Physiologically, these children with attention deficit disorder have nerve conduction problems in their brains and improper information screening, so they are easy to forget things and lead a chaotic life. The proportion of such children in the class is getting higher and higher, the proportion of ADHD is about 5%, and the hyperactive children account for about 30% in the ordinary class. In order to change the phenomenon of children's hyperactivity, parents need to actively participate. I call it "paying off debts", and there are debts of not giving birth (caesarean section), not feeding myself (artificial feeding) and not sleeping (for the elderly or nanny).
Among ADHD and ADHD children, caesarean section, no breastfeeding mother, slept independently when she was a child. Why is it "paying off debts"? Western psychologists study that everyone needs 1 1 hugs every day, otherwise it must be emotional distress. Moreover, the demand for tactile stimulation is an instinctive demand of human beings. Children are born with a need to suck. When eating mother's milk, the tongue will cover mother's nipple and areola. This is to give children rich oral tactile stimulation. While meeting the demand of oral stimulation, it gradually extends to visual learning and kinesthetic learning. Nowadays, many children are too active because their mothers and children have too little physical contact. Mom doesn't want to give birth naturally and have a caesarean section. Children don't experience contractions and birth canal squeezing, the most primitive learning of touch and proprioception is deprived, and what doctors call breathing learning, so the acquired development will encounter a series of problems. For example, some children will be infected with respiratory tract when they are sick. Therefore, for active children, doing a lot of physical contact is regarded as a kind of debt repayment.
In the whole process of human development, the power of the left brain comes from the ear and mouth, which is called the ear-mouth chain, and the power of the right brain comes from the eyes and hands, which is called the eye bracelet. Therefore, if you listen more, you will speak well, and your left brain will be developed. See more with your eyes, do more with your hands, and operate more to develop your right brain. The above is the situation of the brain. What does the cerebellum mainly depend on? Climbing, jumping, drilling, running and rolling can all promote the development of cerebellum. The child has a well-developed cerebellum and a well-proportioned body. We say he is flexible. Another aspect is the sense of touch, which is the responsibility of reticular structure and diencephalon. In short, the developed left brain is smart, the developed right brain is smart, the developed cerebellum is spiritual, and the developed diencephalon is communicative. When we say that a child is well developed, we mean that he is smart, clever, clever and versatile. Therefore, parents should let their children see more, listen more, move more, and experience more tactile stimulation.
It is also an effective physical contact for parents to sleep with their children. Generally speaking, children should sleep with their parents before they are three years old, and children who have caesarean section will sleep after the first grade of primary school. Before going to bed, parents should communicate with their children, talk to them and touch their backs. Parents should avoid touching the neck, back and limbs between perineum when touching their children. Another good parent-child activity is for parents to write new words learned in Chinese class on their children's backs. Write slowly. If you write fast, your child's attention time will be shorter, and the number of strokes will be more, so as to train your child's attention time.
For first-grade children, parents must accompany their children to study.
Bow: Some parents say that children's learning attitude is not serious, and that academic performance has a great relationship with attitude. Is that so?
Money: Subjective initiative is very important for a person. But there is something more important than this, and that is the innate physical quality. Some children don't study well, not because they don't work hard, but because they are born with insufficient learning ability. It is a very simple truth, and children always don't understand it. This is the lack of learning ability. Pedagogically speaking, learning ability can be divided into listening, speaking, reading, writing, calculating and spelling. From a psychological point of view, the combination of visual perception and auditory perception mentioned above forms a child's learning ability. For example, the auditory attention ability mentioned just now is the first ability in auditory perception. Sometimes children don't have a bad attitude, but lack the ability in this area. Many parents are not aware of this.
Bow: Children in lower grades don't study well. Some parents are anxious, while others feel indifferent. They think it is natural for children to grow up. How do they face it objectively?
Qian: I emphasize that first-grade parents must study with their children. Some experts say that it is easy for children to lose their independence by studying with them. I think this is extremely sad. Those who say these things are so irresponsible. A child's life will change greatly from kindergarten to primary school, and the most important change is the change of life mission. The task of kindergarten is to play, and the task of school is to study. How to learn? How to do homework? Children don't know that they need guidance from their parents. Especially for the children in the first semester of senior one, parents' major events are not as important as accompanying their children to do their homework.
To make children form good habits, I summarize them as eight links to go home: first, pack up your schoolbag, change your shoes and clothes, and don't throw your schoolbag around casually; Second, pay attention to hygiene and wash your hands frequently. Look, the water that children wash their hands after school is black. Third, we must drink water to eat, emphasizing drinking water to eat, because children seldom drink water at school, especially in the lower grades. Why eat it? Because the food eaten at noon 12 has been emptied in the stomach by 3 or 4 pm, the blood sugar in the child's body has dropped. At this time, food supplementation can restore blood sugar and give children energy when doing homework. Just eat a little, not too much. The fourth is to sit down and review first. Review what the teacher said that day and go through it like a movie. The fifth is to do your homework with confidence. After listening to the teacher, can you do your homework? This is called knowledge transfer. Sixth, we should carefully check right and wrong. The child checks himself, but parents should tell him how to check, first check the method, and then check the details. Seventh, preview what you are going to learn tomorrow, so that you can attend class the next day with a clear aim. Eight is to pack up and prepare for joy. After studying, prepare the learning tools for the next day. If you do this step by step, your child will feel a sense of accomplishment.
