2020 is coming to an end: don't worry, don't worry, everything will come as scheduled.

Author || Shell

Editor ||| Lin Xiyan

2020 is coming to an end, and many people are beginning to worry. It seems that we must do something, shout slogans, set up flags ...............................................................................................................................................................

But what I want to say is: maybe we can take our time. Allowing yourself to take your time is the greatest confidence in life.

I like that little poem very much. When I am anxious, I often use it to review:

Everyone is in their own time zone and everything is on time.

As Mr. Jiang Yang said: I don't argue with anyone, and I don't care about anyone.

But the situation in 2020 is really different.

2020 is full of hardships, and it seems that the whole world has slowed down.

What makes us anxious is no longer the comparison with the people around us, but the passage of time.

Countdown to 2020, as if nothing has been done?

The plan for 2020 written at the beginning of the year has made no progress, achieved little, and even regressed?

Hey, honey, you're not alone.

This is our country, the world we live in, and the life topic that * * * faces together.

No anxiety, protracted war, is the correct way to open life.

Life is not just 2020.

Looking at life in the long run, slowing down in 2020 will not affect the essence of your life, as long as you don't give up on yourself.

With the development of modern medicine, human life has been prolonged. A foreign scholar has written a book "A Hundred Years of Life":

When the average life expectancy reaches 100 years, how will human beings live?

Many good things are happening in 2020. We pay more attention to health, cherish our family and friends, understand the value of life, appreciate the heroes who protect us, be more patriotic, and care more about the earth. ...

Every time, it will teach us a life lesson.

A few years later, when we look back, 2020 may not be all bad.

Zen says it better: If you want what you want now, don't obey.

The general idea is to focus on the present and let nature take its course. Don't obey.

There are no bad days in your life, but they are all normal days.

Since life is so long, since 2020 is just an ordinary day, I have always been there with a normal heart.

Still have to eat on time, go to bed early and get up early, and be disciplined as before.

Whenever my friends are anxious and think that 2020 is not satisfactory, I will tell TA with a smile:

Eat well, sleep well, live a few more years and prolong life. 2020 is not bad!

Friends, we have survived 2020 together, and we are in trouble!

I don't think anything can hurt me.

2020, an uneasy world.

How to get enough sense of security?

A friend of mine, an entrepreneur in 1982, told me:

Don't define the so-called "security". Once you think of this word, you have another worry: how can you get a sense of security? If this concept had not been defined at the beginning, there would naturally be no such problem.

I asked him: two years ago, you gave up your mature career and started a new business. Especially in 2020, are you not afraid of bankruptcy? Don't you need security?

He stood up, shrugged, spread out his hand and said:

Safe, I don't seem to worry. I don't think anything can hurt me.

Such people are truly confident, have a full sense of security inside, and don't need to ask for it from the outside world.

Another friend of mine has been pursuing a better house, from "a woman should have her own nest" to "a satisfactory house".

Later, I felt that the monthly payment was simply suffocating. She said that she would feel safe when she was light without debt.

When the epidemic comes, the trouble is even bigger: there are too few deposits. In 2020, she became more uneasy.

Constantly gain the so-called sense of security through external material blessing, and finally you can only turn yourself into a mouse in a cage and never stop.

Feeling uncomfortable and uneasy is actually the primitive instinct in our genes, which keeps primitive humans alert and alive in a harsh environment. But in modern life, this primitive instinct is likely to kill us.

In primitive society, people were always afraid of lack of clothes and food. In modern times, we often eat too much and constantly pursue material things, but we don't know that "less is more", and even the concept of "security" is an unnecessary burden.

Only by taking off the hat of "safety" can we really solve the problem of "how to become safe".

In fact, most of the problems you are worried about will not happen.

You may say: but 2020 is really a bit difficult.

What if it happens? Then find a way to solve it

Before that, instead of worrying about these things, it is better to practice internal strength.

Even if you fail in the end and fail to achieve the expected goal, you will still have many other gains in this process, so that you have enough ability and capital to choose other ways out.

The real sense of security is actually the right to choose more possibilities.

When you stop deliberately pursuing a sense of security, when you can feel comfortable in any environment, you are truly safe.

Embrace change and remember: 2020, nothing can hurt you.

I have a good friend. I call him fat.

I have known him for almost three years, and I have never seen that fat man lose his temper once. He made an ugly remark and never worried.

One meter eight, tall and burly, 36 years old, with calm and tolerance beyond this age.

Always calm, poised, leisurely, and general demeanor.

I sometimes laugh at him: you are tall and fat, and your chassis is stable, so you are very calm, right? Typhoon 17 can't move you!

Just smile: broad-minded and fat!

The snub of the waiter in the restaurant, the outrageous passing cars, the contradiction in work or business ... Even if the other party is impatient on the phone, he is not in a hurry. Speak slowly and state his position.

Sometimes, I'm really curious: aren't you angry? People treat you like this!

Even as a girl, I am usually very kind, but sometimes I can't help jumping up and cursing when I am short of breath.

He said, why get angry? Anger hurts the body.

What's the hurry? As long as you stand your ground, no matter what others say, you will not be moved.

Now that you have made up your mind, do it. There is no need to get angry with others, emphasize it.

In recent years, he returned to Hangzhou company from Fujian headquarters, and has been rectifying his finances to eliminate the cash flow crisis caused by the blind expansion of his former partners. At the end of 20 19, I asked him: almost?

He said: Don't worry, take your time.

In March, I asked him: has your company laid off employees and paid them?

He said: No layoffs, no pay cuts. After a protracted war, it will get better in the second half of the year. Don't I have to recruit people everywhere?

In the second half of the year, there is still no pressure on my face. I teased him: Are you going bankrupt?

He smiled: What's the hurry? Take your time.

I admire people like fat people:

Don't talk hard and don't do soft things.

Be kind in attitude and hard in doing things.

I'm not impatient with you, but my mind is firmer than a stone.

No one dares to bully him even if he is kind.

Your principles need not be defended with harsh words.

Make money, no hurry.

Bankruptcy, take your time!

The person who allows himself to slow down is the one who can really take this life well.

He is not in a hurry for himself, nor for anyone.