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I despised my soul seven times.

For the first time, when it could have made progress, it pretended to be humble;

The second time, when it is empty, it is full of love;

The third time, between difficulty and easy, it chose easy;

The fourth time, it made a mistake, but comforted itself with others' mistakes;

The fifth time, it is freedom and weakness, but it is regarded as the tenacity of life;

The sixth time, when it despised an ugly face, it didn't know it was one of its masks;

The seventh time, it leans in the mud of life, though unwilling, but timid.

Gibran

I think:

Confucius said: Seeing the sage Si Qi, you don't reflect on yourself.

Xunzi said: a gentleman knows what to do when he participates in Japan, and saves himself, so he knows clearly without fault.

Ceng Zi said: I visit myself three times a day-am I deceiving others? Don't believe in making friends? Can you pass it on?

In my opinion, Ji Bolun's words don't need us to understand, just need us to "follow the map".

We often say that people attach importance to introspection and self-knowledge, but in many cases, we actually have no way of knowing. Because when we are doing a lot of things, we are deeply involved, unable to extricate ourselves and lost in the game. Even if you have stepped out of the game and become a bystander, you may not be able to see the doorway, because times are different and many things are different from those of the "authorities", so it is difficult to learn from them.

In other words, how we treat every day and every moment we experience, how we should reflect on ourselves, and how to keep ourselves awake and enterprising all the time all need rules to follow.

For example, Confucius said that when you see excellent people, you should try to emulate them. When you see someone making mistakes, you should reflect on whether you will make the same mistakes. In fact, it also happens to correspond to the sixth and fourth times: on the one hand, we should despise the ugly mask, but also reflect on whether we have similar problems. When you make a mistake, don't think about whether others will make mistakes, because other people's mistakes can't reduce your mistakes, so you should "see Si Qi" instead.

Like Jackie Chan's cheating scandal, Jackie Chan said, "I just made a mistake that every man can make." At first glance, this sentence seems to say that "this matter is magnified because I am a celebrity", but it actually comes down to the nature of "people like me". Then, in fact, you can refute him. Maybe every man has the nature of cheating, but there are also many men who are unfaithful all their lives. So, as a celebrity, why not set an example like these men? Instinct is always driven by desire, but the prosperity of human society and civilization is precisely because most people can restrain their desires-although this statement is actually a bit positive, on the whole, at least most of the superficial peace in the world comes from long-term self-restraint.

As for Xunzi's words, it's not clear what we should introspect, but this sentence comes from the first paragraph of "Persuasion", which says that "everything has become extraordinary after being polished by rules". So what he mentioned is not only to study hard, but also to reflect on whether to act according to "truth" every day. Then it is actually "the third time" and "the fifth time".

Wood is straight without rope, and gold is sharp. Both of them change the true face of life through "truth" and achieve real tenacity. In fact, it is to choose a difficult and honed road between hardship and ease to achieve an extraordinary life.

However, just surviving through pain is not the real way. Xunzi's true meaning actually refers to "self-discipline".

Things that grow freely in the wild may have their own aesthetic feeling, but they may not be really "useful". At an appropriate time, we also need to restrain our nature, be self-disciplined and face life positively and bravely, instead of being resigned or sloppy, in order to be truly free.

I once said to many people who claimed to be "used" to all kinds of life adversity and never intended to change: you recovered quickly, not strong.

The real way to face adversity is not to be burned to ashes without being hurt, but to embrace our original enthusiasm for life and be reborn from the ashes.

Self-discipline is what this passion for life can bring us, and it is the road to true freedom.

No, what is our morning reading slogan?

Self-discipline is freedom.

As for Ceng Zi, the model is relatively small, pointing to his own behavior and academics. Do things for people, in the end; When interacting with friends, always keep your promise; You should review what you have learned every day.

So the remaining three times in Ji Bolun are:

For the first time, when it could have made progress, it pretended to be humble;

In fact, combined with our popular saying, it should be "life has no end." When we can learn more and make more progress, we pretend to be modest, "I haven't done anything", "I won't do anything" and "I can't learn at my age" ...

I remember reading a cartoon in which the protagonist initially thought diving was fashionable and handsome, but refused to join a diving club because "I can't swim". This is the first limit. So all the brothers in the club laughed: Didn't you learn Chinese well? I asked you "Do you want to try", but you answered me "Do you want to try"?

