Love is not equal to marriage.
As long as you are always kind to me, I don't care if you marry her.
-"The Legend of the Condor Heroes" back to the 25th.
Huang Rong is one of the few girls in the world who really understand the meaning of love. When she learned that Guo Jing, her lifelong lover, had a fiancee and that Genghis Khan of Mongolia personally decided to kiss her daughter, her tears welled up in her eyes-even an open-minded person would be sad, poor girl. However, life is full of disappointment. Huang Rong, who lost her mother as a child, has a good understanding of the disappointments in life. Although she is Huang's daughter, she knows she can't have everything. She can distinguish between ideal and reality. Therefore, she can also distinguish between love and marriage. Knowing love means not to confuse love with other things, friendship, marriage and sex ... of course, these are closely related, and it is perfect to unify them. But if it can't be unified, it is not a defect, and there is no need to force it, because they are two different things. True love should be something without any utilitarian purpose. Love is natural, it exists naturally. Love is not a prelude to marriage, not for marriage. This is not true love. Married people are also strange strange bedfellows people. The result only proves that living is living, and love is still love. Getting married is easy. But it is not easy for a person to be kind to you forever, whether he is single all his life or divorced 18 times. Huang Rong at an early age, no "education", so she understand this truth. What a nice girl. Guo Jing later married Huang Rong.
pure love
He wants to marry someone else, so I will marry someone else. He only has me in his heart, so I only have him in my heart.
-"The Legend of the Condor Heroes" back to the 26th.
Guo Jing refused to break his word and promised to marry Mongolian princess Hua Zheng, but said to Huang Rong, "Even if I burn my body to ashes, I still have only you in my heart." Huang Rong deeply understands the contradiction between "emotion" and "righteousness". She bravely accepted this painful reality and made an equal choice with Guo Jing. There are also some people who stay alone all their lives because they can't be combined with the people they love, which shows their loyalty to love. Such people are certainly worthy of respect. But compared with Huang Rong, they did not distinguish between love and marriage. Marriage is a real life problem, an economic problem, a legal problem and even a political problem. Anyway, it's not a mental problem. And love is a free bird, not restricted and controlled by anything. You don't have to rely on the foundation of marriage to be established. So, when Huang Rong decided to "marry" someone else, he said that Guo Jing was still the only one in his heart. Such a girl is the best of Cupid's family. If you blindly fight for "marriage rights", fame and fortune, and want to "talk about things", isn't it a departure from the true connotation of love? Guo Jing and Huang Rong lived in the Southern Song Dynasty described by Jin Yong. At that time, there were not only anti-feudal masters like Huang Laoxie, but also "conjugal love" women like Huang Rong, which was really rare. Even in 2 1 century, Huang Rong's thought is still ahead of the times and progressive. Praising such a view of love is not advocating people to find love outside marriage. But in our era full of "impure marriage", let's think about how to keep the purity of love, pure love.
Old urchin's view of love
Everything is ready in the world. It doesn't matter if you pour a few cans of smelly urine on your head every day, even if it's your wife.
-The Legend of the Condor Heroes 19.
This is the "love view" of the old urchin Zhou. The old urchin is open-minded and cheerful by nature, and he has been naughty all his life. He has only one big headache, and that is because he had an affair when he was young, which made him suffer deeply and caused a lifelong psychological "frustration". From then on, he regarded the ambiguous relationship between men and women as terrible as snakes and scorpions. He not only stopped thinking about it, but also advised his sworn brother Guo Jing not to marry his wife, and asked Guo Jing to "run away" before marrying the bride. Old urchin Zhou's words are funny and eccentric, often neither fish nor fowl, but they are not simple and useless absurd things. He looks naive like a child, but in fact, Ming Che knows all about the world and human feelings. His avoidance and denial of love is actually a kind of repentance and atonement, and it is a special performance of "celebrity". In his mind, the feeling of love has not really disappeared. It's just that he can "empathize" and turn the pain of regret into progress in other aspects, so as to get relief. Therefore, although he is not a real Taoist, he is more free and easy than Quanzhen Qizi. No greed, no inorganic heart, so that on the contrary, he practiced superb stunts-72-way empty boxing and left-right mutual fighting, and became the second best player in the world, Nandi Beggar in the North and Dong Xiedu in the East. However, he is not in the mood to win the title of number one in the world. Perhaps, this really stems from his "love view" far from women. But realistically speaking, Zhou's romantic karma can't be called "love" in a strict sense, so he escaped from the "lover" of that year and was not tortured by great emotions. If he really soaked in the alkaline water of love, I'm afraid he couldn't practice such superb magic. With love and a wife, can't you really practice kung fu to the peak? If it is true that the two can only occupy one end, then which end should we choose?
The depth of love
I can't stand it if you cherish me any more. If you are in danger, can I live alone?
-"The Legend of the Condor Heroes" for the eighth time
Huang Rong is connected with Guo Jing, two of a kind. Guo Jing wouldn't let Huang Rong take risks with him, so Huang Rong whispered these words. True love is that two people become one person, one glory and one loss. You pity me, love me and appreciate each other out of a sincere heart without utilitarian purpose. Love is a kind of dedication, which is to throw an individual into the "I" composed of two people without reservation. The danger of one person is also the danger of two people, the danger of the whole love. Therefore, people who really love each other can't stand living alone in the world. Mrs Hu Yidao in Flying Fox of Snowy Mountain committed suicide after her husband died. Shangguanhong in "White Horse Whistling in the West Wind" also perished with the enemy after her husband, White Horse Li San, was killed. This is not the so-called "martyrdom" in feudal ethics, but an epic "martyrdom". Huang Rong's words revealed the depth of love between her and Guo Jing. I shared joys and sorrows with Guo Jing for the rest of my life, and both of them were martyred in Xiangyang. Maybe ancient people and modern people have different views on love. Today, we don't advocate that people who love each other must live and die together, but we should pay sincere respect to our lovers in this spirit. The vast sea of people, all sentient beings, when we are in danger, has anyone ever said something like Huang Rong? No wonder Xin Qiji sang affectionately: "Who are you, calling for the red scarf and greensleeves to wipe the hero's tears!"