When I saw the title of this book, I thought of the words IQ, EQ and financial quotient, because these are the abilities we often use in our daily life. Now we are all facing many adversities. People with high IQ, high EQ and high financial quotient will eventually face failure or stagnation if they cannot face adversity correctly. Adversity quotient is not only a measuring tool to measure the ability to resist stress, but also a set of life philosophy and lifestyle that can be learned and applied to help people break through adversity and cheer up.
Just this afternoon, I watched a movie "The Climber" with a high box office. According to the story adapted from real events, the China mountaineering team climbed Mount Everest 1960 and the China mountaineering team climbed Mount Everest 1975. What great adversity they are facing. They climbed Mount Qomolangma on 1960, and were not recognized because they could not record it. 1975, they believed in China.
This film has deepened my understanding of adversity quotient.
In the society around us, there are some quitters who retreat in the face of adversity to avoid giving up, some campers who struggle to gain status and achievements, and some climbers like China Mountaineering Team.
We are in an era of adversity, and adversity mainly has three levels:
One? Social adversity
For example, social and cultural issues, economic issues, public security issues and other social issues will bring us great pressure.
Two? Workplace pressure
Like the current epidemic, many enterprises have closed down, employees have lost their jobs, and their income has dropped. The development of artificial intelligence has replaced many people's jobs.
Three? Personal adversity
This is the core and the long-term impact is personal adversity, such as getting worse every day, family pressure, fragile mentality and so on.
The book mentions four forks that should be paid attention to when facing these adversities:
One? Stop trying and be content with the status quo.
Always remind yourself not to be complacent and not to stagnate.
Two? Have high hopes for technology.
When there are difficulties, don't think that there will be better technology to solve the problem in the future. Think more about what to do before you have new technology, otherwise your mentality will be very depressed.
Three? Fight chicken blood and shout slogans.
This is more common. Playing chicken blood will only make you excited about the latter group, but there are no methods and tools to solve the problem.
Four? Helpless-hopeless despair cycle
When helplessness to hopelessness, hopelessness to helplessness, and so on, there is no motivation to change adversity.
Adversity quotient can help us solve adversity problems, which is based on three pillars:
One? cognitive psychology
Sometimes when we face adversity, we will have learned helplessness, that is, we feel that we have no sense of control, so we should change our cognition of adversity first;
Attribution theory, what is the reason for this matter? Temporary, limited and external reasons will bring optimistic results, while internal, permanent and universal attribution will bring pessimistic results;
Two? New theory of health
When dealing with adversity with weakness, it will lead to depression, and even lead to malignant changes in the body. In short, chemicals that transmit emotions will affect health.
Three? brain science
Habit will produce magical power, awaken the subconscious and change habits.
Measure the four dimensions (core) of adversity quotient.
1 ? Sense of control; 2 ownership; ; 3 scope of influence; ; 4 insist;
Improve the leading edge of adversity quotient.
1 Listen to your adverse reactions.
First of all, be aware of adversity. Then when you find yourself in adversity, remind yourself that adversity is coming with exaggerated and funny voices, and ask yourself with the four dimensions of adversity quotient.
2. Explore your own responsibility for the results.
What really changes adversity is yourself, reminding yourself not to be disastrous.
3 Analysis of evidence
Analyze three questions: Is this situation out of control? What other aspects will this matter affect; Will this difficulty last long?
Do something
List what you can do with the funnel method, and then filter out what is beneficial to yourself and society.
When faced with adversity, there are two ways to make thoughts collapse and make them disastrous:
Single center method
Prevent the catastrophic spread of ideas through action; Exercise can change thinking; Divert attention;
Second, the remodeling method
Think about your initial heart at that time and clarify your purpose; Small, let yourself be in a place where you feel small; help others
We can't choose the time and environment in which we live. The only choice is how to respond positively. Life may be hard, but the way we deal with adversity determines our fate. Let's become climbers of life through adversity quotient guidance tools.