Then my brother said seriously (key! Knock on the blackboard! ): "If we only choose what we can do from the beginning, we will accomplish nothing."

Simple and straight to the heart. Imagine, how many new things have we learned since the real "incompetent" baby? And how many new things will we learn from us in the long future, even if we don't want to? How many of these things were learned unconsciously, and how many were learned only after careful study?

Moreover, the first thing we have to do is to "try" ourselves.

There is a vulgar but interesting saying in Cantonese that "you don't know your health if you don't go whoring, and you don't know your luck if you don't gamble".

Translated into a normal and grounded Mandarin, that is, "How do you know how awesome you are if you don't try?"

The second time, when it is empty, it is full of love;

In fact, this poem has been translated a little far. The original text is the second time I saw her limping in front of the lame. It may have been changed by later poets.

Judging from the adapted version, it is more like a unity with the thoughts and feelings of the full text. We should not look for emotional comfort to fill the emptiness, but should meet the beautiful love with a complete mind. This is because love in emptiness is mostly mixed with primitive desires, not noble sentiments. This is different from the younger generation's idea that "real life is full" = "having a partner", but that "you should consider finding a partner after real life is full"-that is to say, love is not an ingredient to enrich your life, and only a person with complete personality and a full life can be qualified to have real love.

From the original text, it should mean "limping in front of a cripple", which means imitating each other a little deliberately to make fun of people who are not as good as themselves. Relatively speaking, its connotation is more ironic than inspirational compared with the following sentences. This should mean that social discrimination was serious at that time. From today's perspective, the problem of discrimination has naturally not been solved, and we should still treat it seriously and cautiously. We should not make fun of others' shortcomings at will, let alone their differences for no reason.

The seventh time, it leans in the sludge of life, although unwilling, but timid;

The original text is that for the seventh time, she sang a practice song and thought it was a virtue.

The adapted version is actually the sublimation of the first six sentences, which is a bit like the conclusion. If we can understand the first six times, then the significance of the seventh time is self-evident. Nothing more than that, since you are not satisfied with your current living situation, you should go all out to improve yourself, be brave and fearless, and so on.

But the original version means, "when she sings praises, she thinks she is the virtue itself." Like the second one, it's ironic.

It is psychologically influential. The popular saying is "when you say this sentence, your brain thinks you did it", which is quite similar to this sentence.

We often see that netizens often praise other people's moral qualities, such as being courageous, and condemn those who are courageous and fail. After their praise, it seems that there will be a sense of pride that "I agree with you, so you will agree with me, so we are on the same moral level", and they will begin to occupy the moral high ground and dictate to others.

It is also consistent to think of the donation incident in which stars are kidnapped by morality. A group of netizens may have done nothing by themselves. Just because they praised or commented that a public figure donated money, they asked all public figures to donate, and even asked for how much money to donate. They may even be proud and feel that they have "exercised their supervisory power".

There is also a situation that is actually very common in knowledge payment. It's just that some students really feel the benefits of the course after they finish it, but they only remember how good the course is and are full of praise. They even worship teachers or founders more or less and indulge in constant praise and Amway, but in fact they don't really apply the contents of the course to their lives. ...

Wait a minute.

Then, referring to each of these articles, are we introspection every day? Do you have a deeper understanding of yourself and reach self-knowledge? Are you aware of your own emotional changes, your own thinking flow, and your own growth in these processes?

I guess that's why Ji Bolun wrote this poem. He made a mirror to reflect on himself and constantly improve himself. And we can also refer to this mirror to see ourselves clearly, know ourselves and feel ourselves.

Finally, attach the original text:

I despised my soul seven times:

-Kahlil Gibran

For the first time, when I see her docile, she may reach a height.

The second time I saw her limping in front of the lame.

The third time, when she chose between difficulty and easy, she chose easy.

The fourth time, when she made a mistake, she comforted herself that others would make mistakes.

The fifth time, she restrained her weakness and attributed her patience to strength.

The sixth time was when she despised an ugly face and didn't know it was one of her own masks.

The seventh time, she sang a song of praise and thought it was a virtue.

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