There is nothing wrong with pursuing perfection, but in life, we are doomed to be accompanied by "defects" and far from "perfection". Blindly pursuing perfection will make many people cautious and afraid of making mistakes, resulting in psychological obstacles such as conservatism and timidity.
Some people are good-looking, well-behaved and well-spoken, but it is very common that you are bored and even not interested in chatting with him. These people have often been trained to walk out of the grid since childhood, and all the irregular "branches" have been cut off, thus losing their unique style and charm and becoming dry, dull, lifeless and lifeless.
Objectively speaking, there is indeed "flawed beauty" in personality, that is, in real life, those who are "flawed" and definitely imperfect are more attractive and attractive.
The king has seven daughters, and these seven beautiful princesses are the pride of the king. Their long black hair is well known, so the king gave each of them 100 beautiful hairpins.
This morning, big princess woke up and arranged her hair with a hairpin as usual, only to find that a hairpin was missing, so she secretly went to the second princess's room and got a hairpin. The second princess found that a hairpin was missing, so she went to the third princess's room and got a hairpin. Yincui gorge found a hairpin missing, and secretly took one of Yincui gorge's hairpins. The fourth princess did the same thing and took the hairpin of the fifth princess; Take the hairpin of Princess Six like Princess Five; The Sixth Princess had to take away the Hairpin of the Seventh Princess.
So Princess Seven has only 99 hairpins left.
The next day, the handsome prince of a neighboring country suddenly came to the palace. He said to the king, "Yesterday, my lark brought back a hairpin. I think it must belong to the princesses, which is really a wonderful fate. I wonder which princess lost her hairpin? " When the princesses heard this sentence, they all thought, "I dropped it, I dropped it." "But there are 100 hair clips clearly nailed to the head, so they are all very upset and can't say anything. Only the Seventh Princess came out and said, "I lost a hairpin." Before the words were finished, a beautiful long hair fell freely because of lack of hairpins, and the prince couldn't help looking for it. As a result, the prince and princess lived happily ever after.
A hairpin is like a perfect life. There is no hairpin, it seems to be defective. But it is precisely because of the shortcomings that life has the possibility of turning around, the hope of shaping perfection, the direction of hard work and the motivation of struggle. Isn't it a meaningful thing? Not only are we imperfect, but the world we live in is also full of shortcomings. For example, there is a kind of scenery that you always want to see, but you cleverly shrink back when you are about to focus; There is a kind of scenery that you are tired of watching, but it is everywhere; The world is very big, and people you want to see are like yellow cranes; The world is small, but people you don't want to see often come into your sight; There is a feeling that you really love deeply, but the other person turns a blind eye ... There are many things in the world, and the results are perfect, but naturally they become regrets. However, many things in the world are natural, and we can't reverse them.
Admitting that the world is imperfect will make us tolerant of others and make ourselves more reasonable.
There is a little boy named Webster who lives in a secluded villa. He spent most of his childhood in forests and fields.
This summer, a groundhog made his home in the mountain near Webster's house. In the evening, it likes to drill into the garden and eat the tender leaves of Chinese cabbage. Day after day, everyone doesn't know how much this little animal will spoil the garden before it stops. Webster and his brother Isaac are determined to catch the vegetable thief. They did their best, but this little thing was extremely cunning. Later, they set a very clever trap where necessary. At night, the groundhog was finally trapped. "I caught it!" Isaac shouted, "This time, Mr. Groundhog, you are full of evil, and your time has come." Webster sympathizes with small animals. "No, don't hurt it." He said, "Let's take it to the other side of the mountain and put it in the forest." My brother Sack said he didn't agree with anything and was determined to kill it.
"Let's ask my father and hear what he has to say." Webster said to his brother.
The two brothers went to their father's house with a trap full of marmots and listened to him.
"Well, children," the father said after listening to the children's statements, "let's handle this case fairly. We will organize a court, with me as a judge and you as a lawyer. You can state your views on this case separately, file a complaint or defense against the criminals, and after listening to your opinions, I will make a judgment. " My brother Isaac spoke first as the plaintiff. He stated the losses caused by groundhogs, saying that all groundhogs in the world are bad people and unreliable animals. He told how they tried their best to catch the thief who ate vegetable leaves. If he is released, it will be too cheap for him.
Webster began to defend the poor animal's life: "The creator created the woodchuck to live happily in the bright sunshine and green forest." Groundhogs are not as fierce as foxes and wolves. It lives in peace and tranquility. Building a nest at the foot of the mountain and eating a handful of herbs every day is everything it wants, except some plants. The reason why it eats vegetable leaves is to survive. It only broke into the vegetable garden occasionally and committed a crime. It has the right to life and freedom, and we have no right to deprive it of all these rights. Why are we so selfish to take away the life given to it by the creator? "My father was moved to tears by this sentence. Before Webster finished speaking, he stood up, wiped the tears from the corner of his eyes and shouted, "Isaac, let the woodchuck go." The two brothers made two diametrically opposed defenses for the groundhog. One was to look at the world from a "perfect" perspective, thus denouncing the imperfect things; The other looked at the world with imperfect eyes, which produced tolerance and compassion.
Falling into a perfect complex is tantamount to putting a shackle on yourself and paying a lot, but the result may not be perfect. We are sometimes surprised at those people who have quite good conditions. When the boss was not young, he was alone. After careful understanding, we know that they are always pursuing perfection. They are always looking for a more perfect object, always finding some shortcomings of the new object and turning their eyes to the new object; When they found that maybe someone in the past was actually good, they suddenly turned around and saw that that person had hugged someone else.
We must remove the remaining perfectionism in our hearts and break the shackles we put on ourselves. When we realize this, we might as well slow down and have some fun in our leisure life. You can play ball games, listen to music, or go swimming by the sea to bask in the sun. Don't be too tense, try to make a moderate compromise. Treat people around you and don't ask others by your own standards. Because, others are others, not exactly the same as you.