"Go your own way and let others talk!"

Seven centuries have passed since Dante, the last poet in the Middle Ages, uttered this famous saying.

"Be yourself!"

It is less than one hundred years since the slogan was put forward by humanistic existential psychologists.

Nowadays, this slogan has become more concise-be yourself.

Not only are various life instructors teaching us to be ourselves, but also major brand manufacturers advocate us to be ourselves in advertisements, especially advising young people not to care about other people's eyes and comments. You should listen to your inner voice and use our products freely. Is this what you are doing?

Just be yourself. My childhood dream was to be myself, but the adults wouldn't let me. Now that I am an adult, I am still trying to be myself and encouraging young people to be themselves. But in the face of this massive "be yourself" offensive, my inner voice is-"fool, then fool!"

I don't want to pretend to be a life teacher and teach you how to be yourself. Almost everyone is an expert in this field now. The current situation is to be yourself if you have difficulties, and to be yourself if you don't create difficulties!

In fact, it is very difficult to be yourself. It can be said that there are many difficulties. There are always a few people who are really themselves. A person who really wants to be himself must have profound self-awareness, firm belief, strong will, free spirit, independent mind and so on. The difficulty coefficient is equivalent to cultivating immortality and becoming a Buddha!

Fortunately, in today's era of freedom, openness, tolerance and diversity, it is the easiest to be yourself. As long as it is not illegal, you can be yourself at will, and no one will stop you. However, if it is not difficult to do, it will be boring, unhappy, and have no sense of greatness and accomplishment. Therefore, not many people dare to be themselves, but many people want to be themselves without creating difficulties. In layman's terms, it is a dead person. Seriously, they are people with a game mentality.

The game mentioned here is not the kind of eating, drinking and having fun in the dance academy. Bernard Suits (1925-2007-2007), a famous contemporary American philosopher, once gave a refined and rigorous definition of games: "Playing games means voluntarily trying to overcome unnecessary obstacles." This definition also applies to being yourself. According to this definition, we can judge which situations people are playing games and which ones are not, and we can also judge which situations people are doing themselves and which ones are not.

For example, in the 1970s and 1980s, men with long hair were easily regarded as idle hooligans. When walking in the street, passers-by will avoid talking about you. At that time, men with long hair needed courage to face gossip and cold ridicule. We say that he is himself, which is admirable. With the development of the times, it is not unusual for boys to have long hair, and no one will look back when walking in the street. As a result, people who want to be themselves will carry forward the spirit of "being themselves when there are difficulties, and being themselves when there are no difficulties", dyeing their hair colorful and bizarre, and the non-mainstream of killing Matt, which once swept the internet, has developed.

Why did killing Matt disappear? It is easy for us to think that this is because they have grown up and matured, started to face the practical difficulties in real life, and embarked on the road of truly being themselves. The fundamental reason is that this is an unnecessary obstacle set by oneself-the law does not stipulate that men are not allowed to have long hair, which is a game. In the Qing dynasty, a man dared to cut off his hair, which was a necessary obstacle and a real difficulty. Therefore, the greatest achievement of the Revolution of 1911 was to cut braids. It is revolutionary activists with advanced ideas who take the initiative to cut their braids. Not cutting braids is counter-revolutionary, but also cutting braids voluntarily and being forced to do so. The treatment is very different. It will be more fun and happy to do something voluntarily.

For the middle class, winners in life and successful people who have achieved wealth freedom, any problem that can be solved with money is no longer a problem, and it is no longer difficult to be yourself. At this time, it is even more necessary to carry forward the spirit of "be yourself when you have difficulties, and be yourself when you don't have difficulties", set some unnecessary obstacles for yourself, formulate some rules to limit yourself, and then find someone to play with. It's just a cloud. Money means nothing to him. He's just playing with money.

In other words, when you are overcoming all kinds of necessary obstacles, you know that you are not yourself. When you bow your head in the sun like me and work hard silently with sweat, you tell yourself, "My future is not a dream". When you take the initiative to overcome all kinds of unnecessary obstacles, you are playing games and really being yourself, because you are finally not forced to do all kinds of things you don't like.

Since playing games is being yourself, can't a person play games before being himself? In other words, are we not qualified to play games and be ourselves before overcoming all necessary obstacles?

For primary school students, the answer is definitely: "Of course not. You are not allowed to play games before you finish your homework. This is your mother's family rule. " For adults, there are similar "rules". I don't know who made them. For example, some people say that before you realize wealth and freedom, you are not qualified to be yourself, let alone love.

According to this "regulation", all living beings may not be qualified to be themselves or have love all their lives. There is a song like this: "Goodbye to my beloved dream girl, I will go far away to find the future." If I return to my hometown one day, I will come to your window to tell my feelings. " If I don't come back, let the moon stay outside your window. "If there is such a day, I'm afraid that dream girl would have married and had children with others.

The movie "Ashes of Time" gives us a better way. Ouyang Feng said to Acer, "Take her with you. No one said that you can't take your wife to the rivers and lakes. " We don't know what happened later, but I think that many years later, the old man with white hair and beard must have a smile on his face when he recalled this incident.

Life is always full of difficulties and endless obstacles. No one can overcome all the necessary obstacles once and for all, and then play games leisurely and gracefully and simply be yourself. Who doesn't try to be himself while trying to live? If you don't take time off to play games, the already difficult life will become more boring. Maybe we can't reach the highest level of dance academy all our lives, or even ordinary people can't, but each of us can always take the initiative to overcome some unnecessary obstacles, which is not only fun, but also being ourselves.

Being yourself is the happiest thing.