This is a famous saying in the American film The Devil Wearing Prada released in 2006.
In modern life, choosing life or choosing work is the most discussed question after "to be or not to be".
Miranda is called "the Great Devil" in the movie. She devoted herself to her work, and both her husbands chose to leave her. But she knows herself very well, so she no longer entangles her husband's love life, but thinks about her own contribution and thinks that the boss should give her more dividends.
Andy, the heroine, has just entered the workplace. Without dressing up, she always makes colleagues around her feel that she exudes a sense of superiority. Hou Zhifeng was promoted from a novice assistant to a chief assistant, but he chose to resign, just one step away from the top position. Not so much that she stuck to her original intention as that Andy clearly understood what she really wanted and bravely chose to leave, which not everyone could do.
Sometimes I feel really tired when I first enter the workplace. I can't see any progress after doing so much. I know so many work partners, and it seems that few of them are sincere to themselves. Things at work are actually not difficult, but they are extremely complicated to do. What is complicated is not the thing itself, but people's attitude towards life.
I was really happy when I first entered the workplace. I completed an arduous task, gained unexpected gains, increased my confidence, and suddenly felt like an angel. The circle on my head sparkles.
The real pain is why I always have to "fill the hole" when I work so hard. Some of them were dug by myself and some indirectly, but we didn't notice them at that time. On the contrary, true happiness should be hard work, no complaints, filling all the "pits" in front of you and stepping on them. Stand up, hold your head high, face the wind and light and move on without fear. ...
I like Murong Yindao's series of cartoons "Knife and Dog" very much. One cartoon reads: "Half of life is bad luck, and the other half is how to deal with it."
Is life really like this? When you know how to treat yourself calmly after a life journey, you will really laugh at that time. Thank life for letting you meet these pits in advance and know how to fill them. Next time, you will be like a mine detector, sweeping or detouring at any time.
I think life is life, so what kind of life is the accumulation of years.
Looking back on life may bring different feelings to everyone, but living the present is the essence of life.
When I recollected the ups and downs that life brought me again, I saw this passage on the cover of a book: "Thank you for the painful lesson that I learned from living in my twenties."
This book is a life lesson by Li Xiaoyi, a beautiful woman writer. The title is a little confusing. When you finish reading the book, you will be suddenly enlightened. Life is the classroom of life encyclopedia. Therefore, we have to take life lessons and life practice lessons all our lives.
The author said: In the book you opened today, I wrote a lot about the "pits" I fell, the falls I fell, the mistakes I made and the roads I walked. I really want to gently remind you that there is fraud here, please make a detour.
First, we are moved by "sincerity" and often used by "sincerity"
Newcomers entering the workplace are not familiar with anything, a little afraid that they are not good enough, and a little excited to show their ambitions. At the same time, I am worried that others will not see their own light.
At this time, if a veteran in the workplace comes to chat with you and occasionally gives a suggestion, people will look very grounded and not secular, and you will definitely feel very lucky, so you will repay with ten or a hundred times your heart and lungs.
Only one day you will find that your sincerity has actually become someone else's after-dinner gossip.
I once heard a story about a girl who worked hard when she first came to the workplace, and overtime became the most normal job. One day when she was about to get off work, she received an invitation phone call from her boyfriend. She postponed her appointment because she had to work overtime, so her boyfriend expressed her dissatisfaction with the girl on the phone. The girl felt that her boyfriend didn't understand herself, so she quarreled on the phone.
Later, I hung up and the girl sat at her desk and sobbed quietly. At this moment, one of her female colleagues came over and asked her why she was sad. At first, she was embarrassed to say it. Later, my colleague said that I told you my story, and she told the girl about her emotional injury. After listening to this, the girl felt that she had told herself such a private thing, so she opened her heart and told her colleagues about the quarrel with her boyfriend. The colleague enlightened her from time to time, making her feel like she had met a bosom friend, and told her everything without hiding it. She is very grateful for her comfort and intimacy.
But within two days, her privacy became the material for the whole company to chat and gossip, and the joke after dinner, the leader also hinted that the girl should respect herself and put her mind on the work of the company.
Exchanging secrets is risky, because not everyone loves and cherishes themselves as much as they love themselves. Many times, I tell my unhappiness to make others happy.
The friendship between adults or the friendship in the workplace is mixed with too many unknown thoughts and emotions. You don't know what kind of physical molecules you are in each other's eyes, and they have been processed into the atoms they need. Just like many newcomers in the workplace are obviously brought in by the master, but they have always been looked down upon or bullied by others.
Sincerity needs trust, and trust takes time, so true friendship and true human heart need time to wash away.
There is a saying in "Being too close to others is a disaster": If you are shallow, don't talk too deeply, don't overestimate your position in others' hearts, and don't expect too much from others.