Of course, all this requires the participation of parents. For a child who just goes to school, letting go means that parents are irresponsible. My slogan is that it is not easy for children to go to school, and parents must make some efforts for their children. Otherwise, it will be very unfair to the child. Imagine an adult who has changed a new job and feels scared inside, let alone a six-year-old child. He is helpless. How does he know what to do? How can parents ignore it? The most powerful force in the world is parents!
For children, entering school at the age of 6 is an important stage, and it is especially crucial to transfer from primary school to middle school at the age of 12. As for the senior high school entrance examination [Weibo] and the college entrance examination [Weibo], when the children are older, they will take care of themselves. But by the age of 6, 12, the child is weak. Facing the new study life, they need the support of their parents. Some parents don't understand their children's inner needs and think that sending their children to a good school will be all right. In fact, matter and spirit are completely different.
Without a solid knowledge base, speaking is a sign of ignorance. Therefore, it is necessary to do some repetitive homework.
Bow: There are a lot of repetitive homework in the first and second grades of primary school. Some parents think that children will, and it is useless to repeat it so many times. what do you think? What is the standard of "conformity"?
Qian: The practice of Li Jing [Weibo], an experimental primary school affiliated to Beijing Normal University, is to recite the new words learned this week every Friday. Students above 90% don't have to write the new words to be taught next week. Students with 80-90 points should write it again. Write it three times, 70-80 points. Write it five times in 60-70 minutes. For students under 60, the teacher will try to tell parents that your child failed the exam this week and must be strengthened. As for how many times to write it, it's up to you. This practice reminds children to listen attentively in class and master it by writing it once, instead of writing so much. Every week some children are so happy that they don't have to do Chinese homework every day. We call it hierarchical teaching. Teachers are very important. Many of our teachers are not teaching children, but cultivating them.
Mathematics is a subject where practice makes perfect. Children should honestly do so many questions assigned by teachers, especially oral calculations. Some middle school students are not good at science because there are not enough calculations within 100 of primary school mathematics. Further, the calculation within 20 in the first grade of primary school will not pass.
Bow: Some parents think that simple addition and subtraction are enough, and there is no need to emphasize the speed of calculation, so they will use calculators in the future. Does this idea make sense?
Money: This idea is wrong. People's thinking is the working ability of the brain, including three aspects: speed, correct rate and the ability to work continuously. If children want to be good at math, they should not only think quickly and calculate accurately, but also be able to calculate many problems continuously. If others can work out 100 questions continuously, you will be tired when you get to 50 questions, or you will make many mistakes, which only shows that your thinking ability is poor. It is very necessary to improve the speed and accuracy of children's brain thinking by doing math problems. For children in the first grade of primary school, verbal arithmetic must be passed. From the point of view of learning mathematics, the view that doing simple and repetitive homework is bad for children is meaningless. In fact, the Chinese teacher asked the children to write more times, so that the fine muscles of the children's hands would be better and the children's handwriting would look better.
For many children, especially smart children, memorizing words is the easiest thing to ignore. Many clever children are not good at foreign languages because they refuse to try to remember words. How can you build a building without bricks? Foreign languages cannot be accumulated. Many parents think that the knowledge of the first and second grades of primary school is very simple and there is no need to study hard. In the future, it depends mainly on ability. But where does the ability come from? It is a solid knowledge base, broad knowledge vision, reasonable knowledge structure and good knowledge literacy. This is a person's ability. Some people leave the foundation and talk about their abilities and qualities. Is ignorance a quality? Therefore, children have a lot of basic learning, so parents must not underestimate it.
On the other hand, some parents oppose the accumulation of basic knowledge and the development of creativity, which is also wrong. Confucius said: review the past and learn the new. How can you look high and far without standing on the shoulders of your predecessors? Talking about innovation without accumulation is a joke. You haven't reached the forefront of knowledge, how can you talk about innovation! Of course, we can't blame these parents. After all, they don't study education. Blame it on some "experts"-experts who lie about what children are so tired for. Let's have fun! Is it possible for a child to achieve something through play? Haven't you heard of Han Yu's "being diligent and lazy"? It is impossible without hard work! There is an English proverb that says: You can't eat walnuts unless you break their shells. If you can't stand the pain of learning, you can't be happy. The child can't even stand this pain. What about success? As the saying goes: learning the sea is endless; Plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold. Some parents feel that life is good now, so why let their children suffer again? If memory can be transplanted, parents can give their children all the knowledge and experience of the brain, and the children will not have to suffer, but unfortunately they can't. All human knowledge accumulation starts from scratch, and a building of knowledge is accumulated by small knowledge points.
