I told him without thinking: "First, the quality is good, and second, study hard and get good grades." This is my good student. "
I further explained to him that the so-called good qualities are kindness and love: filial piety to parents, love for teachers, love for classmates and love for others around them; Enthusiastic help: extend a friendly hand to those in need; Honesty and self-confidence: treat people sincerely, keep promises, be confident and happy; Finally, we must have a certain sense of responsibility: although we are still young, we must be responsible when we should be responsible.
The so-called hard work and good grades mean that you should be diligent in thinking, diligent and serious, and your academic performance can be in front of the whole class.
He is satisfied with my answer, and I believe many people agree with me.
But at present, many people regard "good academic performance" as the only criterion for judging good students. Many parents or teachers neglect the education of children's life and self-cultivation, which makes some children get excellent academic performance, but they don't know how to respect others, are selfish and lack love. I wonder what kind of person such a child will become in the future.
On April 3, 2008, I saw such a message in Procuratorate Daily. The fourth-grade students in a primary school in Hangzhou were placed in the last row of the classroom by the teacher because of their poor academic performance. He is the only one in this row, and there is no deskmate around. What children do every day is to play alone, read comics and "dig holes". In five months, the child dug a hole in the back wall of the classroom. The hole is 3 cm in diameter and about 46 cm in depth, which has penetrated to the lower edge of the blackboard in the next classroom.
Poor child, a ridiculous thing.
In more than one semester, the child can find something to do by himself, adjust his life and not disturb others (if he wants to disturb others, he should have been discovered long ago), which shows that he has certain perseverance and strong psychological endurance. Should it be an advantage? And according to the child's teacher, although the child's grades are not good, he is very kind. When he comes home, he will cook and bathe by himself, and his class work is also more active.
It should be said that this is a clever and lovely child. There may be various reasons for his poor grades. Can't his teachers and classmates lend him a friendly hand? Why is this happening? He may not be a "good student", but he will always be a good boy.
I hope I will never see or hear such a thing again. I hope that every educator and every parent can put their children's moral education in an important position.
In the stage of basic education, we often deny students who have just passed the exam, and some teachers even classify students whose exam results have just reached the qualified standard as poor students and ask them to make up lessons. Are our teachers and parents a little hard on their children? There is nothing wrong with pursuing Excellence, but while pursuing Excellence, our methods sometimes deviate. The new round of curriculum reform is actually to cultivate qualified talents and improve students' comprehensive quality. It aims to cultivate all-round, healthy and individual talents. According to the "Three Orientations" put forward by Comrade Deng Xiaoping, we should cultivate students into people with ideals, morality, culture and discipline. I think the current standards for good students should have new contents, fully reflecting the characteristics of the times. Specifically, I think the standard of a good student in the new period is:
1, good thinking quality. The quality of thinking is generally marked by six aspects: extensiveness, profundity, logicality, independence, agility and flexibility. The ways to cultivate good thinking quality are: broadening knowledge horizons, accumulating rich experience, mastering various thinking methods, and constantly thinking, analyzing and solving problems. Students in the new era should have broad vision, rich knowledge, flexible thinking and be able to solve practical problems independently.
2. Strong ability to live independently, good at listening and communicating, willing to cooperate with others, optimistic and easy to get along with others. Now that there are more only children, students have poor ability to live independently, and they can't wash clothes and do sanitation. At home, they are uncompromising. In school and collective life, they show arrogant, proud and withdrawn personality defects. But independence, good listening and cooperation, optimism and so on are the keys to a person's success and happiness. To cultivate this, families and schools should do both.
3. Be able to face and accept difficulties and setbacks bravely, have strong psychological endurance, be in good health and mental health, be neither arrogant nor impetuous, nor complain about others. Whether in primary schools, middle schools or universities, in the face of endless incidents of students committing suicide by jumping off buildings, more people always lament that children's psychological endurance is too poor. In fact, how much education and exercise did parents and teachers give? No child is born with super psychological endurance.
4, hands-on ability is stronger than theoretical knowledge, can bear hardships and stand hard work, not haggle over every ounce. A common fault of modern people is haggling over every ounce and being too utilitarian. Children are also nurtured in such a big environment, which will inevitably be affected.
Learning is hard work. It takes a lot of effort to study well. Whether it is the beginning of learning or the persistence of the learning process, it is inseparable from the role of will. At the beginning of learning, we should overcome all kinds of interference and focus on learning problems; In the process of learning, the knowledge you have learned is often not understood at first sight, understood as soon as you listen, and known as soon as you think about it, but you have to read and think repeatedly to understand it; Even the knowledge you know can only be consolidated through continuous application and review. Mastering a knowledge can't rely on a whim, not on a few days' enthusiasm for learning, but on accumulation, perseverance and perseverance.
5. Have good will quality. Weak-willed people will be weak, hesitant, timid and depressed in the face of learning difficulties; Strong-willed people are confident, resolute, brave, inspirational and brave in the face of learning difficulties. Therefore, weak-willed people are always losers in their studies, and only strong-willed people are expected to succeed. Therefore, a good student must have good will quality, because his grades are above average, his mind is flexible, he is good at thinking, and he is good at finding and solving problems. In other words, he never dies reading. Although his grades are not the best, such students only spend a little energy on their studies and other energy on other things, so they are generally knowledgeable and capable. On the contrary, it is difficult for those students who can only take exams to gain a foothold in the rapidly changing society.
In a word, the standard of a good student must be consistent with the standard of a child stepping into society and becoming a responsible and good citizen who is beneficial to society. No argument is very important for today's study and future development.