The recent popular biography of Chu Qiao has caused a lot of discussion and controversy. For example, should the heroine Chu Qiao (Zhao) be with Yu () or with ()?

Why is it that Chu Qiao and Yan Xun are only in a general relationship for eight years, while Chu Qiao and Yan Xun are spluttering soon? Who is more suitable for lovers?

Others say that if you are still young, you may choose Xun Yan who is young and frivolous. When you are old and want to settle down, it may be more appropriate to be Yu, so there is no question of who is right or wrong, only the time sequence and the order of appearance. The right person, the wrong time, will not be together.

In fact, in the eyes of seniors, Chu Qiao will eventually choose to stay with Yu, not only because he is more handsome, ahem, but also because Shawn Dou is handsome and handsome.

Moreover, Chu Qiao's choice has a lot to do with his face value, personality, experience in getting along with others, beliefs and outlook on life.

Seniors will analyze it from three dimensions: attraction, participation and fit of the three views. After reading it, you will not only find out why Chu Qiao chose Yu.

You will also find that, in fact, you have their shadow more or less, and you probably know why Sister Paper didn't choose you.

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First, the attraction is scarce and unique, which is very important for attracting and continuously consolidating the attraction of sister paper.

Judging from the early attraction, whether your personality is stable and mature determines whether you can fight side by side with her and lead her to grow.

Xun Yan has many attractions for Chu Qiao. For example, he is a young hero, full of heroism, and has a heart for the world. His dream is to be the king of Yanbei on the Yanbei Plateau.

However, the family was wiped out, which led him to spend the rest of his life taking revenge and reviving the family. That's understandable. His people were naturally hacked. At this important juncture, no one led him to cope with the unprecedented changes in the first half of his life.

So his personality has changed a lot. When his mother didn't know him, your confidante, a friend in need, who has been a friend since childhood, was already afraid.

Yu's body, in terms of value, is indeed slightly better. He came from an official family and experienced treacherous officialdom since he was a child. His character is calm and cold, deep and introverted. He is not good at words, does not like to talk, and his emotions are invisible.

And so did his later development. His heart is mature, he won't be ups and downs because of external changes, and his personality tends to be stable ~

Under the cold appearance, the experience brought to Chu Qiao is that he loves himself and has his own values. He is not only mature and steady, but also has a pursuit, which is of higher value.

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Second: In the struggle for Chu Qiao, the contribution of both sides plays a key role. Sometimes the response is for her, something she is willing to give up, such as fame and fortune, family, status and even faith.

Xun Yan was indifferent to Chu Qiao, and even shouted the slogan "What's the use of Yan without A Chu", which is similar to what modern Sao Nian said: "What's the use of winning the world and losing you?"

However, after Yan Shicheng's death in the later period, his family was ruined, which made his words and deeds start to be frightening: knowing that Chu Qiao was around, he still ordered him to be killed; He can also be brutally forced to death by Miss Wu;

It's because my sister has military power that I can still attack my sister when the door is hacked. There is only hatred in my heart, but I lost my original beauty and initial heart ~

All this led Chu Qiao to alienate himself a little bit from German relations. The teenager who "had no Chu, I wanted this wild goose north for nothing" became a victim of politics and finally became the person he hated in those days.

I was born in a famous family, and I would rather break with my family for Chu Qiao, just because: without me, my family is still there, and without me, Chu Qiao has nothing.

Is this the same as what people say, "Love beauty but not mountains and rivers"? You have mountains and rivers, don't, because there are beautiful women. The price you give up is Jiangshan, but the harvest is beauty.

Of course, there is no intention to belittle Xun Yan here. The above paragraphs are for demonstration only. He has been objectively changed, just like what happened in many Sao years in our reality. He obviously likes his girl, but because he can't afford a house, a car and a bride price, his lover finally breaks up ~

This kind of sigh and helplessness makes people want to cry, but they can't. Losing to reality is not shameful, but it is unspeakable.

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Third: whether there is sexual tension or not, whether your relationship can be upgraded is the key point.

Why didn't Xun Yan take care of Chu Qiao for eight years? Some people say that Xun Yan wants to give her the best wedding and cherishes her too much.

But why did Yu Can Wen Yue have sex with her right away? Of course, this is not to encourage you to chatter.

First of all, in terms of age, Chu Qiao and Yan Xun met at the end of Wei Dynasty. They met when they were imprisoned, and they were both young. This was unlikely to happen at that time.

Second, the relationship between Chu Qiao and Yu is the relationship between handmaiden and master. In terms of value crushing, they are related together and have no psychological burden.

Thirdly, every age has its own concerns about intimacy, sometimes at the wrong time and sometimes with the wrong person.

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Fourth: Whether two people can be together in the end depends on the three views and the beliefs of both sides.

Chu Qiao's design decided that she would follow her mother's wishes and go all the way to Yanbei to abolish slavery, which was her lifelong belief.

At first, Xun Yan wanted to go to the north for revenge and achieve great harmony. The beliefs of the two people overlap a lot, and even the goals and destinations are similar. They suddenly find it difficult to find a bosom friend. Xun Yan is Chu Qiao's confidante, and Chu Qiao is Yan Xun's passionate male god.

Only later, because of the family tragedy, Xun Yan's human nature changed greatly. Revenge twisted him. His thoughts are only revenge, and he even set fire to the imperial city. Because of personal grievances, he ignored the safety of the people and turned the whole city into hell.

Such Xun Yan is no longer the teenager who yearns for great harmony. Although he understands, he can't walk with his peers.

Born in a famous family, he is used to the intrigue of a famous family, but he has compassion and great love in his heart and supports the interests of the country rather than a certain door. I seldom care about the whole world and worry about the people, not the self-interest of myself and my family.

This is in front of the principle of right and wrong. He and Chu Qiao hit it off very well, and his personality and getting along well at ordinary times.

You see Yu, although arrogant but affectionate, slightly perverse and domineering, but very kind to Chu Qiao, outspoken, seemingly hip-hop and even hate Chu Qiao, but in fact very protective of Chu Qiao. Every time Chu Qiao encounters a crisis, he can appear in time, like the best guardian star, silently staying by his side!

And in order not to let Chu Qiao have pressure, he often brushes it off with a smile. There is quite a saying: I like you and I am good to you, but I won't let you know.

Don't forget, I saved Chu Qiao once for my life.

To put it simply, I can give what I can, but I can't give what I can.

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If you were Chu Qiao, would you choose or?

We always say that feelings have nothing to do with reality or material things, but when you meet someone better than your present or predecessor, how can you not be tempted?

What's more, in reality, many boys, like Xun Yan, are kind to their sister-in-law, hoping that she will know and be rewarded instantly. Can my sister-in-law not know the pressure brought by this invisibility?

Based on the above analysis, from the perspectives of personality charm, value comparison, sexual tension comparison, understanding of sister's mind, and the most important fit of the three views, Chu Qiao will eventually choose not. This feeling is so fresh and real, not unpredictable.

Similarly, you have been chasing for so many years, chasing so hard and paying so much, there must be a reason. Can you find the reason yourself?

These objective reasons are not an excuse for you to paralyze yourself. What you should do is to face the reality, face the problem and find a solution.

If you still can't see clearly, then go to the senior and let him take the pulse and find the crux, otherwise you will miss this sister paper and the next one! ! !

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