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In the face of the sudden COVID-19 epidemic, all walks of life have been impacted, and enterprises and individuals will be affected to a certain extent. Enterprises stop production, workers lose their jobs, and some physical stores close down. These are not the status quo that we can change.
But what I want to say is: What should we do in the face of unemployment? You lost your job without telling your parents. That's because you don't want to worry your parents; Keep looking for a job, that is, you understand your responsibilities and responsibilities. However, due to the influence of the environment, short-term setbacks, confusion and no direction, we must learn to adjust ourselves and make ourselves strong, so that we can calmly accept greater challenges in the future.
Believe in yourself! !
Affected by the epidemic, unemployment has become a common problem. You didn't tell your parents when you were looking for a job outside, in order to reduce their mental burden, which shows that you are a responsible person and belong to the character of reporting good news instead of worrying.
I lost my job too. I quit my first job after graduating from college and didn't find a second job for three months. In the meantime, I kept it from my parents that I lost my job.
I know your inner anxiety and worry very well. From your description, it's not that you don't want to go to work at this time, but that you haven't found a suitable job, which leads to your inner anxiety and disorientation in finding a job.
Secondly, I suggest that you first combine your personal ability and professional requirements to find a job, not necessarily with a high salary, but it is very important to support yourself and strive for a promotion.
If you find it, reward yourself with something to drive your positive mood.
Find a new job, and then tell your parents that you can't adapt to changing jobs in the old place, so as not to increase their psychological pressure, otherwise your family will ask about your job.
If you can't match the right job all the time, improve your personal ability according to the job requirements and tell your parents the truth.
You are a caring person. You can care about their feelings from your parents' perspective. You don't want to cheat them or disappoint them. You can think about your family. You should be full of confidence and hope for the future.
I am here to pray for you to find a new job that suits you.
The epidemic has not only brought unemployment and difficulties in finding jobs, but also made many people in the workplace re-examine themselves.
Except for some companies that went bankrupt directly because of the epidemic, I believe that most companies only laid off some people.
So why were you laid off by employees who also worked in the company, while other colleagues didn't?
The root cause is the "value" problem during your tenure in the company.
In the past, when the company was operating normally, the boss might not notice a lot of "fish in troubled waters" because he was busy and the company's performance was not bad.
But after this epidemic, the boss can see at a glance who really thinks about the company and who can provide high-value output in the company's crisis.
So, in this case, the first question you need to consider is: "Where are you not doing well enough?"
If you don't think about it, even if you find a new job, it won't last long.
Because it's not just the company you used to work for, but the whole industry, even more than 80% companies.
It is very likely that the reason why you lost your job in your last company will also be the reason why you lost your job in your new company.
Whether you are working or starting a business, failure is not the most terrible. The most terrible thing is that you don't sum yourself up and sort yourself out after failure.
When you really make a summary of your self-recovery, you can look for a job again.
In fact, I think the impact of the epidemic has given many people in the workplace a chance to "regenerate".
People who used to think that they could just hang around now need real jobs and bring value in order to survive in the fierce workplace competition.
The key to finding the direction is self-reflection.
The direction is not found by the environment, but by yourself.
I am unemployed and looking for a job without telling my parents. I feel very painful. What should I do?
I look at this problem this way:
First of all, if you are unemployed, it means that you have no economic income, and the family economic crisis will follow. I sympathize. I hope you don't worry too much. There are always more solutions than problems.
0 1 calm down and think about the reasons for this unemployment (I don't know the specific reasons for your unemployment). Tracing back to the source, only by finding the root of the problem can we completely solve it and avoid unemployment again.
Many things in the world are causal. Every cause has its consequences. Unemployment, the main reason lies in yourself? I don't want to make progress at work, and I have no enthusiasm for my work. Lazy work, poor business ability, unable to complete the task; Physical reasons, can not bear high workload; Self-discipline is not strong, going its own way, violating labor discipline; Without the collective concept and team spirit, it is impossible to integrate into the team. There are other situations. Of course, there are other objective reasons, such as company bankruptcy, company relocation, company transformation and so on.
