1 article on gender emotion: how to reconcile the love contradiction between men and women
The problem of men and women is the fundamental problem of human society. However, this problem has not been solved so far, and tragedies have been staged again and again. I think the fundamental contradiction between men and women lies in the different understanding and needs of love, thus building a gap between men and women's hearts that can never be crossed.
Here I think of Meng Xiaodong, a famous actress of the Republic of China with outstanding talent and boundless love. She reflects the love psychology of all women. She loved Mei Lanfang very much, but at that time Mei Lanfang already had a wife, Fu Zhifang. Meng Xiaodong has always been very concerned about Mei Lanfang's name, hoping that Mei Lanfang can get a divorce. She can't tolerate Mei Lanfang's inexperience, and she can't tolerate Mei Lanfang's disregard for her dignity for the family's reputation. Finally, she broke with Mei Lanfang after despairing of equal and single-minded love. But then she married Du and became a fifth aunt. At that time, she didn't mind getting married, because she didn't love Du, and everything was just for living. However, men do not understand women's psychology. They often don't like Meng Xiaodong who really loves you. Instead, they like to accept Meng Xiaodong, don't care about love life, and even think that Meng Xiaodong and these women around him love him. Like the queen in the palace, Zhen Xuan won't reveal his heart until the last moment. He will never know what the women around him are thinking and who they are thinking. Men often don't wake up in trouble, and which woman really loves him is worth cherishing. Ordinary men only follow their feelings and lower body, constantly chasing and grabbing, but they don't cherish the good women around them. In history, many women with both talent and appearance and true temperament were hurt by the men they loved deeply, and finally their love ideals were shattered, leaving only a make-do life.
Countless times, I looked up at the sky, sighed and cried. Is this an irrevocable fatalistic tragedy? Is there any way to reconcile the love contradiction between men and women and make both men and women happy?
There are too many differences between men and women in their understanding and needs of love, so it is a big mistake for men to think about women with their own feelings. And it is futile for women to ask men for their own ideas.
Men generally have simple requirements for love. They just need to sleep with him, stay by his side quietly, tolerate the woman he cheated on, and don't care what women think. As long as the woman doesn't say that she doesn't love him and he doesn't arrest her, the man will always think that this woman is his woman and loves him. What a woman wants is a man who cares about her heart and soul. However, most men like to spend time on women's bodies, but they don't want to spend time on women's hearts. This is doomed to be difficult to reconcile between men and women, and it is also doomed that men are relatively easy to satisfy and women are too difficult to satisfy. Because women have much more needs and demands than men, they pay more attention to what men are not willing to do. The later the result, the weaker the feelings, the more uncomfortable it is. Most people just make do with their children for a living.
Women fall in love by hearing, so they are easily deceived by men's sweet words. In fact, when men say they love women, it's just what men call love, not what women think. Men cater to women's psychology in order to chase women, so it is easy for men who flatter girls to get multiple women. It's just that their love is based on deception. One day, lies will be exposed, women will see the true face of men, realize that men don't love themselves as he says, and then put out the flame of love after being sad. Unless a man can lie to this woman for a lifetime and not let her find out, this situation is almost difficult.
From this point of view, if you want to reduce some injuries and be more happy, I think there are only two feasible ways: first, when men pursue women, don't say love, don't give women the illusion of love, don't cheat women, but to be honest, women should not have illusions about men, be pragmatic with each other, and there will be no disappointment without hope. Second, men learn to read women's hearts, try their best to overcome their weaknesses and cherish a woman. Women might as well treat men as children, instead of using hard means to manage and teach, they should use soft means to guide and tolerate. If it is really impossible to guide and tolerate, then let it be. Don't ruin your self-esteem and life because of a man. Therefore, women should go out of family life, constantly study and think, improve their life consciousness, broaden their horizons and have their own stage like men. Only in this way can men and women dilute the tragic color of fate and live happily with each other.
Article 2 on sexual relations
Men are most afraid of taking a relationship seriously. If a lover cares about him very much, a man's comfort will be overshadowed.
