Girlfriend always asks for money, how to refuse? If a woman keeps asking her boyfriend to pay for her, it is obviously a very morbid emotional relationship, which will eventually harm others and themselves. Let's share how to refuse to share your girlfriend's total demand for money. Let's have a look.

How to refuse a girlfriend who always asks for money? 1 1. Understand the situation from the side:

If you've been dating for a long time, and you've only recently started asking for money from yourself, it should be that your girlfriend is in trouble, but she doesn't want to tell you, maybe she's thinking about you. Then don't ask directly in person, you can get to know her best friend or a friend with a better relationship, so as to know the truth, and maybe there will be no misunderstanding and hurt the feelings of both sides.

You can't support yourself if you spend too much money;

My girlfriend has been asking for money from herself. My girlfriend is a big spender. The money she earns can't meet her expenses at all, but she can't control her consumption desire and has to ask you for money. In this case, it depends on whether she can satisfy her own consumption or change her consumption concept to make her moderate.

3. Test economic strength:

If the girlfriend you just talked about is not too long, only three or four months, some girls just spend your money to keep buying things for her, or just want money to spend, to test your financial strength, to see if you can meet her consumption, and to see if she is the right person. Such girls generally can't bear hardships and won't consider each other.

4. I don't spoil or pretend:

My girlfriend has been asking for money from herself. If she has no financial strength, don't pretend, spoil or brag. She wants it, she gives it, and she gives it without saying anything. She has been pretending to hide her financial strength, but she has a hard time and is under great pressure. This is asking for it. Finally, there will be a situation. If she can't pretend anymore, she will complain.

5. Don't bear it in person:

My girlfriend has been asking for money from herself. If her financial ability can't bear it at all, and she is being satisfied with money everywhere, or spending with credit cards, she is depressed and bitter, so you must speak out. You must not bear it. In the case of repeated requests, you must say it to your face, tell your girlfriend your current economic situation and your psychological feelings, and let your girlfriend know your current situation. Otherwise, if others don't know, you will have to bear it yourself.

6, girlfriend is very selfish':

Now some girls don't know where they came from. They say that you let her spend money lavishly, which shows that you love her performance. The money you earn is for her, and the money you spend is to prove that you love her. I suggest you stay away from such girls and break up early. It's selfish. You only have yourself in your heart and don't care about each other's feelings, let alone * *.

7, don't confuse serious face:

If your girlfriend has just been dating for a while and starts asking for money from herself, the amount is not large, and it is slowly increasing, and she is especially gentle and kind to herself when asking for money, then she should be more careful. It is very likely that she met a liar and cheated money. You can refuse, saying that she is also short of money now. Can you lend me money to see how she does it? You'll know what's going on. Make sure.

8. Remember the principle of making friends:

In fact, there is a basic principle for men and women to fall in love, that is, to find a suitable person who can understand each other, think for each other and have each other's hearts. If a girl keeps asking for money from herself, it means that she doesn't have her own heart at all and won't consider each other's feelings and thoughts. A person who really has his own heart will tell himself the reason when he asks for money. First, he will ask himself if he has this ability, and he will take the initiative to care for each other and will not give way to each other.

How to refuse a girlfriend who always asks for money? I received a private letter from a 25-year-old boy who just graduated for three years yesterday. He has a girlfriend who is one year older than him and has just graduated for three years.

His salary is more than 8 thousand a month, and her girlfriend is more than 6 thousand a month. Usually, he spends his money on eating, watching movies and traveling. He doesn't feel anything. He is happy and willing.

What annoys him is that his girlfriend asked him to buy her a mobile phone, the kind of more than 10 thousand. At that time, he was a little sick. He thinks it's okay for me to give you this kind of thing, but it's a bit inappropriate for you to ask for it from me.

However, this is not too much.

The last thing he could not help was that his girlfriend's parents bought a suite last year and now they want her to help pay the mortgage. Then, his girlfriend told him that they were in love and moving towards the goal of marriage. Now they are a family, and their money is also a family's money.

So, let him pay back 3 thousand's mortgage every month

He didn't feel well at first, but he didn't say it. He still spends 3,000 yuan every month to let his girlfriend help his parents pay the mortgage. After a few months of repayment, the company was depressed, and he had no other income except salary, and his life began to be stretched.

He asked me what to do. If he doesn't pay his girlfriend's mortgage, she may break up with him. Speaking of breaking up, the previous investment is estimated to add up to hundreds of thousands, and it is estimated that it will not come back.