Unemployment is not so terrible, it feels like the end of the world. You don't have to hide it from your parents and family, but you should actively communicate with your parents and tell them the reasons for unemployment and their specific plans for the future. It is best to have a comprehensive and step-by-step plan and how to implement it step by step, so that parents have confidence in you. Most parents are reasonable. After understanding the reasons, they will understand you and support you. In this way, your mental problems will be solved, without pain and mental burden. Cheer up and start over.
At the moment when the epidemic has not been completely lifted, many enterprises have been forced to stop production because of the epidemic period, and enterprises have encountered unprecedented difficulties and even went bankrupt, making it difficult to realize their ideal work in one step.
First, you can take this opportunity to recharge your batteries, learn a trade, or get a qualification certificate. When the employment situation improves, you can come prepared and find your favorite job.
In short, no matter what the reason for unemployment, there will be temporary difficulties, but don't be afraid. Stop to walk behind better and faster. Just like the COVID-19 epidemic this year, the economic losses suffered by the whole country are huge, but our country has brought the epidemic under control and resumed work, so we are confident to work overtime to win back the losses.
If you are unemployed because of the epidemic, you can't find a direction that suits you. This is an excuse for being irresponsible to your family! There are too many unemployed people in the epidemic. There are hundreds of millions of rural migrant workers in China, looking for jobs every day! It stands to reason that finding a job should not be considered inappropriate, but that we need a job on the way to survival. There is no idle grain in the economy and society. No job, no money. You can't move forward without money! Looking for a job outside without telling your parents shows that you are afraid of your parents' worry. First of all, you should put aside your vanity and find a job that suits you.
Unemployed, afraid of parents' worry, you didn't tell your parents that you are a responsible person with a sense of family responsibility.
Unemployed and unwilling to go to work. It means that you have been under a lot of pressure recently and need to adjust. Everyone has fragile times, accept their imperfections, and take a rest when they are really tired. There's nothing wrong with that.
If you really feel stressed and your parents are reasonable, you might as well talk to your parents. Parents can understand you, and parents will give you some nourishment. Parents will help you sort out the current situation, analyze what you are good at, what you need to avoid, and find some contacts. Three heads are better than one. Some experiences of parents are still worth learning. Even if our parents can't help us, comforting words can help us ease our anxiety.
If your parents usually have high expectations of you, it is difficult to communicate. Don't say that. Save yourself a depressed mood and add a straw.
When you are tired, take a rest, go out for fun and adjust yourself. Read books, learn to study, and save your strength.
But don't use stress as an excuse for not working for a long time. Laziness can be addictive. If you want to illuminate others, you must first become a beam of light.
Viewpoint: I understand the subject's mood very well, because unemployment is a compulsory course for almost everyone in the workplace! You are miserable because you want to make your family better! Where is the road to unemployment? In fact, the road is at your feet! To get out of the predicament, we need to do the following three steps!
First, explain the true meaning of unemployment to people in the workplace!
Many friends are afraid of unemployment, that is, they hate that they are about to be or are facing being picky and rejected! It's basically denying you this and denying you that! It feels like the goods on the shelf, picked by the interviewer, commenting on the goods, and maliciously lowering the price!
This kind of pain caused by words or eyes has caused many friends to fall into the abyss of pain and are hard to extricate themselves!
In fact, I understand the mood of the subject. Because you used to be the best in the eyes of others, you are used to the worship and praise of others! However, no one thought that such an excellent self would be unemployed and poor one day.
Of course, there are many reasons for the unemployment of employees: it may be personal incompetence, bankruptcy of the company, or voluntary resignation.
But for whatever reason, most of the unemployed suffer from inferiority complex, so they think: unemployment = shame+being looked down upon.
Countermeasures to change the current situation of unemployment, we must first understand the true meaning of unemployment to everyone in the workplace!