Everyone who comes to the workplace will think that the world is either black or white, right or wrong. Everything depends on the truth and respects the facts, so I am sincere to you and you must be sincere to me.
When you have been in the workplace for five years, ten years, or at the age of no doubt, you will find that not all truths are meaningful, but many truths have become useless, and you will understand that you should talk less and keep a low profile.
Second, the flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not round. Imperfection is the real beauty in life.
The moment we walked out of the school gate, we seemed to see the dream waving to us. When we first arrive at the workplace, we often try our best to sprint to the goal, but we often push too hard and don't learn how to adjust ourselves. Many times, our strength turns into anger. And forget to leave some space and time for ourselves. We always hope to shine, but ignore the unique charm that blooms in silence, shine by ourselves, take care of others, and let ourselves become excellent from excellent.
The book mentions such a story:
Once a male writer was invited to attend a pen meeting, and a young female writer sat next to him. She dresses simply, doesn't talk much, is modest and doesn't talk at all. The male writer doesn't know who she is. Judging from her reaction, she felt that she must be a lousy author. Why else would she keep such a low profile? For an instant, he had a commanding pride and asked:
Excuse me, miss, are you a professional writer?
Yes, sir.
So, do you have any representative works to publish? May I read one or two books?
I'm just writing a novel, not a masterpiece.
Male writer more convinced of their own judgment, proudly went on to say:
You also write novels? Then we are colleagues. I have published 339 novels. How many books have you published?
I only wrote one book.
The male writer asked a little disdainfully, Oh, you only wrote one. Can you tell me the name of this novel?
The woman writer said calmly: This novel is called Gone with the Wind.
The talkative male writer shut up at once.
This woman is margaret mitchell. She only published one work in her life-Gone with the Wind, but its influence is amazing.
Gone with the Wind was published on June 30th, 1936, which broke all the publishing records at that time. In the first six months, the circulation reached10,000 copies, and the daily sales reached 50,000 copies. The price was $3, but it was fired to $60. It won Pulitzer Prize and American Publishers Association Award in 1937. Not to mention the great success of Gone with the Wind, a film adapted from this novel, which made it even more famous, so that by the end of 1970s, this novel had been translated into 27 languages and sold well all over the world.
We should learn to bloom ourselves slowly in silence, and don't regard our advantages as commodities for sale. To be a person with a high degree of Excellence but not arrogant, beyond the normal heart, without so many likes and dislikes, more easygoing and seemingly inconspicuous, but beyond the excellent to the excellent, shine on yourself and take care of others, even if you don't talk, you can bring your own light.
In the book, the author always remembers what the boss said to her when she first entered the workplace: "Flowers don't need to be in full bloom."
Flowers are most beautiful when they are not fully open, and best when the moon is full, so they are still beautiful when they are not perfect. This is another kind of beauty that life gives us, and what we should do is to really see this beauty and accept it sincerely, instead of going too far after trying our best to dazzle ourselves.
What really makes people grow up is life. Everyone is dealing with life from birth, not the length or the short life.
Life is a long run, we need to be strong in haste.
Life is like a runway. How do we run, how do we exert ourselves, how do we see hope and fun in boredom and keep moving forward? This is the growth of life. The growth of life is more important than the change of time.
Lin Qingxuan wrote in "The Ultimate Pursuit of Writers": Twenty years old is like twenty years old, and forty years old is like forty years old. Therefore, the exhibition of works is not only a "result theory". Every process is important.
On this road of life, we should not only look into the distance, but also watch our feet.
Let yourself live every moment well, and don't always be involved in the unpleasantness of the past, so that you forget your direction.
Let's look at everything with a normal heart, be gentle and kind, and keep the "elegant" wolf nature.
Let's live with our hearts. The runway of life is a kind of practice, a persistent practice, a progressive practice, a self-adjustment and self-improvement practice, and ultimately a spiritual practice.
Therefore, life is a test of life and a long-distance running. Never treat life with a sprint mentality, stick to the rhythm of each step and be unhurried and strong.
Conclusion: Young man, your duty is to level the land, not to worry about time. What do you do in March and April? You have your own answer in August and September-Yu Shicun.
The author of "Life Lesson" said: What you are confused about now is what I experienced in those years; What you are confused about now is what I have thought about. I don't believe in shortcuts, but I may know the way.
In fact, there are no books, and there are no famous sayings of truth for you to realize life and your own life at once. What makes you awake and see human nature clearly is an unforgettable experience in your life.
Life turns these experiences into memories. One day, when you see a book, a passage, a deja vu scene, which reminds you of your own experience, you realize that life has taught you a lesson, not how bad your fate and luck are.
Let our life be like what Lin said: "Be gentle, but don't compromise. We should take our time and be strong in silence. "