Say to yourself, I want to accept myself and admit myself-this is not self-acceptance, this is a slogan!

Indulge yourself and follow your temper-this is not self-acceptance, this is indulgence!

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So how do we proceed?

I think before discussing self-acceptance, there is a premise to be clear, that is, even our present situation, everything around us, including environment, behavior, beliefs, values and so on. It may not be what you want at the moment, but all this is attracted by yourself and caused by your own limitations. At the same time, all this urges you to remind you that you are not doing well enough in some places and have some behaviors. With this premise, we can find the current resources and create a good premise for communication with the subconscious.

Let's discuss the steps of self-acceptance

I think the first step is to read the mind, that is, to learn to communicate with the subconscious. How to read your mind? My experience is to be honest with myself and understand the deep motivation (subconscious thoughts) behind my actions. (For example, when I was studying NLP in the teaching and research section, the master elder brother passed behind me, so I hid the interface. The subconscious motivation behind the exploration is that I think it is incorrect. I want to give them a good impression, an eager impression. At the same time, I believe that I should study professional knowledge well in the teaching and research section, behave well in front of teachers and seniors, and subconsciously believe that I just want to learn this knowledge. This has caused inner inconsistency. Sometimes I really don't want to study, but when I don't know what else to do, I will have an inner struggle, and at this time I will show my inner anxiety. In fact, the subconscious power is to let me find a new direction.) In life, there are beliefs and values behind every behavior and idea, and I know the beliefs and values that have always supported these behaviors and ideas. Are these beliefs/values? What kind of desire am I doing this behavior to satisfy? Can this kind of behavior and idea satisfy this desire? I often repeat the same way of life and thinking. The reason is that although I have a sense of breakthrough, I keep repeating the same behavior. Note: Through the communication with the subconscious, we can always understand the deep-seated ideological needs, and then change our behavioral thinking, meet our inner needs and reach agreement.