In the view of "entry", unemployment only means that you need to be trimmed and upgraded, and it has nothing to do with complete failure. Why do you say that?
Because our post-80 s and post-90 s working people have at least 35 to 40 years of working time.
Do you think that in this long time, our development is singing all the way? Just kidding! Even if you can do it for 40 years, it is unknown whether the company you serve has a life span of 40 years!
There are so many factors that change, even every minute!
Therefore, the law of our career development is the same as that of things: the motion state of the wavy line is constantly advancing, with ups and downs and cycles!
For example, almost everyone in the workplace will go through a cycle of job hunting, employment, promotion, recession (unemployment), job hunting and reemployment.
This is a natural law, and there is no need to explore why.
Because people naturally like ease, they expect to pay for once and for all! So in many people's minds, as long as you can enter the company, you will definitely rise all the way!
However, the reality is that joining the company only means that you have a' ticket', and the company does not promise that you can stick to it until the end! You can't even guarantee yourself! Instead, you may lose your job and find a job!
Doesn't this mean that you have to accept staged' pain' at any time? This makes people feel insecure!
In fact, this is a misunderstanding of unemployment!
People in the workplace must understand that temporary unemployment is only a' rest period' for individuals to move to a higher level!
Although you have a big goal in your eyes, if you want to climb faster, it is also limited by factors such as technological growth value, energy, physical strength, market environment, company needs and even personal work needs. So many times you are forced by the situation and have to stop and adjust yourself so that you can step into the next step. Only in this way can we get closer to the ultimate goal step by step.
So unemployment has failed for a long time, unemployment = repair!
Only in this way can we have time and energy to assess the gap between ourselves and the market demand and improve our experience value, which is a rare practice for anyone in the workplace!
Second, pain and anxiety can't solve the problem! If you want to change the status quo, you must accept the status quo and actively adjust and change!
There is no denying that unemployment is a' great change' for many people in the workplace! People will have an instinctive self-defense response to emergencies.
For example, you worked hard to make your family have a good life, and now being unemployed makes you feel like a coward who broke his word. You can't accept the disappointed eyes of your family! Therefore, if your parents ask more questions about your work, you will become irritable and sensitive. And the more you live with your parents or meet them often, the more sensitive and anxious you are!
You will have a strong desire to avoid them! I want to find my own space and change the status quo immediately!
For this reason, can't you calmly think about the real reason why the interview was rejected? I don't know what kind of job to find for a long time. In short, it is all kinds of confusion, anxiety and irritability! Like a hedgehog, it tightly wraps fragile blx and vanity.
However, do you think you can hide it from your parents and family by doing so? On the contrary!
The more secretive you are, the more worried your parents are about you. On the contrary, people can see the abnormality! Once they find that you are a health threat because of excessive stress, their expectation for you may not be career success, but health and happiness.
Unfortunately, many friends who have been' ravaged' by unemployment, including the subject, live in imagination.
I think parents are only interested in their career and income. As long as they sit on this point, parents will feel gratified! I am still a good boy and dutiful son in my parents' hearts.
The more I think so, the more anxious I am to find a job! The more dysfunctional the interview process is, the more unemployed you will be! This is not bad luck, but the need to change ideas.
Countermeasures
1, accept the reality. This is the most important thing!
We should psychologically accept the fact that career development must follow the laws of things!
In order to better understand this law, let's see how the plant world follows the law and develops vigorously!
As we all know, except pine trees, flowers and trees generally go through four cycles: spring planting, summer sowing, autumn harvest and winter storage. This is also in line with the law of motion in which things develop in a wavy line.
Take the peony as an example, everyone expects to be the most beautiful and delicate stage of peony, because it represents your highest professional value and has won the highest praise from the outside world. However, can even the based peony keep blooming? Of course not! Even if it wants to lead the way, the climate change in nature will not allow it to do so!
