The so-called interpersonal relationship is that people establish psychological contact through interpersonal communication in various specific social fields, which is reflected in group activities. The emotional distance and intimate interpersonal relationship between people belong to good interpersonal relationship, which is beneficial to one's work, life and study. On the contrary, disharmony, tension and disappearance! Extremely hostile interpersonal relationship is bad interpersonal relationship, which is harmful to one's work, life and study. Social psychology research shows that good interpersonal relationship is one of the important conditions for a person's normal psychological development, healthy personality and happy life. As the old saying goes, "the weather is not as good as the geographical position, and the geographical position is not as good as human harmony." For college students who go out to study far away from home, we should attach importance to the important factor of "harmony with others" under any circumstances. Dale Carnegie, a famous American adult educator, found through a lot of research that "only 1 1% of a person's success in his career is due to his interpersonal relationship and interpersonal skills." This statement may be absolute, but it also shows the importance of good interpersonal relationship to career achievement from another side. Therefore, it is very necessary for college students to learn how to establish good interpersonal relationships and master their own ways, whether they build a good learning environment at school or a good working environment after graduation. There are many specific ways to establish good interpersonal relationships, but in daily life, the most important ones that can be effectively used by everyone at the same time mainly include the following aspects:

First, make a good first impression. Interpersonal relationship is produced in people's communication. At the beginning of a relationship, who doesn't want to leave a good impression on each other? Similarly, who doesn't want to keep in touch with people who make a good impression as a basis for in-depth communication? When we make initial contact with others, how should we show ourselves to make a good first impression on others?

Pay attention to the beauty of appearance. A person's appearance includes appearance, clothes, manners, manners, etc. , are all factors that affect interpersonal communication. People tend to think that attractive people are more lively, cheerful, friendly and gregarious. Dress neatly and generously, and your appearance and behavior will naturally give people a sense of closeness. On the other hand, excessive decoration, greasy face and heavy makeup will give people an inappropriate impression.

Pay attention to the "SOLER" technology in communication. Here S(SIT) stands for "sitting in front of others"; O (open) means "the posture should be naturally open"; L(LEAN) means "lean forward slightly"; E (eyes) stands for "eye contact"; R(RELXX) means "relax". Psychologists have found that consciously using SOLER technology in social situations can effectively increase the goodwill of others, make them better accepted and leave a good first impression.

Treat people sincerely and enthusiastically. Under normal circumstances, both sides always accept the speaker first, and then accept the content of the other side's statement. Therefore, you should be sincere when talking to people, and avoid being glib, talkative, grandstanding and monopolizing topics, otherwise it will make people feel unhappy. Seeking truth from facts and being enthusiastic often give people a sense of trust and closeness, which is conducive to the continuous deepening of communication; On the other hand, if you are insincere and speak coldly, it will give people a false and cold feeling, and communication will be difficult to go further.

Be a faithful listener. Everyone needs a chance to express themselves. It is important to express yourself effectively in the first communication, but it is also important to be a patient listener and encourage others to talk more about themselves.

Of course, leaving a good first impression on others is also influenced by many other factors, such as keeping promises, punctuality, politeness and so on.

Second, active communication. In real life, although many people have a strong desire to communicate with others, they still have to endure loneliness. They have few or no friends, because they always take a passive and passive way to retreat socially and always wait for others to accept them first. Therefore, although they are also in a busy and prosperous world, they still can't get rid of their inner loneliness. You know, others will not be interested in us for no reason. Therefore, if we want to win others, establish good interpersonal relationships with others and build a rich interpersonal world, we must be the initiator of communication and take the initiative to attack. We should worry less and try more. When you take the initiative to greet strangers and talk; When you want to invite a partner to the dance, you will find that almost all your efforts are successful.

Third, care about helping others. Misfortune tests the sincerity of friends. When a person encounters ups and downs, difficulties and failures, he is often the most sensitive to the world, and also the most in need of care and help. At this time, even a smiling face, a considerate look and a warm word can make people feel excited. Therefore, when you are in trouble, you can lend a helping hand, help those in need and comfort those who are frustrated. You can win others quickly and establish good interpersonal relationships. If you are indifferent to others, insensitive, careful and stingy, and afraid of causing trouble, your communication is likely to stop.

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