Yesterday, I saw an article published by the public "mass media" entitled "Retired professors in Shanghai bombard deformed children! It takes three years for the whole family to send their children from the granary to the toilet! 》。

It is about a 68-year-old retired professor from the National Research Institute and his family. After three years of "Bullfrog War", it ended in failure.

What is "Bullfrog Wars"?

In Shanghai, there is an unwritten saying: children are bullfrogs when they are admitted to the four private primary schools in Shanghai, and frogs when they are not admitted. In order to prepare for the "young to small", parents often began to draw blood from the age of 3 in order to win this "bullfrog war".

Old professors and parents of their children want their children to grow up according to the "bullfrog" route of prestigious private primary schools-prestigious private junior high schools-prestigious public high schools-Fudan University of Tsinghua Peking University and Ivy League overseas.

As soon as the child turned 3, he began the plan of "bullfrog mode". Let the children put down their babbling and step into various training institutions to start reading ABC.

During this period, I was particularly impressed. In order not to attend the training class, the child pretended to have a stomachache. After the old professor took him for a walk, he brought it back to the training class. The child asked, "Grandpa, when can I play?"

The old professor said, "When you grow up to be as big as grandpa."

The child's naive imagination seemed to have hope, and then asked, "Then can you play with me?"

The old professor smiled: "Grandpa was gone at that time."

"Then what's the point of me playing alone?" The old professor didn't expect him to say such a thing, and he was speechless at the moment.

In this way, they deprived their children of almost all the carefree and happy childhood they should have.

After three years of bullfrog training, in the last round of interview in the most promising school, the child actually showed symptoms such as involuntary blinking and shrugging, and was finally diagnosed as "Tourette's disease".

The interview naturally failed, and the child failed to enter the "Bullfrog Primary School" as expected.

In the end, for the better growth of children, the family chose to emigrate. Because the child's father said, "If we can't go to a good public primary school in a good school district, we will be busy with everything!" " He will never escape from this strange circle! "

This old professor, who has been obsessed with family studies and hopes to establish a "noble family" with the efforts of several generations, finally regrets:

I suddenly understood the ultimate meaning of a family inheritance.

The so-called family study is to make the next generation closer to the true self than we do. We don't want to give him all our accumulated wealth and resources, but let him see what he really wants faster than we do, wasting time and life.

"His life should be a wonderful story, not an inspirational story. Goodbye to Shanghai, you give me a sea of stars, it is better to give me a child who can grow up slowly. "

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Seeing this story of "Bullfrog Wars" reminds me of what happened in my first year of work.

First, the boss asked me to help him design a resume for his son who is going to primary school.

I was in Beijing at that time, and I was shocked to hear that I was going to do a resume for such a young child. Because, as far as I know, only those who are looking for a job need a resume. When did you go to primary school? Do you need a resume?

The proprietress gave me a copy of all the photos of her son from birth to kindergarten. While explaining: that primary school is a famous school with high requirements. In addition to the interview, we also attach great importance to the child's growth experience and comprehensive ability in all aspects.

Looking at that photo that takes up a few g's in memory, I know this child must be very busy at ordinary times!

According to the child's growth process, I made a resume of about 30 pages, with pictures and words on each page.

Photos are used to select children in different periods and perform well. Some are athletic ability, some are extracurricular activities or remedial classes, and some are some small ideas in life. Getting along with pets shows that children are caring. Of course, it is absolutely necessary for children to win any prizes.

After the boss's wife dictated, I wrote a short story in a child's tone.

In short, we should show all the advantages of children. Let the interviewer have a look, and you will know that this baby is excellent in all aspects and deserves to enter their primary school.

In the end, all the children went to school smoothly, and the proprietress was very happy. She treated me to a big meal and praised my resume directly, which played a great role.

Then, after children go to primary school, they sometimes come to the company to play. If I happen to be free, I will either accompany my children to build Lego blocks and cultivate their logical thinking ability. Or take him to learn English.

In short, the proprietress wants to plug all the gaps and improve the children's comprehensive ability.

Second, the general manager heard that some colleagues complained that they sometimes had to work overtime on weekends and were very tired.

Then the general manager replied, "At least you only work overtime occasionally, and you are still very tired. My daughter is only five years old. Usually after school, she is in various cram schools. Then the weekend: half a day to learn painting, half a day to learn English, and half a day to learn dancing. Take a half-day break every week! "

? "Are you tired of her? One by one is young, not struggling well, and not ashamed to complain! "

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At that time, when chatting with friends about the "hard life" of children led by the company, we recalled our childhood.

We spent our childhood in the countryside. When we were young, we all played crazy. Whether it's mud, stones, chicken feathers, flowers, branches and bark, we can make all kinds of gadgets, even small musical instruments.

In addition to the fun of the game, there is also a sense of accomplishment of doing it yourself. Such happiness is full of joy in retrospect.

At that time, I thought that after having children, I would never spend my children's time in various extracurricular classes every day like a leader, and I would never lock him in the reinforced concrete of the city.

Take him back to his hometown in winter and summer vacation, and let him throw himself into the embrace of nature without any burden! Never let his life, recall childhood, only endless extracurricular remedial classes!

Now, we have done it, working in colleges and universities, having winter and summer vacations, just in time for the children to have a holiday.

And it's not just winter and summer vacations, but also a small holiday with fine weather. We also took him back to his hometown in the countryside and showed him the scenery of the four seasons, which is different from that in the city.

Let him play with his peers in his hometown and experience the happiness of growing up in the country.

Let him go to the fields with his grandparents to see where vegetables and fruits grow and how fish and shrimp are caught.

Let him roll in the mud and play in the river!

Let him have a happy childhood!

Some people may say that in this case, it is better to live in the countryside, so why go back to the city?

Why?

In order to let him know more; In order to let him experience different life forms; In order to make him happy, at the same time, give yourself more choices and channels in the future!

For his future, all the choices are for a happier life. Instead of being forced to live!

You are not required to be a "bullfrog" and live a legendary or inspirational story.

I just hope you are healthy and happy, and be more true to yourself. Live and live up to your life!