Because the key moment to determine the blooming value of flowers is not in summer, but in winter! They absorb withered leaves and petals in autumn and transport rich nutrients to the roots, so that peony will have a more eye-catching moment in the coming year.
Can you say: peony withers in winter means it has failed, and it is no longer a flower base? As long as people store nutrients in winter, they will be firmly at the top of the list next year.
On the other hand, so are we! When you are on the right track, will you reflect on the gap between yourself and the industry? Absolutely not!
Only in the trough, when the environment is forced, can you seriously examine the gap between yourself and the industry development! You can have the perseverance to make up for the loopholes and upgrade your equipment.
Need to remind: people in the workplace should not completely listen to other people's praise! People say you are great, so you really can do anything! Look at all the successful people, which one is not United with the strong, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses!
Moreover, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people! Who can guarantee that he will not be' abused' by a more powerful opponent? Without their strength, how can we see our own shortcomings?
Therefore, the unemployment period is the best time to examine, repair and improve yourself!
The calmer and more introspective you are, the stronger your resilience will be, and the more you can move towards a higher level. This is the real meaning of unemployment as a personal practice!
2. Actively adjust and change!
When you accept the status quo and open your heart, you are ready to change it.
The first step is to sort out the status quo objectively.
If the subject has been unemployed for a long time and hit a wall in job hunting, then you should seriously reflect on the reasons why you hit a wall. Instead of always being burdened with unfilial parents and the pressure of not working, do you think these are useless!
You should examine the reason why you hit a wall: is the job search goal too high? Or personal ability does not meet the company requirements? Or is the poor psychological quality during the interview leading to abnormal performance? Is the exaggeration of resume and work experience offensive to the interviewer? There is another problem in choosing the company to apply for. ...
For example, the subject only has one year's work experience, but wants to apply for the position of department manager, deliberately exaggerating his work experience. When the interviewer found out, he became guilty and inferior. The whole process was abnormal and missed the opportunity.
Once the problem is found, it is necessary to enter the second step!
The second step is to set a suitable job-hunting goal in combination with the actual situation.
No matter how high the salary of a manager is, you should also face up to the reality: you should eat your food bit by bit! Our work experience is so much, no matter how polished or exaggerated, as long as the interviewer asks you the details of your work, it will be revealed.
Therefore, instead of looking for a job with an unlucky attitude, it is better to give yourself time to study and grow up calmly. Apply for basic positions first. Although the salary is not as high as that of the manager, it is only temporary!
You only have more time to understand the manager's work. When you have done all the links well, you won't be in a hurry to be a manager! The stronger your working ability, the longer you stay in that position, the greater the benefits you can get!
The third step is to make a feasible plan on the basis of the goal.
There is no perfect scheme that can be formed at one time in the world, only feasible schemes that are constantly adjusted.
When we set the goal of starting from the grass roots, we should make a study plan to improve our professional skills according to the post requirements, personal economic situation and family living expenses.
The fourth step is to adjust the plan according to the environmental needs and change it from time to time.
This is the key to ensure that the goal can be achieved! Because people are not as good as days! People can't predict all the future. Therefore, in the face of changes in the environment, you can adjust and adapt to the changes in time to really have a chance to achieve your career goals!
Instead of shouting slogans or just thinking spiritually.
Finally, let's sum up:
Unemployment does not mean long-term failure! Adjust yourself' is a compulsory course for everyone in the workplace! When you see through the deep meaning, you won't be overly anxious and confused! As long as you have a clear goal and make a feasible plan, you can accomplish your goal with plan and confidence!
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I think the problem of the subject is not unemployment, but the psychological state after unemployment. This problem can be viewed from the following two aspects:
Reflect on the past and find out the reasons for unemployment and their own shortcomings.
During the epidemic, enterprises are facing a crisis, and it is normal to reduce staff. But what you have to reflect on is, why are you a streamlined person? Why are you unemployed?