Men are afraid of cheating: Find an unmarried person who is afraid of sticking; Find a married person, afraid of being caught; Find a no three no four, afraid of being dyed. ? It is precisely because of this that men have temperament. Miss is too expensive, lover is too tired? Sigh. Someone said:? Extramarital love is dangerous. If your wife loves you and you love your wife, please control your feelings. Don't trust a woman to be your lover willingly. Sooner or later, she will be crazy about love and hurt you and your family. If you really want to love two women, the best way is not to get married. ?
Women also have three fears of stealing people? Find someone who is not married, for fear that others will be serious; Find a married person, afraid of being serious; Find someone who is no three no four, but also afraid of entanglement. Being stuck by a man who has never been married is troublesome, and being loved by a married man is also troublesome. The most troublesome thing is that I love this man deeply. Love, morality and marriage, like a mass of hemp, are constantly being cut and confused. At the same time, lovers who fall into absolute passion will lose their freedom. When perfection becomes impossible, death becomes the best relief for lovers. Netizen said:? Smart women don't choose to be men's lovers. Being a lover is too tired and won't make you feel relaxed and transparent. Because you are in love, you want it, you want it. If both men and women have the desire to exchange something from each other, the relationship will not be clear. ?
Men cheat for sex, while women cheat. For men, cheating is stealing, and after stealing, it is not so cherished. And women, often misplaced, often want to have stolen things. One with himself? Niece? Cheating man, when? Little lover? Threatening pregnancy, divorce or double suicide. The man said in his diary:? Sooner or later, I will be ruined by this woman. ? Many men have to face the entanglement of lovers after having an affair. The reason why officialdom lovers are so tired is that behind corrupt men, there must be one or several greedy women standing. In order to get rid of the entanglement of lovers, many officials do not hesitate to misappropriate public funds and accept bribes. In order to break off extramarital affairs, some men are often made to take risks and hire killers to kill entangled lovers.
Men are tired and women are tired. Another lady ran to her lover's house and complained: That leprechaun came to my house again, and I was so angry. ? The lover said:? What is that? Didn't you come to my house? The lady said: I think maybe that demon fell in love with my husband. So what should we do? ! ? This is a joke, and the joke can explain a problem. Men cheat mostly for sex, women cheat for sex, and people steal it. I lost my body and my heart. Chu Jiangnan said: Women together tend to belittle men's ignorance of love. They said realistically that men are more realistic in sex than women. Women should go to bed on the basis of feelings. Men's love for women is only related to youth and beauty, and it is best not to say anything else.
Men have extramarital affairs without burden. They can afford it and put it down. You can pretend to be innocent to your wife when you get home, but women can't. Once a woman catches fire, it's hopeless. Women always want to marry, love and die for. A man loves whoever he loves, and at most he gives her a little gift and says something that he can't remember afterwards. ? The lover said:? Wife is happiest because she can accompany you every day? ; When the wife says: No matter how good it is for you, it is not as good as others. ? Women are the rulers of the family, wives control men, lovers conquer men, and men are often the inheritors of being controlled and conquered. The relationship between men and women should be bounded by sex. Before sex, a woman's love for you is pure. Although sex can improve the relationship between men and women, it can also worsen it.
For love, women are often braver and more persistent than men, dare to despise mainstream culture and tradition and ignore the pressure from family and society. Once a woman starts a new life, she usually burns her bridges and never looks back. For the sake of their so-called love, women still love without regrets after they have both money and people. For love, regardless of career prospects, willing to sacrifice everything for parents and children. Some people are still waiting hard even when love has become a dream, and even never get married. Most women regard love as their life, so they are obsessed with it and devote themselves to it, sinking deeper and deeper in the wall of love until they are exhausted. It is often difficult for women to absolutely separate sex from emotion. Traditional women are not like ordinary men? Sex without love, sex without love? . Traditional women are willing to pay only when their emotional needs are met, so as to achieve sexual integration.
The third article about sex: men should be kept free range and women should be kept in captivity.
Are there any popular ones at present? People from all walks of life are increasingly aware that men should be free and women should be imprisoned.
Men are animals and women are pets. Men are wild animals among animals, but as wild animals, they can't be kept at home and can only eat grass in Yuan Ye. How can women make men grow up? Wild? And then what? Slavery? This requires the great wisdom of women. Similarly, for men, the biggest purpose of a captive woman is to cultivate her into a quiet, virtuous, decent and hardworking woman.
