1, China Since ancient times, men can have "three wives and four concubines".
Moving out of history, he can start with emperors in feudal times. Now corrupt officials can even list dozens or hundreds of people, including emperors, celebrities, ancient and modern, and many of them are stars you are familiar with. Nothing more than telling you: I have women outside now, there are ancients before me and celebrities after me, so don't make a fuss.
All my friends around me have women, so I will lose face if I don't take a woman out.
It is a man's nature to look good. He can move out, and he is still so strong. He also tells you that someone around him, someone (you must know his friends or successful people), has a story of "honey" and "lover". The implication is that he has a mistress. I hope you can understand his face project as a man.
She and I just take part in accidental amusement, and you will always be my wife.
This sentence comes from the mouth of the derailed man. Many wives are "warm-hearted" and feel that it's nothing, as long as his heart is still with me. That's bullshit！ If his heart is really with you, will he dare to betray you? Will he base his happiness on your pain? ! Wake up, poor woman!
I just want a son, and you don't want one.
In some one-child families, Chaoshan, remote rural areas and other families that prefer sons to daughters, derailed men usually brainwash their wives with "sons", especially under the premise that their wives are in poor health, unable or unwilling to have children, "finding a woman outside to have a son" is more likely to become a seemingly powerful excuse for men to cheat. The terrible thing is that these wives are often speechless and can only be wronged.
5. We have different personalities, and we don't love you for a long time.
This is nonsense! Personality, why did you marry someone in the first place? ! It's been several years, even more than ten years, and now I still say that my personality is not harmonious. Why did you go early? ! A wife with a little brain can hear it. This is purely because the cheating man can't find a reason to cheat, or can't pick out the thorn in your body, so it will be out of thin air.
6. You are not good to my parents. You forced me out.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a big problem in China's marriage. Since ancient times, men have moved out of their parents after cheating, just to impose the responsibility of cheating on their wives. This is a typical "reaching out". This kind of man will first go to his parents and wife's home to spread the rumor of "disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", so as to completely cover up his cheating scandal and lay the groundwork for divorce after cheating.
7. Let's get a divorce. You and your children might be much better off without me.
This is a kind of brainwashing used by derailed men to brainwash their wives when they plan to divorce, and it is also an old trick they use to cheat their wives to divorce by curves. They just want to trick their wives into getting an early divorce, just to help him and San Xiao, and they don't want to give their wives more property. Of course, they don't want to go to court, so they will use this sugar-coated cannonball to attack their wives, hoping that they can surrender and fall into the trap of him and San Xiao unconsciously. My wife only needs to understand one question when she hears this, and that is, how can I expect you to be responsible for me and my children after divorce? ! The answer to this question came out, and the wife naturally understood.
I don't want to get into trouble with my debts, so let's get a divorce first.
It seems that the cheating man is thinking of his wife. He doesn't want his debts to be implicated in his wife, so as to completely avoid cheating on him. Many wives will figure it out on this issue and will soon agree to the divorce proposed by the derailed husband. Only after the divorce did she suddenly realize that this was just an excuse for his divorce, in order to get rid of himself and be with mistress.
9. As long as you can accept her, I will treat you well and won't divorce you.
Many women, especially those who become full-time wives after marriage, feel that their hearts have been hollowed out when their husbands cheat, and when their cheating husbands want to file for divorce, they feel that they have no dependence. Therefore, as soon as a man's brainwashing words came out, her psychology seemed to feel much better. The derailed man became an emperor completely, and he clearly did something that violated the law and morality, and he had to give his wife a gift of "being good to you" and "not divorcing" to convince him.
10, she is my true love, and I only have a good impression on you. As long as you don't get divorced, I won't leave you alone.
"Finding true love" will also be an excuse for men to cheat. A cheating man can say such a thing, which is enough to show that his relationship with San Xiao is not a day or two, nor is it a purely monetary and physical transaction relationship, but they do have feelings for each other, and they are not shallow. He can use "true love" to describe his feelings with Xiao San, that is, tell his wife "I don't love you anymore, but you are still my wife, and there are still feelings between us", and so on, hoping that his wife can take the initiative to find a position and not interfere with his feelings with Xiao San.
