouth, she watched a good movie, read a good book and ate a good dish yesterday. ...
After knowing her, I asked her, what is the most important thing for a good woman and a good wife? She smiled and said, "first satisfy yourself, make yourself happy and live clearly."
Later, I accidentally learned that Sister Hua was Dink. From the age of 25, she decided never to have children again in her life. This truth is not understood by others. She thinks it's a pity that she has such good genes and no children.
She told everyone that when she was very young, she always saw her mother unhappy, never laughed, never got close to her children, and never said love to them. So the atmosphere at home was depressing every day, and my mother was unhappy, and she died very early.
Since she was sensible, floret vowed never to be a mother again in her life. Because of the arranged marriage, she is unhappy, which leads to the unhappiness of the whole family and the unhappiness of the children.
A woman, when she is dissatisfied and unhappy, can she put her family first? Therefore, let yourself be happy first, and then you can drive your family's emotions. Marriage is monotonous. If a woman doesn't have her own opinions and ideas, she won't suffocate people alive.
Actually, sister Guanghua doesn't want children, and neither does her husband. I have always felt that not having children can give children more personal time, more money and more energy to realize their self-worth in life.
Floret said that when you live a good life, your marriage can't be wrong. It doesn't matter whether you have children or not.
03, Tang Tang, 38 years old, I am Superman in underwear.
Tang Tang is a neutral beauty. I have known her for more than 5 years, and I often eat and go shopping together when I am free. But I have known her husband for so long, but I have never seen her husband. She is not without a husband. In fact, she has been married 10 years.
She is an informal woman who drinks, smokes, goes to nightclubs, is proficient in everything, speaks humorously and has many friends around her. She said to her husband, "We are the only people in the family who can breathe. I don't want children. "
Her husband gritted his teeth and said, "All right". So after many years of marriage, she never thought about having children.
One day, we were eating out and her husband came to eat. When we met, I was a little disappointed, a very ordinary middle-aged man. He greeted us politely, ate quickly, paid the bill and left.
Later, I learned that her husband's family background and business are perfect. He is the boss of a big company. Besides, I love this unreliable wife very much.
According to Tang Tang, once she came back from abroad and bought a pair of shoes for her husband, but she took the wrong one, a pair of 4 1 yard and a pair of 40 yards. Her husband felt a little tight, but she said indifferently, "That's the way new shoes are. They will get bigger after wearing them for a while."
Occasionally seeing her like this, I can't help worrying about her: "You are so careless, what does your husband see in you?" She gave me a look and said, "He likes this energy in me. If I wear underwear outside, I am a superwoman. "
Yes, she's right. If a man is good enough, he won't need a woman to cook and wash clothes for him when he goes home. They just need to know how to give their husbands a breathing space and enjoy it. If she can support herself, why can't such a wife be liked by men?
Does it matter if those two have children? A person's life is long or short. In fact, as long as you live according to your own wishes, it is enough.
Summary:
"Dink" is just a choice, reflecting a different way of life.
As Hegel said, "Being is reasonable". When we are alive, we will always face various multiple-choice questions. Getting married and having children is just one of them. As long as you make a choice without regrets according to your own conditions, it is enough.