Men should reserve.
It is said that the campaign slogan of former US President George W. Bush is? Where's Bush? Is Bush at home? This slogan really touched American women. Of course, this kind of political slogan with a sweet family color is nothing more than trying to achieve political goals with warmth. If Bush spends every day with his wife and misses state affairs, it will be unforgivable.
However, through this incident, we can see that the little warmth reflected in those enterprising men is always particularly charming.
Free-range men can finally bloom with strong human charm. Tristan with long flowing hair is a typical free and loose man. He imprisoned his wife for many years, galloping in the wilderness all day long, leaning against the sword and being enemies of the world.
At the end of the film, the old Indian who told the story summed up Tristan's life in front of the bonfire. All those who loved him died young. He is a stone, and he hedges with them, no matter how much he wants to protect them. He died in September of 1963, when the moon was full in autumn. The last time he was seen was in the north, where there were many animals to kill. His grave is unmarked, but it doesn't matter. Anyway, he often lives on the edge, between this life and the afterlife. ?
This is a true portrayal of Tristan's life and a high generalization of the characteristics of free-range men. Imagine if Tristan, who looks like a bear, is kept in captivity at home every day, then he can't escape the fate of becoming a domestic cat after all.
On men? Stockings? In addition to releasing the wildness and brilliance of men, it is also one of the important means for couples to keep fresh. Tired of being together every day, love is always full of crisis. Should men and women know how to get along? Release? With what? Keep? Find a balance between the two? Distance makes beauty? Although this sentence is vulgar, it is the ultimate truth. The couple who share the same bed on weekends, even the tobacco on him smells so fresh and delicious. If you stay with him every day, even the perfume on his body will smell the smell of smelly socks.
Love is like sand. The tighter you hold, the more you lose. Words are simple, truth is luxurious. Only by keeping a proper distance between husband and wife can their feelings be relaxed and harmonious.
? Free-range? The female representative of said this:? I don't like being around him every day, and he certainly doesn't want to. We all need our own space. It is not a good thing that the other person occupies his own space. Therefore, women should learn to let men go out, leave room for themselves and do what they like. Otherwise, they always worry about him, serve him and remember when he will come home. How can they learn to charge?
? Stockings? Man is not so much an emotional wisdom as a way of grazing love. Let men have their own living space and social circle, and women can casually meet three or five confidants, chat, go shopping, learn foreign languages, or go to a women's salon to relax. Why not?
Women should be imprisoned.
Whether it is or not. Marriage freak? Special attention to women? Settle down? . These two Chinese characters only subtly express the meaning that women are going to be imprisoned. ? Home? Is it? There is a pig under the house? ; ? Ann? Is it? There is a woman under the house? What do you mean by combination? There's a pig-headed woman at home? , is to settle down.
Captivity means that men need to give more care to women.
A woman with a history of imprisonment said: Sometimes, I enjoy being imprisoned and can do whatever I want without socializing with my husband. Sometimes I invite several girlfriends to watch Korean dramas and discuss beauty. The topic is very scattered and I feel very comfortable. My husband called me during this period and actively reported his whereabouts. My friends all envy me for having a thoughtful husband; Modest in mouth, dark in heart, feel like a happy little woman. ?
Imprisoning women is an important means to prevent women from falling. Women lack resistance like sheep, and men are afraid of catching some bad habits outside. From where? Knowledgeable, wife and mother? Arrive? Party every night, stay overnight and get drunk? There are really many women. Let them be kept in captivity at home to meet their original life? Nest? Happy. Do what women like, immerse them in their own world and deprive them of the opportunity to cheat.
In the process of imprisoning women, it is good for women to cultivate all kinds of stunts. A self-proclaimed. Kitchen aisle? The woman stated this:
? After practicing for a year, he is definitely an old demon in the kitchen. I can serve a big table, just a small bowl of wonton, and the cooking is definitely different from that in the shop outside. My husband likes it, too Even if he comes back late at night, he must have a bowl of wonton, otherwise he will be uncomfortable. The rapid development of cooking benefits from my husband's captivity, so I can practice and study hard by myself. Although I am sometimes smoked as a' black beauty' by oil smoke, I am very satisfied as long as my husband can appreciate my care. ?
