? /kloc-At the end of 0/8, I collected a batch of biographies of women from all walks of life. Some waited for more than three months to buy from Taiwan Province Province, and some even only had copies. I collected about 20 volumes, hoping to find the direction of life through the lives or feelings of these women.
Oprah's book has been on the shelves for a long time, but I didn't choose it, because after a brief look, I think it is a chicken soup for the soul, with slogans, large fonts, small paragraphs and some dotted labels to emphasize some key words. Until one day, it was very cold and raining in Shanghai. I'm going to take my daughter to the bathing place for a whole day, so that we can live in peace in a warm environment. I decided to take a book with me. When I was choosing a book, this book jumped into my eyes again. Mothers with children know that it is impossible for you to concentrate on reading and thinking about a book when you take your children out to play, even with children's parks and friends. So I thought, this book is just right, I can be interrupted at any time, and I can finish it quickly. Everything seems predestined. I really finished reading this book with great interest that afternoon, and I firmly believe that it became the first book I finished in the bathing place.
As one of the most influential women in the world today, Oprah's achievements are manifold. Gini, a famous film critic, once asked Oprah a question in an interview: "Tell me, what do you believe?" As a talk show host, she couldn't give a satisfactory answer at the moment. After that, she spent 16 years thinking, summarizing, racking her brains to explore her soul, reviewing her tortuous life and what was finally precipitated by time, and wrote this book. I firmly believe that this is her only published book. This is not a life biography or memoir, but a life revelation book. With her experience and age, I would like to believe in the sincerity and epiphany of this book more objectively and share it with you at this difficult time, because what you find will be yourself.
Oprah, who is so brilliant now, also has a terrible past. She is a black girl born to an unmarried mother. She was sexually assaulted at the age of 10, which led to promiscuity and early pregnancy at the age of 14. She has experienced many hardships unimaginable to ordinary people, such as poverty, racial discrimination and drug abuse. Under these experiences, she struggled, cried, escaped, turned around, and finally wanted to drive and laugh, and finally became one of the most influential women in the world. She summed up the most important things in life, which guided her life in the dark moments of life, and also constituted the eight key words of the book structure: joy, tenacity, fetter, gratitude, possibility, surprise, clarity and strength. After reading this book, you will gain something, for me, for us, for everyone who is willing to open their hearts to themselves and the world, and for everyone who is willing to keep learning and making progress and constantly looking for a better self. Yes, this is chicken soup, and it is a friend. No matter whether it is picked up properly or not, you can find comfort in it. You will laugh happily, look forward to hope and be full of strength.
Happy-happy
Oprah believes that whenever, wherever and under what circumstances, as long as you have the courage to enjoy the present, pay attention to your inner vision, whisper to your soul, devote yourself wholeheartedly to every moment, cherish yourself, and practice and experience the true happiness of life.
Once, American Oprah's rock godmother Tina? Turner acted as a harmony singer in a concert. At first, her knees trembled with nervousness, but after a while, she realized that if she didn't relax, she would miss all the fun. So, she forgot the etiquette and danced to her heart's content. Finally, she tasted the taste of "rock".
She told us: I firmly believe that every day, you have the opportunity to take a deep breath, kick off your shoes, stand up and dance-no regrets, and fill your life with the greatest joy and laughter you can bear. You can bravely float into the dance floor of life and live according to the way your soul advises you, or you can sit quietly by the wall and fall into the shadow of fear and self-doubt. I hope that when you look back, you will remember that just today, you decided to make every moment wonderful and enjoy every hour, as if there would never be a second hour. When you have the opportunity to choose whether to sit aside or dance, I hope you choose to dance.
Because every minute we have is unrepeatable, we should seize every opportunity to be surprised.
At the same time, she said, I take pleasure seriously, I work hard and enjoy myself, and I believe in the harmony between yin and yang in life. Even if I don't have much, it can't stop me from being happy, because I can find all kinds of satisfaction from what I do. To live in the present is to consciously coordinate most of your time with the happiness you can get. Here, the happiness that she has been emphasizing is not to indulge in the escape and play to anesthetize herself, but to get along with herself in harmony and happiness consciously, which is very important.
She told us that life is full of happy wealth, which she called "Aha" moment. We should learn to stop and appreciate them and learn how to create such moments for ourselves.