In the workplace, we exchange our labor for equivalent remuneration, and the standard for enterprises to measure whether we are competent is whether we have created value for enterprises. In a special period, enterprises will give priority to low-value and low-performance personnel when laying off employees.
Therefore, it is necessary to review yourself in this job, where is your contribution to the enterprise? What are your weaknesses? What aspects of the next work can be improved?
Adjust your mind, start over, and look for hope in despair.
Yu, the founder of New Oriental, said, "Look for hope in despair". Besides, unemployment is not a desperate situation. The main problem is to adjust yourself and start over. Now that I have left my last job, I must get out of unemployment, regardless of my current state or mentality.
Everyone has his own advantages and jobs that suit him. As a career planner, my general solutions to visitors' "career confusion" are as follows:
Step 1: Start with self-exploration and try to find a career that interests you. If you are not clear, you can find your own career interest with the help of career evaluation tools.
Step 2: Analyze your current ability and the ability you need in the occupation you are interested in, find the ability gap between them, and concentrate on making up for your ability.
People are lazy because they have no goals. If you have your own career goals, find the gaps to achieve them, and work hard for them, focusing more on the future than indulging in the past, your attitude will be more positive. I wish you find your favorite job as soon as possible!
I understand how you feel now. My friend is as worried about unemployment as you are. I hope you and other friends will find this article very helpful and find your own job as soon as possible.
Two days ago, a friend sent me a message on WeChat, saying that his company could no longer support such a large number of people because of the continuous decline in business. He was one of the 20% layoffs. He worked in the original unit for more than ten years and finally became the vice president of the brand. This time, all the deputies and assistants were laid off for the first time. He never thought that the beginning of the year would be so miserable, and he didn't know what to do, let alone tell his family that he would "go to work" on time every day as before after losing his job. In fact, he is wandering outside.
My friend has always been excellent in our eyes. /kloc-graduated in 0/985, moved from the countryside to the city, got married and had children, and got his own home in the city by his own efforts. He has a house and a car and is the pillar of his family. Now he lost his job in an instant. He was afraid of his family's worries and even saw disappointed eyes, so he wanted to keep it from his family until he found a new job. But now the market situation is not good, many good companies have laid off employees, and small companies even closed down. It is difficult to find a job as soon as possible.
I quite understand my friend's situation. It's really hard to find a so-called good job at present (at least about the same as the original income), but life still has to go on. In the current gloomy market, I want to share these five tips with you, hoping to help you:
First, face the reality and adjust your mentality.
After unemployment, people will be more vulnerable, even feel inferior and embarrassed. If you don't face the reality actively and bravely and adjust your mentality, you will fall into a state of anxiety and depression. Therefore, we don't want to escape from reality and face it positively. We don't have to talk to old people and children, but we have to face the fact of unemployment with our lovers. Husband and wife should support and understand each other, reduce psychological pressure, actively seek better job opportunities, and face new ones with a good mental outlook.
Second, clear job requirements, identify their own advantages
Objectively evaluate one's work ability, combine one's work experience, choose one's familiar industry and suitable job position, first apply for a job from the enterprise position at the same level or above before unemployment, then adjust the job-seeking goal and change the competitive strategy after failure.
Many people have high expectations of themselves and think they are excellent before they lose their jobs, but whether they can find a job will be affected by many external factors. Therefore, we should be psychologically prepared after unemployment, but we should not overestimate ourselves, doubt or underestimate ourselves, and face the reality objectively.
Third, make a new resume as soon as possible.
1, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses real resume
What a real calendar with outstanding advantages. The most important step in a successful interview is not to leave a fake calendar. If your resume is beautifully written, but it is not your real level, it will be obvious to ask a few professional knowledge or actual process during the interview, so authenticity is the key first step.
2. Attractive headlines
Title: Name+Position+Applicant Highlights, highlighting your own highlights. For example, if you interview a 4S store manager of a car, you can write "Zhang San applied for+* * store manager+store manager who has been the top three sales manager of * * brand in South China for five years" on the cover, which will make HR shine. This title visually highlights your identity and highlights. One is to know what brand you are, and the other is to see it from the sales ranking.
