In the era of chicken soup flooding, as we all know, persistence and hard work may not bring you the success you want. This matter is also related to many aspects, such as direction, methods and so on. So, among those who complain about chicken soup, have you ever experienced the frustration of working hard towards a goal for a long time but still not seeing any improvement?
This is really a depressing moment, isn't it? Keep walking on an endless road and walk slowly until you doubt whether this is the right way. Frankly speaking, I have felt the same way. When we were young, we all learned a famous saying, success is 99% hard work plus 1% genius. When I grew up, someone joked that it was 1% genius that decided the key to success. Admittedly, in this world.
There are too many people whose innate qualifications are superior to others. Even if we have wings, it is difficult to catch up with them. But just like the probability distribution in this world, such people only account for a few percent.
Most people have similar qualifications, not too much difference, and their talent levels are far apart. However, we have to admit that success is not just hard work. I think it involves three aspects, one is the direction, the other is the method, and the third is the effort and persistence.
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When I read the book Psychology of Reverse Thinking before, I read a story about a child who was arranged by his parents to study literature, but after studying for a semester, the literature teacher commented that he worked hard enough, but he was not rigid enough, too formal and too rigid. A chemistry teacher knew about it and thought that the child was serious and rigid, but it was just right to do chemistry experiments, and suggested that the child change to chemistry. The child later won the Nobel Prize in chemistry. His name is Otto wallach.
A person's personality, talent, different levels of development of the left and right brain, etc. will affect you to some extent. If a person has no interest in a field and doesn't have the potential needed in that field at all, then you may fail not because you don't work hard enough, but because you are looking in the wrong direction. How to find the right direction, this topic is too big, only from the limited personal knowledge, one is to see if you have enough interest and patience to do it; Second, you can analyze and judge according to some personality tests; The third is to evaluate whether you have or can improve this ability through practice.
If you choose the right direction, you may get twice the result with half the effort because of the wrong method. It is certainly not advisable to build a car behind closed doors. In the Internet age, the most important thing is the enjoyment of information. What you are doing now may have been succeeded by countless predecessors. You might as well learn their experiences and methods from these successful people and try to see if there are any methods suitable for you. Experience is wisdom. However, if you are doing something unprecedented, you are required to adjust yourself slowly in the process of trying. If one method has been tried for a long time and it doesn't work, you should think about whether it will be much better to change it.
As for insisting on this matter, it is the most trained. Tell me about my best friend's experience.
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20 13 years, graduated with my best friend. After graduation, she worked as a training class teacher, and later resigned and returned to the primary school in our town as a substitute teacher for one month 1500. After working for a year, she resigned again. The low salary is not the reason for crushing her, but the feeling of real mental exhaustion. The unexpected workplace atmosphere, rebellious students, and the damage this profession has done to her voice all make her feel tired. Most importantly, she found that she didn't love the job. It is said that love can overcome any obstacles, so without love, it is easy to cause infinite amplification of any problems.
In the months after she resigned, she didn't carry out her new job. Later, by chance, she entered a husband and wife interior design company. The company is very small, the office area is in a residential building, and there are only three or four people in the whole company, including two bosses and proprietress. The salary is also horribly low. The basic salary 1000 starts, and it is a single holiday, not a weekend. For her, this is a brand-new industry, and she has little advantage. The only relevant painting skills came from public courses in the university, but she stayed.
After that, we meet regularly or talk on the phone. She told me about her job and had no other complaints, except that the company was too small, had no customers and could not accumulate experience, which was too bad for her to change careers.
And from her talk, I feel that she loves this industry. So I have been silently supporting her from the bottom of my heart, and I have never advised her to give up because of low salary and no future. Although I know how difficult it is to get ahead in a brand-new industry.
Later, she jumped ship to a bigger company, and her salary was still very low. It is normal to get a salary of one or two thousand yuan in January. But the person who took her master was very nice, and she often talked about it. Interior designer industry, to put it bluntly, also involves certain sales content, because it needs to sign the bill, so interpersonal skills must not be weak. I have never worried about her at this point. For more than ten years, I have witnessed her proficiency in this field. She is the most sociable person around me. In the new company, there must be more customers than before, and with her outgoing and cheerful personality, she has gradually accumulated some. She started signing bills, though not many, but every time she signed bills, I was really happy for her. I have never discussed with her how long this road will take to see hope, but I know she has her own goals in mind. I live in this city with her, and I know the consumption of this city very well. I know what it's like to earn more than a month's salary 1000.
More than half a year ago, with some accumulation and experience, she told me that she was going to change jobs again. This time, the target is a relatively benchmark company in the industry, which is famous and has many resources. Such a company is undoubtedly an ideal beacon for interior designers, so its competitiveness is obvious. But the best friend succeeded. Her previous experience in those two small companies won her a good starting point. So many miserable days and nights, I studied, accumulated and persisted in Huasong, and gained her practical strength in return. I know, she must be very grateful to herself for not giving up even when walking in the dark.
A few days ago, she called me to meet me and said she wanted to have a rest. I said yes, yes. She drove from the company to my house at once. When I got home, she turned her cell phone on mute and slept in the car for half an hour, which made me think she had lost contact. I feel sorry for her normal overtime, but she told me happily that her salary has reached 9000+ on average now, and she can even get tens of thousands this month. At that moment, I knew that this girl who insisted on walking on a long road had found her own dawn.
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We often hear a saying that we persist not because we see hope, but because we persist, we have hope. But how many people can persist on the hopeless road? Too often, we always insist on it, but at the same time we are afraid that our persistence and efforts will eventually be meaningless. We always expect too much and pay too little. The experience of my best friend moved me, because she not only got what she wanted, but also brought me too much inspiration.
She convinced me that there is nothing wrong with persistence and hard work. If you can't see the dawn of success, maybe it's because you haven't worked hard enough, then you will always stick to it for one more day than now; Maybe it's a mistake in one's own method, and we have to learn to adjust it, but if we work hard and persist, it will no longer be correct. No matter which way you take, you will undoubtedly need it.