In our life, we often feel angry because of something, and there is a limit to anger, which may be a word from others, or a long-term effort to do something and eventually fail.
Then we should change our thinking and think from another angle. Others are others, and I am me. Don't care so much about what others say, because everyone in this world has it.
In this world, except parents, no one will treat you well for no reason. If someone is kind to you, cares about your joys and sorrows, and will toss and turn for you, then these are all beautiful things worth cherishing.
Some people say that you should not care so much, let alone get angry. It's hard for you to be angry. You should have your own opinions and ideas. If there is a thorn in what others say, you can listen in one ear and out the other.
Don't pay too much attention to some words or other people's views and opinions on you. You should believe in yourself and have your own logical thinking. You can adopt the good ones and delete the bad ones from your mind.
We are angry because we care too much about one thing. The more you care, the more you live in this pain. You should learn to look down, and when you look down, it will fade away.
Be brave to be yourself and don't need to change yourself for others. Hope that happiness will come to you; If you have a dream, opportunities will cover you; Stick to it and happiness will accompany you; Be sincere and peace will follow you.
You are simple, the world will become simple, you are complex, and the world is complex. What kind of heart is up to you. Don't be disturbed by the outside world. Try to be yourself and learn to dominate your life.
Don't be angry about anything. The angrier you are, the narrower your mind becomes. Anyway, you do your own thing and are not influenced by the outside world. You are your own saint and others can't control your life.
We should not be influenced by emotions, let alone be slaves to them. We should control our emotions and not be impatient. You have to understand that emotions are like a double-edged sword. Positive emotions make you feel smooth when you do things, and negative emotions make you screw things up.
Learn to distinguish right from wrong, implement what is right, put an end to what is wrong, don't be impatient, have a peaceful mind, think twice before you do anything, and do everything after careful consideration by your brain. Only by thinking more can we have our own unique opinions.
Keep a positive mood and have your own position and views on things. What is right is right, and what is wrong is wrong. Be sure to stand firm and don't let other people's words and deeds affect your emotions.
Adjust your mind, don't be angry, smile, be ten years old, be troubled and grow old. Be brave to be yourself, believe in yourself, face everything naturally without external interference, but don't go with the flow, follow the crowd and have herd mentality.
Reading more books at ordinary times can adjust your mentality. No one is perfect. Don't be too impatient and get angry easily. Think more about everything, calm down when things happen, and have your own correct views.
If you can afford it, put it down. There is nothing unexpected, only something impossible. Be broad-minded and broad-minded, so that you can calm down and not get angry. Reading books improves your knowledge and connotation, and makes you more and more confident.
Birds flap their wings before flying high, and people learn before making progress. Read more, make yourself progress, don't be angry, don't be disturbed by the outside world, read more, and build your own thoughts with the help of other people's thoughts. Adjust your mentality and face everything with a sunny attitude.
Conclusion: Don't be angry, keep a positive attitude, think more about things, have your own unique views and be free from external interference, so as to be open-minded and positive.
We say that health is not only physical health, mental health, mental health, good social adaptability is the cornerstone of our health. One of mental health is emotional stability, which can adapt to life and environment well. When a person is easily angry, impatient and disturbed by the outside world, it will be called irritable state in psychology. When our wishes and needs are not met, when we face pressure, challenges, physical discomfort and maladjustment with the environment, we will have this state of anxiety and irritability.
Therefore, we should have a self-awareness of our mental health and be able to perceive our emotional changes, just as we should look in the mirror, comb our hair, wash our face and tidy our clothes. But to realize your own emotional experience, you must find ways to adjust and find out the reasons that affect our emotional response. There are many events that cause our emotional reaction in life, such as the contradiction between husband and wife, the contradiction between parents and children, the conflict between colleagues, the obstacles to career promotion and development, and the anxiety of exams. When our emotions appear, he is a good thing. He can remind us of his problems in life, and we need to pay attention to them. At the same time, I want to tell you that not everyone has the ability to deal with their emotional state, which is a maintenance of mental health. Just like sometimes when we are sick, we need to see a doctor and prescribe treatment. So is mental health. When we feel that we can't solve psychological confusion and emotional changes, we should go to psychologists and psychiatrists to help us solve the problem.
How to adjust yourself easily when you are angry, impatient and easily disturbed by the outside world?
In this question, the first three are the states that you often appear, and the last one is your initial intention to realize that these states are not good and want to improve! I want to encourage you to improve your self-awareness!
It is easy to get angry, impatient and easily disturbed by the outside world, which are all related to cognition and emotion, so we need to know whether our cognition is correct and what is the root of emotion.
In view of getting angry easily, I hope you can calm down and do the following:
1, Step 1: Write down something that once made you angry easily on a piece of paper. For example, my mother always compares me with other people's children, which makes me very angry. Write as much as you have and mark it with serial number.
Step 2: Start with the first article, read it carefully, and circle the specific people and keywords that make you angry until the last article.
Step 3: Talk to yourself.
1) What is my relationship with this person?
2) I think she/he said so. What is the original intention of doing this?
3) Do I think what she/he said and did is realistic and reasonable?
4) Do I have any personal thoughts to express?