As a public figure, even under the pressure of weight, Oprah will still fully enjoy the happiness brought by food. Once in an Italian restaurant, from appetizers to red wine, from main course to dessert, she didn't miss any delicious food, although the next day, she needed to run around the Colosseum in ancient Rome for 90 minutes to consume the heat brought by the delicious food. She is like this, keeping herself sensitive to the happiness of life every day, and feeling wonderful and happy from every ordinary or extraordinary moment in life.
Whether it's friends, delicious food, the flash moment in life, or even the most difficult moment, your journey begins from the moment you decide to stand up, stand up and live a full life. She told us: I firmly believe that I don't want to live a closed life-I am too numb to feel or see. I hope every day is a new beginning, to explore all possibilities and experience happiness at every level.
I believe you can, too!
Elasticity-toughness
When the barn burns out, I can look forward to the moon-water sky is being repaired (17 th century Japanese poet)
Life is not always full of happiness. In this chapter, Oprah talks openly about her past life. These darkest moments in her life made her understand the importance of persistence in everyone's loneliness. In everyone's life, there are always some roads that need to be completed by themselves, especially those that are the most difficult and arduous.
After all these things, she said: I firmly believe that bridging the wounds of the past is the most arduous and challenging thing in life. You can know when and how you were shaped into who you are now, and then you can change these influences. It's your own responsibility to do this, not anyone else's business. An indisputable rule is that we are responsible for our own lives.
Every challenge we face has the power to knock us down, but what is more disturbing than the blow itself is that we are afraid that we can't stand it.
When she found out that her 14-year-old unexpected pregnancy was exposed by tabloids, she felt that the sky was falling and curled up in bed crying.
Thus, after the secret was made public, her long-standing pressure and fear were truly released.
She wrote in the book: I firmly believe that if there is no challenge, no bad luck, no obstacles, no pain, there will be no strength. Those questions that will make you want to yell "Give me a break" will exercise your tenacity, courage, discipline and determination.
Contact fetter
As a famous talk show host, Oprah has talked with thousands of people. In these conversations, she learned that there is a desire that everyone has, that is, everyone wants to feel valuable, and in everyone's heart, they are eager to be loved, needed, understood and affirmed. This is the bondage of intimate relationship between people, which will make human beings feel extremely energetic and full of humanity.
First of all, the love and affirmation we long for can never be found outside ourselves. Don't wait for others to tell you that you are valuable, but go to official website. Love begins with ourselves. She told us that I firmly believe that what lacks intimacy is not the distance from others, but the indifference to myself.
Once when she was sorting out the drawers, she found a love letter she wrote to a man at the age of 29, which contained 12 pages of bitterness and longing. At that time, she put herself at the bottom and was desperate to indulge in this man. After reading this witness of love for many years, she found herself so miserable that she was completely divorced from herself.
If we can clearly understand our own value, we can stay healthy in a relationship. Real relationships should not make us lose our opinions, selves or dignity. Relationships based on love should bring us happiness, and most of the time, not just occasionally.
As for friendship, she once completed road trip and crossed the United States with a friend in the days of 1 1, during which every communication, even a quarrel, was still wanting. In the book, she wrote: If you can stay in a crowded space with a friend 1 1 day, you can still laugh at last, and your friendship is sincere.
When we finally analyze our life, when the things we want to do no longer exist, when the madness is over-the only thing that can continue to be valuable is whether we have loved others or not.
Grateful.-grateful
Gratitude has always been a very important theme in my life, and it has also been confirmed in this book. A grateful heart can give people a strong and continuous positive force. It is not easy to be grateful at any time, but it is when you are least grateful that you need to be grateful for what you can give you. Gratitude can change anything. It can change your aura and turn your negative energy into positive energy. This is the fastest, simplest and most powerful way to change your life.
Oprah kept a grateful diary for ten years. Even when she is out of breath, she still insists on writing down what she is most grateful for every day. Gratitude helps her appreciate everything in life when she is busy. She firmly believes that if you can realize the beauty you get instead of dwelling on what you don't get, you will send it out and create it yourself.
When we begin to appreciate things that would otherwise make us feel depressed, we will be grateful for more and more things.
In the book, she said, I firmly believe that only by accepting myself wholeheartedly can we truly realize the perfection of life. I feel sorry for those who believe that I can be who I used to be. The most wonderful way of your life is not to deny, but to cherish every moment and carve your own brand for the present and the present.