Bow: In this way, the more important debate about scores and abilities is actually meaningless. As long as the child studies hard, the score also reflects his ability.
Money: High score means better intellectual development, while low energy means poor social adaptability and being a nerd. But it is undeniable that children's high scores have nothing to do with their learning ability, but they are not positively related. High score, strong ability, strong ability, high score! For example, the correlation between Chinese achievement and Chinese ability, Chinese teaching must be four big blocks and eight parts; Listening attitude; The result of listening); Say (say what; The form of speech); Read (read; Read aloud); Write (writing; Writing). The current senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination only test reading and writing, not all! Generalize by partiality! Measure people with a crooked ruler! It hurts!
Learning in primary school should be restrained and complementary, that is, restraining the good aspects and making up for the bad ones.
Bow: Dullness is a common phenomenon among children in lower grades. What do you think of sloppiness?
Money: Carelessness is the lack of development of children's visual perception. Some will get better with age, and some will not. 8+9 is 17, which is written down as 7 1. The child himself can't tell why. Some children did it right on the draft paper, but they did it wrong on the test paper. Some children made mistakes in their exams, but they can make them right again. Some parents just think that their children are careless and have a bad attitude. In fact, it is a question of ability, and children don't want to be wrong.
In primary school, we must learn from each other's strengths, restrain the good aspects and strengthen the bad ones. This is called balanced development and all-round development. According to the barrel theory in economics, the shortest plate determines the capacity of water. Primary schools are all basic knowledge, so parents should find ways to supplement their children with basic knowledge. After high school, parents can make full use of their strengths and avoid weaknesses. Education is divided into two stages, primary school and junior high school are the most basic education to narrow the gap. After high school, we will foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and each has different development. By the time I got to the university, my children had changed from a large-scale tractor to a special drilling rig. Therefore, parents should not despise any aspect of primary school learning, but be good at listening, speaking, reading, writing, calculating and spelling.
Bow: What are the reasons for the differentiation of academic performance of children in the third grade of primary school? Is the learning content increased, the children's ability is not enough, or there are too many loopholes in knowledge, which can't be made up to some extent. How can parents avoid this situation?
Money: It's both. After the third grade of primary school, the learning content has changed, from observation learning to meaning learning, acceptance learning and abstract logical thinking learning, so the third grade is an important barrier. This is also an important turning point in children's intellectual development. If the habits are not well cultivated and the foundation is not solid enough in the first and second grades, some children will be eliminated in the third grade. If parents hold on tight and keep an eye on it, children can hardly get up. The third grade is the overall improvement of children's learning ability. After this, the child's problem will not be too big.
The reality is that children's third grade is often a time for parents to relax and feel that children have adapted to primary school and should let go. At this time, from the perspective of children's social development, it is catching up with children's second resistance period, which is often referred to as the suspicious period of seven or eight-year-old dogs. Children want to challenge authority, learn to deal with adults, cheat teachers with parents at school, and bully parents with teachers at home. Children resist being naughty, their minds are not focused on their studies, and there are behavioral problems such as lying, stealing, disorderly attending classes, infatuation with games, and swearing. If children's knowledge base is not solid, coupled with psychological resistance, it is easy to fall behind. Parents should pay enough attention to it.
Bow: It is often said that there are differences between men and women in learning. Boys have stamina, and it doesn't matter if they don't study well in the lower grades of primary school. Is that so?
Qian: In the past, the curriculum in kindergartens and primary schools was to form and develop children's languages. The advantage of girls is language, while boys are abstract thinking and spatial thinking. Therefore, girls must have an advantage in the lower grades, and it was not until junior high school boys caught up. Things are different now. Primary schools should not only form and develop languages, but also attach importance to the development of children's spatial relations, such as adding geometry content and setting unknown exercises. Because the learning content has changed, the advantages of boys can also be reflected in primary schools. This aspect was not involved in the first and second grades, and the advantage of girls is still there. After the third grade, boys can often study more easily when these contents are involved. Objectively speaking, this is not good for girls, which is also my different view on the curriculum reform of primary school mathematics textbooks today. It is against the law of children's cognitive development to advance some knowledge that should be abstract thinking in middle school to primary school. Although this reform has made some boys confident, it has also made some children's basic knowledge not solid enough.
Another noteworthy situation is that the narrowing of the gap between boys and girls is related to the education level of parents. More fathers realize that there must be a great man behind a successful girl in school, so fathers spend more time and energy on their daughters. The way men look at problems and solve them affects girls' thinking. Therefore, girls may not fall behind boys after junior high school. At the same time, the boy's mother also saw that there must be a great woman behind a successful boy, so she had a lot of language exchanges with the boy since she was a child. This makes up for the boy's original language disadvantage. So the difference between men and women is getting smaller and smaller.
Specific to the learning guidance of children in grades one and two, the differences between boys and girls can be completely ignored. Parents think that boys can't relax if they have stamina. They must have the same requirements.
Bow: Thank you for providing readers with such detailed guidance. ?