Women often like to miss the past. In the eyes of women, every man they have ever had is so different. In different men, become different women. Having been in love several times is equivalent to having been in love several times. This is how a woman's heart grows old. Time travel, man, you stop and I go. A woman caught in memories is like a jewelry box that opens memories. Many plots that I thought I had forgotten surfaced, and my mood immediately seemed to return to a scene in my memory. At this time, memory becomes a filter, and all unpleasant details are diluted, highlighting the beautiful scene that can be made into lovers' greeting cards. Women can't help looking through their books at this time ... please note that this may not be a good idea. Before seeing them again, ask yourself what you want from this reunion. There is something special about a man who can stand out and become our lover. He once loved us, no matter whether his way was skillful or clumsy, whether his smiling face was sincere or perfunctory, he paid attention to us. We are familiar with his voice, his smell, no matter how the relationship ends, no matter how he once made us sad, he is different from passers-by. This is enough for a woman to remember him for a lifetime. Women are usually emotional. The image of the man who loves her will not change in her mind. He won't get old or change his mind. Therefore, whenever women encounter difficulties in real love life, they will miss those old lovers. Why do women meet old lovers? Japan's private detective agency provides a service, which is to find the first lover, and 90% of its clients are women. It can be seen that women care far more about their old lovers than men. Why do women care about old lovers? Why are you willing to call them? One of the reasons: I think of him occasionally. His 29-year-old Lin An went back to his hometown on business and passed by the gate of his alma mater's middle school. Those familiar scenery and smells reminded her of her middle school days and her first boyfriend at once. The simple love affair in the old days aroused her endless feelings. Out of nostalgia for the good past and the surprise of knowing that her ex-lover was safe, she got the boy's benefit from her mother: she was satisfied with her surprise and vanity because he remembered the past many years ago. Disadvantages: this reunion is enough once, don't use it indiscriminately. Otherwise, even the best memories are hard to keep. Everyone knows that the past will never come back. The second reason: because he once said that he can dial his mobile phone number at any time if he wants. Xiao Wei, 36, recalled: I broke up with him, and he was very sad. The last time we met, he was in tears. It is very distressing for a big man to cry like this. He said that I was a pain in his heart forever. But he understands my determination, because he really can't give me the happiness I expect. He said I could call his mobile phone number at any time. Every Christmas after that, I will call him. I feel guilty for hurting a heart that loves me so much. Benefits: In men's tears, women's vanity is satisfied. Soothing a broken heart is what all women are willing to do. Disadvantages: men forget much more than we think, and hold grudges. When the pain in his heart subsides, your image and position in his heart will change relatively. When you are still calling him in a tone full of guilt and concern, he may be whispering in his mind: this woman is bored enough that she doesn't know where she is. The third reason: a woman called her old lover and invited him to her birthday party. Excuse me. A woman wants to see her old lover again, but dating alone will make her feel embarrassed, and she doesn't know whether the other person is willing to accept such a date, so she is willing to use some important anniversary parties as an excuse to let her old lover appear with everyone. Mary, 32, invited her old lover to her birthday party. But among her relatives and friends, his appearance was particularly sudden. He didn't know who to talk to and stood alone in the corner. An awkward reunion. Benefits: It satisfies the vanity of women. He is still willing to accept our invitation. Objection: Obviously, he began to regret coming to the party. He won't accept your invitation so easily next time. The fourth reason: breaking up is helpless. Why do you have to part when you are clearly in love? This relationship is a pain in a woman's heart forever. She thinks he is the most suitable person for her in this world. Now that the objective environment has changed, can we start over? Charlene Marilynn Dangelo, 27, recalled: Being with him was the happiest time of my life. After him, I never met another man who could make me so happy. I called him, but he never answered. Benefits: A woman can think that he refuses to answer us because he is still sad about his lost love. He didn't face us bravely again and lost us again. This can satisfy a woman's vanity. Disadvantages: Life is cruel. Our hopes often fail to come true. He ruthlessly refused our request to meet. The fifth reason: women are willing to call their old lover because they think he is the only one who can complain. Effie, 22, said: Every time I feel angry, I call my ex-boyfriend and tell him my troubles. He is more than just a friend. In my heart, he is an eternal lover. Benefits: Satisfy your vanity. This man still has the patience to listen to us. Does he still love me? Disadvantages: this kind of speaking * should not become a habit. You know, he should have a new love life. What would his current girlfriend think if she received your conversation in the middle of the night? Be realistic and don't always indulge in fantasy. We are already his past. Reason 6: A woman calls her old lover because she still loves him. Shu Ya, 36, said: I am very sad that he left me. A year later, I still couldn't forget him, so I called him. He came and spent the night with me, but I found that everything had changed irrevocably. I can't face him with the same mentality anymore. Because his departure has brought me so much harm that I can't forget it. This party is the last time we meet. Benefits: good. This time when he left, the woman didn't cry. We can shake off the shadow of this failed love. Disadvantages: Women once again realize that a man can change his love for us without our consent, and his betrayal will not be punished. Life is cruel. Reason 7: Time sometimes needs to go back a little. Women always need to prove that love can last forever. 35-year-old Yue Ming has been married 10 years, and has been dating her old lover regularly: I can call him at any time, and he will try his best to see me, so that we can recall the past days together. Benefits: It satisfies the vanity of women. It is not a woman's fault to create a warm environment for herself at any time. Disadvantages: basically no harm. It's just that if your husband knew, what would he think of you? Reason 8: Being single is sometimes unbearable. 3 1 year-old Sally said: I have been single since I left him. One night, I was so lonely that I asked him to have dinner together. But the moment he appeared in front of the restaurant, I understood once again why we can't be together. I don't love him anymore. Benefits: Women know that when there is no love, single life is appropriate. Disadvantages: spend some lonely and difficult nights alone. In fact, the great difficulty in getting along with an old lover is how to understand the failed relationship between two people and how to treat the current relationship correctly. Is it love? Or friendship? Too clinging to the past will ruin the present life psychologically or even substantially. Most men don't believe in friendship between the two sexes. They come to see you out of love that has not been extinguished, or they are surprised, or they don't want to refuse your kindness. When women know this, they may be more cautious when putting it aside. Memories are beautiful because they have passed and can no longer hurt us. Let them become now, and they will become a sword again. Women often think that times have changed and people have become more mature. When we meet our old lover again, we will know how to control our leisure time. But this is not the case. In what way and mentality is it appropriate to face old talents? How will a woman react when she hits him? Is it an excuse to refuse? Or accept it? Under normal circumstances, men will not refuse a woman's invitation. Especially when two people break up soon and the man wants to save the relationship, he is willing to do whatever the woman asks him to do. The woman began to wait anxiously at the dating place, and she didn't know the man who appeared immediately. He has always been in her mind, but he has been far away from her life. On the other hand, he is a relative stranger. Before and when facing him, just do the following: wait until the relationship between the two sides is no longer ambiguous. Find out what you want from this meeting. Don't think what he did to us. Don't make too gentle gestures and movements when you are with him. Don't ask his current girlfriend too many details. Try to call his cell phone instead of his home phone, otherwise if another woman answers the phone, both the listener and the speaker will feel uncomfortable. Don't drink too much, or you will say or do something against your original intention. Let bygones be bygones! Readers should also learn to observe and see if there are any symptoms in life. Once symptoms appear, you should go to a regular hospital for examination and treatment in time. At the same time, experts remind that if you feel unwell, you should go to a regular hospital for examination as soon as possible, so that the treatment effect will be guaranteed. (Editor: Hui Ying)