Possibility-possibility
Soaring, eating in the sky, watching scenery that I have never seen before; Leave, lose, but climb. Edna Saint Vincent Millay
How can we give full play to our potential? This is a question that Oprah has been exploring for herself, especially when considering the next step in her life. Her experience is that when I reached the limit, I knew it was time to move on.
At the age of fifteen, she realized for the first time that her value should not be determined by her salary; 17 years old, when she finds satisfaction in pursuing what she loves; When she decided to leave Baltimore TV, her boss said, "You will never succeed in Chicago. You are walking into a minefield, which is tantamount to professional suicide. " She still bravely replied: "You are right, I may not succeed. Maybe I walked into the minefield, but as long as these can't kill me, at least I will continue to grow. " Then she stood up and walked out of the office. This choice finally changed her life track. That's right. At that moment, she chose happiness-that kind of lasting happiness will accompany her every day, because she decided not to be afraid and move on.
We can't be upset when we are old. What my life would be like if I didn't care so much about what others think. What is the truth of life? She firmly believes that the most important wool in our life is not necessarily climbing the highest mountain or traveling around the world. The biggest stimulus you can get should be to realize your life dream.
What is true wildness? At this moment, no matter where you are, you can start a new life as long as you make a decision. So many of us prefer to hide our light when we grow up. We didn't enrich ourselves with those passions and goals, and we didn't show our best selves to the world. Instead, we kept making ourselves empty in the process of growing up, just to silence those critics. In her book, she appeals: You were not born to be small, but to grow up, become wonderful and incomparable, and fill yourself with every moment.
Yes, or the most important thing is to become what you should be, to grow on yourself and become a new self.
Awe-surprise
In fact, this is a chapter in this book that I don't like to read repeatedly, because there are too many spiritual and spiritual contents in it. Generally speaking, there are two points that I basically agree with and can share with you. First, we should always have a heart to explore life and take the initiative to discover some small beauty, happiness and touch; Another point is to insist on doing what you should do and leave the rest to time. There will always be a miracle in life, but it may not come so early.
In Oprah's view, a miracle is to look at the world with curious eyes. Miracles happen all the time as long as we are willing to discover them.
? "I firmly believe that force of nature was born for us and gave us rich life. We humans have reduced this open miracle and solemn place to the reality of daily experience, but even in normal times, there are extraordinary moments. "
Clarity-clarity
Clarity is a process of constantly learning to say "no". You need to constantly figure out what kind of person you want to be in your growth and experience, and then do what you should do.
Oprah said that clarity is another strength in life, especially in a complex society. If your personal boundaries are constantly broken, it will be difficult for you to regain the courage not to be trampled on by others. In the increasingly complicated social activities, she was also tired of people's demands for a long time, so she began to examine her fundamental wishes and wrote a paragraph to remind herself at all times: "I will never do anything for others again unless I am willing to do it from the bottom of my heart, unless everything in my heart is shouting" Yes ",and I will act according to this will and be myself".
In today's society, it is not easy to practice this set of guidelines, but with the growth of age, we must constantly stop and take a look at our own needs, don't use our brains, let go of our hands and remind ourselves that this moment is the only one you firmly believe you have. Maybe you can't change anything in a short time, but when you learn to be responsible for every thought and feeling, you will gradually put aside the pressure and become focused.
In the book, she said: I firmly believe that you can't give something you don't even have yourself. If you let yourself work to a certain extent, your emotional and spiritual fuel tanks are empty and you can only get used to this fuel, then no one can get any benefit from it, including yourself.
Power-power
We need to continue to have the power to constantly improve ourselves and fill our hearts, so as to become the person you want to see and change.
In this chapter, I only share what she said: don't belittle, improve; Do not destroy, rebuild; Don't mislead, but light up the road ahead. In this way, all of us can stand on a higher level.
What each of us owes ourselves is Excellence. At the end of each day, if you can say "I tried my best", this is the true meaning of Excellence and this is the power of life.
The above is the content of the book I firmly believe.
We can see that even stars who have attracted people's attention will experience too many dark moments in their lives, suffer and hesitate. At these moments, if we can truly face our hearts, bravely face the challenges of life, remain happy, tenacious, loving, grateful, believe in infinite possibilities, believe in miracles, stay awake, make ourselves full of strength, work hard to do good deeds, and be kind to everyone we meet, and promise,
In this isolated moment of rare solitude, everyone who wants to be at home may wish to take this opportunity to seriously ask himself: "What do we believe in?" ? Maybe, everything will be fine.