Some are lost and passive. And some lost, is active.

Some things, without happiness, are not happy with more.

It is sometimes better to go into battle with a heavy load than with a light load.

Throw away unimportant things in time, and you will live a more wonderful life.

0 1: Lose useless face

It is strength that looks at the face.

Nothing else.

In other words, face is earned by yourself, not given by others.

Ren Zheng Fei once said that what I want is success. As for face, it is the most empty thing.

When you pursue Excellence, success and Excellence, face will naturally follow you.

When you pursue face, you are most likely to lose face.

Lose useless face and focus on your own growth, and progress will be faster.

In the early days of Huawei, there was a slogan, live, even if you are shameless.

He called on all employees to put down their faces, accept others' opinions with an open mind and constantly improve themselves.

There is a heartfelt community within Huawei. Any employee can publicly put forward any opinions and suggestions on the company without worrying about offending anyone.

Even if I am re-elected, I have also been publicly criticized for my dereliction of duty in management.

It is because Huawei adheres to the principle of small face and great survival and development of the company.

Huawei has gradually achieved today's leap.

Face is the most useless, but it is the most difficult to let go.

Advice when you are unhappy is good for action, and medicine when you are in pain is good for illness.

In this world, some people live as faces, others live as linings, but only linings can really determine faces.

02: Give up the negative way of thinking

Ordinary people change the result, excellent people change the process, and excellent people change the way of thinking.

The biggest gap between people is not in birth, IQ and ability, but in the way of thinking.

A reporter once visited Buffett: Many people have gains and losses in investing, but you almost never miss it. Why?

Buffett said, maybe it's because I don't see the same things as them.

It turns out that Buffett should not only look at the company's book information, but also look at the company's development trend and industry prospects before investing in a company's stock.

Even look at the system and culture of a company.

Once the company is selected, he will not give up easily. Even if the company's share price falls temporarily, he is as steady as Mount Tai, sometimes adding positions.

It is because of his unique way of thinking that he can create an investment miracle.

There are many excellent ways of thinking, so you can learn as much as possible.

And some negative ways of thinking, we'd better give up. For example, excessive pessimism, complaints and extremism.

In ancient times, there was a man named Qi Ren who was worried that the sky would fall every day, so that he was always in a state of anxiety.

Carnegie lived on a farm with his mother when he was a child, and he often worried that unfortunate things would happen to him.

In the storm, he was afraid that he would be struck by lightning.

When life is not very comfortable, he is worried that he will starve to death.

He is afraid that the bad boy will cut his ear.

I'm worried that girls will laugh at him.

He is always worried about not getting a wife.

I'm also worried about not knowing how to get along with my wife after marriage.

When he grew up, he found that most of his worries did not happen.

99% of what you are worried about will not happen, he concluded, looking back on his life.

Don't worry too much, things will work out eventually.

Give up complaining, complaining will not only help solve the problem, but also leave the impression that you are incompetent.

Abandoning extremism, many things in the world are not black and white. Think about everything from a different angle, look on the positive side, and don't go into a dead end of thinking.

03, give up useless socializing.

Useless socializing will do you no good except consuming your precious time and attention.

Instead of going to useless social activities, you get the illusion that you have many friends and wide connections.

It is better to settle down and improve your value.

When you are valuable, your connections are valuable, otherwise it is useless to hook up with anyone.

Ding Yuanying once told Liu Bing in heaven that you can go anywhere, but you can't. It's no use going anywhere.

When Mo Yan first entered the College of Literature, he was often invited out to eat and play because of his minor fame.

In order to maintain friendship with others, he had to sacrifice a lot of time and energy to socialize.

Over time, he found that this kind of socializing didn't make much sense except eating and flattering each other.

So, he got rid of this kind of dinner and devoted himself to his literary creation. After years of polishing day after day, he finally won the Nobel Prize.

Useless socializing will only delay your growth.

Give up useless socializing and spend more time on self-growth, and your life will be more valuable.

Growth is a process of giving up. Growth requires us to give up useless face, negative thinking mode and useless social interaction and put our time and energy on more meaningful things.

Everyone is a beautiful work of art, what we need to do is to get rid of the superfluous things.

If you want to grow up, you must learn to give up.