5) What am I trying to say?
A express dissatisfaction with each other's words and deeds?
B misunderstood by the other party and actively communicated?
6) How should I communicate with an emotional state?
Angry?
B calm down?
7) How can we adjust to this state?
In fact, the first step, you have entered the state of adjusting your mood, and the key word is "static".
The second step is to guide yourself into the process of combing cognition.
The third step, practical exercise-self-questioning and self-answering, is a complete process of combing one's own cognition.
The most important thing is to calm yourself down first. Quiet is the best way to adjust your mood. Then you can think, sort out your own cognition and finally find the answer!
Steps: be quiet-think-talk to yourself-comb your cognition-find the answer.
Many problems, not big problems, are basically cognitive problems. If there is cognitive deviation, it will easily lead to mood swings, that is, you are easy to get angry, impatient and easily disturbed by the outside world!
Finally, I hope you can slowly adjust yourself through these specific steps, improve your own shortcomings and get better and better!
The third picture is the calligraphy written by a 6-year-old child. Whether the handwriting is good or not depends on whether she can "calm down", pick up a pen and write the word completely. The true meaning of the word "static", I believe you will understand! Come on!
A person is easily angry and easily influenced by emotions, which involves a word in psychology called emotional management. Whether we do things first or talk or do things with emotions depends on the individual's management of their emotions. When we choose a spouse, we often choose the mature and steady one, or we often see some people who are not in a hurry. In fact, these are the management of their own emotions, and they will show different emotions on different occasions, showing the side that others like. If we can't manage our emotions ourselves, we may easily find your thoughts and "beat" you. People who don't know how to control their emotions like this are often at a disadvantage in life and work, which will make managers feel that you are not mature enough, thus affecting themselves. How to control your emotions, first of all, read more books. Reading can make people have temperament, and educated people like it. Reading more books will make you settle down, and you will be less angry and less susceptible to things in the future. People who are easily influenced are also not confident in themselves and have been cheated by emotional contagion. Many times, people are still shouting slogans that you did it, and you will regret it after you did it. Then, if you want to manage your emotions well, think before you say or do anything. Don't express your ideas in a hurry, think about it first. Finally, keep a good attitude and often hint that you want to be happy and so on. No matter what others say, I will keep a good mood first.
How to improve your energy?
Everyone has energy, but everyone's energy is flowing, and no one will keep high energy all the time.
But the energy is amazing. If you are in a state of low energy for a long time, life will become more and more sad and fall into a vicious circle. So, how can we improve our energy?
Here, I want to give you some suggestions:
First, constantly improve yourself and make yourself more valuable to others and society;
Second, do your best to help others and make others better because of your existence;
Third, stay away from evil people, evil things, people with negative energy, and don't let them reduce your energy.
There needs to be a note here. As the saying goes, "if you are poor, you will be immune to it, and if you are rich, you will help the world." The premise of helping others is that you have to live a good life. Only by living your own life can you be qualified, capable and spare to help others. If you don't do it yourself, don't try to help others, do it yourself first.
If you live well by yourself, then you need to make your lover, parents and children live well. If you have spare capacity, you can help your friends and even strangers.
In fact, throughout life, the vast majority of ordinary people have not lived well, let alone let family, friends and strangers live well. The vast majority of ordinary people are not so powerful, and living well for themselves has benefited society.
-Liu Yusi Angela
You need to manage your emotions well.
1. Using the emotional ABC principle in psychology, A is an event, B is the cognition and belief of the event, and C is the reaction to the event. So we see that B's cognition is very important, and we need to adjust our understanding of the event and think about the problem from a positive perspective.
Learn to put yourself in others' shoes.
2. Learn to consider each other's feelings when you are angry and emotional, think about whether your emotional reaction will bring unhappiness to each other, and try to think from each other's point of view.
Focus shift.
3. Turn the focus from the events that cause your emotions to yourself, see your own shortcomings, find your own emotional buttons, and make positive changes.
Try to chat with good friends as much as possible to relieve your anguish and incomprehension. Pour out all the depressed things in your heart. If you still can't let it go, you can drink some wine and sing it out loud in karaoke, which will make you feel much more relaxed and happy.
When you encounter any problems, you should reflect on yourself, change your way of thinking, learn to put yourself in others' shoes, face people and things around you with a generous and tolerant attitude, and motivate yourself.
The main problem is mentality. If you have a good attitude, you will be fine. If you have a bad attitude, you will be influenced by the big environment. You can travel to broaden your horizons and enrich your inner world. It will be much better to travel a few times to see your mentality. You can also find many friends to talk about your inner irritability and release psychological pressure.
Everything has two sides. Knowing that you are easy to get angry and impatient, you should develop the habit of thinking on the positive side of everything at ordinary times, and always tell yourself: (your own affairs or others' affairs), some things, whether others' or your own, can't be changed, and in the long run it will be much more peaceful. Be kind to yourself, don't let anyone or anything affect your mood, and you must be accompanied by health when you are alive.
This seems to refer to me. I just get angry easily. I can't help it. I regretted it after I was angry with my husband. I should nourish my liver and eat more food to supplement it. My liver has been bad for a few days and I get angry easily.