1 1, if you make trouble again, I will disappear completely so that you can't find me.
Scaring his wife by "disappearing" and "disappearing" is that the cheating man wants to use tough means to force his wife to accept it, and it is also paving the way for his complete cohabitation with San Xiao in the future. The derailed man who can say this sentence must have a bad heart and is really ready for divorce. His wife must be prepared.
12, by doing so, you are crowding me out.
Now the wife is not a good crop, and she is getting smarter. Once she finds someone other than her husband, she will take some measures to save herself, such as peeking at her husband's mobile phone and wallet. Eavesdropping on her husband's phone; Such impulsive and radical behaviors as "cry twice and hang up three times" make their nerves nervous every day. As long as there are signs of trouble, they will seize their husbands and make a scene, and often these behaviors will also give cheating men an opportunity, and they will justifiably blame their cheating on their wives.
13. Let's get together for the sake of the children.
In order to divorce, the cheating man knows that children will be his wife's weakness. Therefore, when they want to divorce, they will talk about their children. On the one hand, he said he was great and thought that divorce was for the good of his children. On the other hand, he used his children to blackmail his wife into divorce, regardless of the impact on the children. When he is brainwashed in this way, his wife only needs to change this sentence slightly and give it back to him: for the sake of children, you should reconsider and consider your behavior.
14. Anyway, the child has grown up and is sensible, and he is not afraid to know.
The derailed man who said this sentence has basically lost his conscience and humanity, and he is determined to divorce. His wife can completely consider whether to let go. However, for the sake of the child, we will try our best to minimize the damage to him, but we must not be brainwashed by the despicable derailed man and take advantage of him.
15, as long as you promise me that I will give you everything, you can become a monk.
"Being a clean and honest monk" is always a big lie that derailed men use to coax their wives into divorce. The wife can almost refuse without thinking, because when he said the word "lead an honest and clean life" on his own initiative, it was precisely when he was fully prepared to divorce you that he must be suspected of transferring or hiding the property of husband and wife. Wife must think twice and make a thorough investigation of your husband and wife.
After cheating, men usually brainwash their wives. In addition to instilling ideas in words, there are also some behavioral changes, such as suddenly giving money to your wife, suddenly paying attention to you, working hard and so on. Brainwashing is naturally more than the above 15 sentence. However, combing my previous cases, the above sentence 15 is more common, regardless of men. If you want to brainwash your wife circuitously, your wife must first have a clear mind, you must be able to quickly hear the subtext of his words and his next behavior, and know the real purpose behind his brainwashing. You must truly see the ugly face hidden behind his smile or anger!
In today's marriage in China, it is not unusual for a man to cheat, and it is not necessary to divorce. Surprisingly, after cheating, many men not only have no guilt and regret for their wives, children and families, but also find some blatant reasons to defend themselves, trying to seduce and coerce their wives to accept their corroded ideas and moral values through brainwashing to satisfy their vanity as men. These are not only our public morality's tolerance for cheating, but also the lack of punishment for men's cheating by law. More importantly, most wives are not strong enough, their positions are not firm enough, and their horizons are not broad enough, which is related to their dependence, loyalty and cowardice in their bones.
In fact, in marriage, as long as the husband cheats, the wife must give very firm and positive feedback on thoughts, concepts and behaviors at the first time. My wife must know very well that no excuse can be the reason why he cheated on you. Even if you or your marriage has problems, you must never allow him to use deception and betrayal to justify his ugly behavior! His wife must never give in to his sweet words or verbal bullying and intimidation. Even if he can be forgiven for cheating, it doesn't matter if his conscience and humanity disappear after cheating, especially if he completely tramples on your personality and dignity after cheating, which will bring enough harm to the children. As long as you can learn from this fall and get up bravely, you will certainly find your true happiness and happiness, instead of being brainwashed by him and living a life of being a man or a dog.