Everyone has a tiger hidden in his heart. If a woman really loves men, she should boldly set them free. After all, a comfortable cage is always just a cage. After a long time, tigers can only become domestic cats, without spirit, passion and laziness. What if there is a woman at this time? Rescue? Is it possible for that person to take it? Cage? Come out.
After a man is released, he should also be grateful and follow his advice? Three out of four? Wife should follow when she goes out, obey her orders, and blindly follow if she says something wrong; The wife has to wait for makeup, remember her birthday, endure beatings and abuse, and be willing to spend money.
As stocking and captivity is a new subject, there is no experience accumulation and no standardized production mode. Therefore, both men and women need to be brave in exploring, learning from each other and keeping pace with the times in order to improve the overall feeding level in China.
Marriage is a matching game. Beautiful women with handsome men, this is called collocation. Marriage is a complementary game. Beauty matches ugliness, perfect match.
Beautiful and handsome? Beauty, ugliness and perfection?
Anyone who has seen the movie "The Beautiful Legend of Sicily" will never forget the heroine in it, will they? Monica? Monica bellucci. She is a perfect woman. She has a classical and elegant face, exquisite facial features, sexy lips and a hot figure. She is a woman who makes women jealous and men covet. But this is it? Perfect? Woman, married to the ugly French actor Vincent? Castle.
Their alliance is called by the French? Beauty and the beast? . Monica? Monica bellucci's choice surprised all the handsome guys. Monica? Monica bellucci said that her husband is the most attractive man in the world, and she also said? If I meet a handsome guy who is just a simple-minded fool, it only takes three seconds, and I will think he is handsome. ?
Monica? Monica bellucci's words make us right? Ugly man? This concept has a more thorough understanding. An ugly man refers to a man who is not handsome in appearance, but very self-restrained in heart. If an ugly man has no extraordinary talent, it is naturally not an example we are discussing.
Marriage is a matching game, and beauty is handsome, which is called matching; Marriage is a complementary game. Beauty matches ugliness, perfect match.
Men all pursue beautiful women, but beautiful women don't necessarily love handsome men. In other words, in front of beautiful women, handsome men and ugly men stand on the same line, and handsome men have no obvious advantage. Handsome guys think standing can attract beautiful women to the door. They don't flatter. In contrast, ugly men have a more pragmatic attitude towards love. When the talent of an ugly man produces a magnet-like magnetic field, a beautiful woman will have a secret heart with lingering fragrance.
Ugly men should be mountains that can shelter women from the wind and rain, and ugly men should be trees that can rest for women. Women need a sense of security, and ugly men can just fill the vacancy of beauty? Market share? . A handsome man can stimulate his desire as a lover, but it is difficult as a husband. ? Heartthrob? David Beckham, an out-and-out British handsome guy, had a passionate night with American actress Jordan for a while, and then he revealed that he was with a supermodel? Unusual relationship? . Faced with these scandals, I wonder if Victoria the Spice Girl gave Beckham a lift in the field of marriage? Yellow card?
Chen Hong is a beautiful woman with good taste in life, while her husband Chen Kaige and? Handsome guy? Complete concept? Insulation? But their married life is extremely happy. This is mainly due to the outstanding talent of her husband and the boldness of vision of a big man;
Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng? Beauty beast? The troupe also performed a modern version sweetly? One thousand and one nights? . It is said that Xu Fan's extraordinary storytelling ability greatly moved his heart, and finally let Feng win the beauty;
He Shunshun got married? Absolutely? After Ling Feng, the ugly man did not forget to tell those unmarried beauties: Choose? Rosewood? Man, don't choose? BMW? Men, because the older rosewood is, the better, and BMW is always faced with the replacement of parts. Does the ideological performance of He Shunshun's words extract a well-known advertising language? Only buy the right ones, not the expensive ones!
Women are hearing animals. Don't they use it? Eyes? Look around you, not with your heart. So, the ugliness of ugly men usually happens to beautiful women? Turn a blind eye? What about their behavior, words, thoughts and feelings? Infatuation? But it makes them feel more delicate. Women like it, and ugly men are good at giving it away, so it is not surprising that we embrace beautiful women in the face of ugly men.