I have heard from girls more than once that I would rather be single proudly than make do with it reluctantly.

The other half they are looking for should be able to tolerate their own shortcomings and willfulness, but also give themselves complete dependence and be themselves in front of him unscrupulously.

It sounds beautiful, but the reality is that your parents can't fully tolerate your shortcomings and willfulness, and they won't always be your support.

How can you let a former stranger do something that even parents can't do?

Even if the other person loves you, you can't stay like this.

Love doesn't mean you have found someone. The other party must play an extremely powerful role in front of you and take care of you for life. You just need to be a flower in the greenhouse.

When I was seventeen or eighteen, I also hoped that the last person I met could be a hero in the world. He has all the good qualities in this world and will marry me with colorful auspicious clouds.

Later, I learned that such love is just a beautiful emotion in our imagination.

Back to real life, no one has the obligation to always be nice to you, give you accommodation, give you understanding, and give you the warmth and love you want.

If you really want to meet such a person, please enrich yourself first and make sure you are worth it.

Meet, should be evenly matched.

I remember an online girl complained to me last year that she had a friend who was far less beautiful, taller and better than her, but just so-so.

But it is such a person that her boyfriend is particularly excellent and is still very good to her.

What she can't figure out is: "Why can't I meet such a person? I am much better than her. Every boy I meet is worse than scum. No money to talk about, and bad personality. I talked beautifully when I was chasing me, but I changed after I was together, and even had an affair with other girls. I met three boys, two of whom had an affair with other girls. "

So, she can't figure it out.

02

I found that many girls who measure themselves as "excellent" actually don't realize the most fundamental problem.

Just like this netizen, she thinks she is better than her friends because her external image is better than her friends.

Good-looking people can be an advantage, but this advantage is not absolute. If someone wants to use this advantage to win what they want, they are likely to be disappointed in the end and easily break good cards.

Excellence is a balance in many aspects.

It can include appearance, education, personality, character, talent, income and so on, and among these things, appearance is the easiest to be amplified and has the least practical effect.

Because if you just watch it empty, it will be easy to be exposed for a long time.

I learned her thoughts from chatting with that netizen, probably just to find a boyfriend who can be her long-term meal ticket and ATM to relieve her financial pressure.

With such a goal, it is no wonder that she finally met the love rat she described.

And the friend she said, although not as good-looking as her, is the kind of girl who works hard. She said that girl was stingy, but in fact, in my opinion, it was just a planned life.

Most of us are ordinary people. It is easier to save money by "cutting costs" than by "opening sources", because not everyone can have multiple channels to make money.

There are often various articles on the Internet saying that women should be better to themselves. But this is better, it must be based on the condition that you can do what you can, rather than doing something difficult when you obviously don't have that ability.

For example, when you see someone else buying a bag of more than 20,000 yuan, you think this kind of life is exquisite and correct, so you follow the trend and buy one.

But in fact, others may only need half a month's salary to buy this bag, and you may need half a year's income to buy it.

This makes no sense.

If you live a bad life alone, you are in danger, robbing Peter to pay Paul, and you are in a daze, but you think that your prince charming will fall from the sky and give you the life you want, it is really an idiotic dream.

In love, there is a law: what kind of person you are, what kind of person you will meet.

03

After observing nearly 50 girls, I came to a conclusion: "The more independent you are, the better you will get married in the end."

Before meeting the right person, they never hold the idea of relying on boys, but work hard and strive for everything they want.

This kind of effort is not shouting slogans every day, going to the gym occasionally, reading and cooking. These things are just icing on the cake.

The real effort of adults is to finally achieve visible results, and you have the confidence to undertake everything, whether economically or emotionally, you are independent.

You can support yourself.

I have a friend who is a girl. In fact, her family background is not good. But she works hard and is independent. She works hard at school and after graduation, and occasionally develops a hobby in her spare time.

She is also the kind of girl who can save money, and she will never spend money she shouldn't spend just because she says she wants to buy a house.

She also has a good plan for her future, which way to take, and she also attended graduate school last year.

Last year, the third year of her graduation, she realized her original dream and bought a house in the city. In the past two years, her parents have been urging her to get married, so she asked friends around her to introduce her to suitable boys.

Then, I found a rule: all my friends around me recommended boys who I thought were better.

The reason is the same: it is worth it.

Some time ago, a friend of mine introduced her to a boy, who was good in all aspects. After they got to know each other, they became interested in each other and now they are getting to know each other.

Later, this friend told me that this boy was very picky and didn't want to be introduced by many people, so he found various reasons to refuse.

She said, "I suddenly thought of them at breakfast that day. I think they are a good match, so I will tell both parties quickly and then find a good time to meet. "

Sure enough, similar people appreciate each other and know exactly what kind of person they are looking for.

04

It makes sense that these four words are appropriate. When two people fall in love, it is not a relationship of taking refuge, but working together and moving forward side by side.

It's that you two can be each other's weakness and armor, and you can remove some corners and sacrifice something instead of kidnapping your emotions and dreams on each other.

Some girls think that the other half is to put up with their bad temper and make trouble without reason. You think this is a proof that the other person loves you, but in fact it is the beginning of loss.

Although boys are more rational than girls, they still have feelings.

One day, when your emotions crush each other, those resentment and accusations will be replaced by other emotions and reflected on yourself.

It's not that he has changed, but that he can't stand it.

There are also some things that girls can't do on their own, such as trying to make each other make a lot of money, turning this idea into pressure and completely pressing on each other.

You have to understand that no one will be responsible for your life all your life.

It is you who can give you a stable life.

It is still you who can always pay for you.

It is still yourself who can love you forever.

Your independence and skills are the biggest cards in your life. When you really do yourself and trust the right person, it won't be too late.

With like-minded people, we have a good economic foundation, the confidence to advance together, the calmness not afraid of the future, and the tacit understanding of mutual appreciation. This is a wonderful marriage.