3. Resume details
The phone number of the name can be bold and prominent, and the phone number can be separated, for example,1301112222, which is convenient to read and more comfortable and advantageous for an HR who has to read dozens or even hundreds of resumes a day.
Try to put the photos in the formal suit, which is more comfortable and clearer. Don't put those unusual or sexy photos. If there is no advantage in appearance, photos can be omitted, so that HR can retain some curiosity.
It is best not to write salary on your resume, but to write: negotiable, create an interview opportunity for yourself and learn more about the actual situation of the company.
The graduate school with the highest academic qualifications can write, and it is not necessary to start from high school.
The emphasis is on work experience. First, according to whether the company and position you are applying for match, write down your work experience in representing the industry and cooperating with well-known enterprises, what well-known projects you have developed or promoted, or served customers of well-known enterprises, or studied with well-known teachers in the industry. These are all items worthy of extra points in your resume.
Don't send the same calendar to more than a dozen companies, but modify it according to different positions in different companies.
Fourth, find application channels.
1. Look for job opportunities from classmates, friends, colleagues or partners around you first.
Tell them their current situation. The acquaintances around me have a better understanding of their own personality and work ability, and the work introduced is relatively consistent with their own abilities. If these people have the right to make personnel decisions or make recommendations, they will have more opportunities when they have jobs, or they will have more contacts and recommendations. As long as you perform well at ordinary times, starting with acquaintances is the fastest chance to get a job.
2. Network channels
I. National comprehensive recruitment website:
General national comprehensive recruitment websites have targeted word of mouth, scale, outlets and talent pool. These websites are mainly administrators, technicians and functional department personnel with college education or above, and there are also many fresh graduates.
B, provincial talent network (if you want to work locally, it is recommended to choose provincial talent network first):
As a provincial comprehensive website, it mainly focuses on talents, functional departments and management positions in the province, and college education or above. Based on the cooperation with the provincial talent market, you can often participate in large-scale public welfare job fairs held by the provincial talent market.
Mainly for logistics jobs, front-line jobs and ordinary technicians, it is a national comprehensive website with a large number of people.
Choose the right website to submit your resume according to your job needs.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) Notes for interview:
1, pay attention to the basic etiquette in the workplace, arrive at least ten minutes in advance, and relax.
2. Understand the basic situation, operation background and recruitment details of the interview unit in advance, understand the dynamic demand for talents through online inquiry, fill in the resume and prepare for the interview.
3. Before applying for a job, first understand the salary standard of the industry and apply for a job according to your own standards. Don't waste time and energy because you know after the interview that it's not the salary you want. When HR asks about salary, you can first get a general understanding of the promotion channels and the salary system after promotion, and then measure whether it suits you.
4. Generally, the top 500 companies or large enterprises will conduct interviews through the STAR rule, that is, S (background), T (task), A (action) and R (result), and do a good job in advance. If you explain everything clearly in the description of your work experience during the interview, the interviewer can judge your expressive ability. Compared with the traditional interview method, the star rule can interview the interviewee's future work more accurately.
We make all preparations, face the reality and face the difficulties. I hope the above five tricks can help you find a new job.
I like the movie Chasing Happyness very much. This film is based on a true story. The protagonist is a single father with only a high school diploma, a down-and-out salesman on the verge of bankruptcy, and his wife runs away from home. How to work hard as a single parent, strive to become a stock market trader and eventually become a well-known financial investor is an inspirational story.
What he said to his son moved me especially: no one can say you can't!
No one can say you can't! This sentence is also dedicated to all of us who work hard. I hope all of us can become the people we want to be like the protagonist in Pursuit of Happyness, happiness will knock on the door and life will be free.
2020 is destined to be an extraordinary year, but we are still in Do not forget your initiative mind, forge ahead!
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