And I have a strong sense of self-protection since I was a child. This is not from my parents, but from stories I have heard from all sides:
For example, I heard that girls were robbed by the roadside in summer because they were bejeweled and beautifully dressed, so I didn't want to be a person with outstanding appearance since I was a child. Even though the slogan "No ugly women, only lazy women" baptized me many times in society, I remained the same.
I remember the first time I had a particularly clear sense of security. When I graduated from junior high school, I heard that there was a murder case in the upcoming high school, which was caused by the breakup of my boyfriend and girlfriend. So I have a very bad feeling about falling in love. I'm worried about meeting a particularly paranoid boy, and I don't have much experience in dealing with it, so I'm afraid of being hurt. So I think if you're not ready to say goodbye, don't start. When I was growing up in high school, I used to weigh more than 60 kilograms. I was chubby and not prominent, so I personally felt that I had no feminine charm and certainly no chance to fall in love. At that time, I didn't listen to what was going on in the world, but only read the books of sages.
When I arrived at the university, in order to reduce the burden on my parents, I chose to work and study, and go out to work part-time in my spare time. Work-study program is in school, and there is no potential safety hazard. Then I go out to work part-time, and basically arrive at 10 at 6 pm and go back to the dormitory 10, which is relatively late. For safety, I always carry a fruit knife in my schoolbag. According to the school regulations, you must return to the school dormitory before 1 1, and you must never stay outside.
After graduation, I came to work in Hangzhou, alone.
I remember one night in the first summer, I was eating in a restaurant outside, and a drunken man next to me tried to flirt with me. It was a public place, but the drunk was irrational. I didn't even pay the bill, so I ran away (and later returned the money to the owner) until I was sure I was in a safe range.
People will encounter too many challenges in their life, so we should be careful step by step to reduce the chances of encountering risks. Especially for girls who live alone, don't be kind enough to think that there are good people in the world, but simply believe that everyone is willing to help you. In case of emergency, we should first show weakness and protect ourselves, not be aggressive. If you meet a "garbage man" (garbage man theory), never reason with him, because it will never make sense, but you will get hurt.
Only according to their own life experience, I can provide some constructive suggestions for female professionals and parents with girls at home. Women must learn to protect themselves. There is only one chance in life.
Maisui 2020, ten years HR experience, Internet company executive. High-quality output is for better input, meeting is fate, and I hope to have a spiritual voice.