It doesn't matter. The important thing is that his girlfriend's behavior has made him feel a little disgusted. He thinks his girlfriend has gone too far. I want to judge whether he thinks too much or his girlfriend goes too far. I want to give some advice.

What can I suggest? I'd better talk about my own experience and views.

When I was in college, I was the poorest student in my class and the only "poor student" in my class. I was sentenced to four years. I had a girlfriend then. Every time I go to dinner, it's AA system. Once we went shopping, she took a fancy to a pair of sandals, but she had no money to buy them, so I bought her more than 300 yuan-it was a very big expense for me at that time, but I spent it happily. I think I can finally spend some money on the girl I like.

I volunteered, I am willing, so I am happy for it. Later, we broke up. After breaking up, I have a new girlfriend. This girlfriend costs me money for everything. I had already gone to work by then. Although I can earn money and I am willing to spend money, I just don't want to be kidnapped by feelings.

What does it mean to be kidnapped by feelings? That is-we are lovers, it doesn't mean that we don't care about you and me. Doesn't mean you're mine. What's mine is yours. You can't ask me to do anything for you. You can't ask me to spend money for you. Similarly, I can't ask you to do anything for me. For example, I want to make out with you, provided that you are willing and happy. If you don't want to, feel uncomfortable and inconvenient, I can't walk.

Later, we broke up and we kept in touch. Once in a chat, he said that Joker Xue was going to have a concert and wanted to see it. I asked her if you bought a ticket. She said, I have to do this myself. Why do I need a boyfriend?

It means-looking for a boyfriend is looking for a cash cow? Looking for a boyfriend is looking for someone who will do anything for you? Why not be a bodhisattva? So many people are willing to worship you.

I can give it, but you can't force it. This is a very important rule in the relationship between men and women.

It's like a campaign against sexual harassment in the workplace a few years ago. Some girls played the same slogan "I can flirt, but you can't disturb". The same is true of whether men should spend money on women-I can lose everything for you, but this is my will, and you can't force me.

Economic independence is not just economic independence. Economic independence is often related to personality independence in the adult world.

If a woman keeps asking her boyfriend to pay for her, it is obviously a very morbid emotional relationship, which will eventually harm others and themselves. Of course, the biggest loss is yourself. Men spend a little money at most, but you have long formed a habit, your waist is bent, your knees are soft and you can't stand up. What should you do if a man wants to leave you at that time?

You have no independent personality, no survival skills, no strong will, and no backer. How do you live?

Just like the other day, a woman confided to me on the evening program that her husband was having an affair with a young lady. She asked me to analyze-is her husband just venting to those ladies, or does she already have feelings?

I asked her, would you forgive me if I just vented? If you already have feelings, you won't forgive?

Then she said, no, no matter what, she is very uncomfortable and bears it. The difference is that if you just vent, then her position will not be threatened, she can still own her husband's property, and her husband will continue to earn money for her. But if it is emotional, then she may be abandoned, and then she may get nothing.

You see, this woman, she is full of grievances now, but she can only endure it. Why can you only endure it? Relying on her husband all the year round, she has lost the will and ability to live independently. It's not that she doesn't want a divorce. She can only put up with her husband's disgusting behavior. Why? Because her knees are weak and her waist can't stand straight. Now divorce, even if the husband is the wrong party, get a house, and there are more than 100,000 or 200,000 properties, what can we do?

She doesn't want to work, and she doesn't want to work. She was raised by her husband for so many years, and suddenly she didn't come. What can she do?

Therefore, as a woman, you should know what you want. If all you want is a man's money, if a man wants to, I have nothing to say. But when you confide to me one day, "Why doesn't he love me? I want him to love me", I will be impolite. I can only say that you deserve it, you asked for it, and you have to pay for your thoughts and actions.

Love has nothing to do with money. The correctness of this sentence lies in that when you love someone, you want nothing but love. You want to do something for him. This is true love.

The same is true for men-if a woman asks you for money, it depends on when and what to do. At the very least, before you get married, women should not promise anything beyond your financial ability.

Love, or marriage, is to find a beautiful soul to accompany yourself. If you covet a pair of skins, do a lot of unwilling things and spend a lot of unwilling money, in the end this relationship can only end in failure, harming others and yourself.

If it's just my personal feelings, I think: I can give you 180 thousand, but you can't ask me for 35 thousand

Just like a woman to a man: I can sleep with you willingly, but you can't bully me when I don't want to.

Let's talk about personality independence first, then gender equality. There is equality between men and women before marriage. Only the soul can rely on it to grow old together.