First, in giving, we realize the happiness of growing up.
I admire Xiao Min very much. She has always taken the initiative to pay in the process of her growth. After graduation, I entered the internship unit and worked very actively. She always likes to say "I'll come". Over time, all the colleagues in the office like her.
Because she is cheerful, studious, positive and helpful, many times, she will help others with her heart if they have problems. Xiao Min said that she is actually a person who is particularly eager to grow up. When she takes the initiative to give, she will experience a kind of growing happiness, which may be the fundamental reason why she likes to give.
Every time I see Xiao Min, I will see her running and working hard, which makes us sincerely admire and appreciate. Xiao Min later stayed in the internship unit and was promoted quickly, because her growth and diligence are obvious to all.
On the contrary, when Xiaoyi, another colleague, came in, he was completely critical. For example, she doesn't want to post an expense account or print something, because she thinks it's a waste of time and she feels that she is overqualified.
Xiaoyi's behavior in the company made her colleagues think she was arrogant. Before I saw how capable I was, I began to care about this and that. Xiao Yi was later dismissed by the company, which was closely related to his attitude.
At every stage of life, giving is a process that we must go through. No one can succeed easily. Especially when we enter a new field, we must try our best to spell out everything. And learning to be a person who doesn't care, whether it is inner self-cultivation or determination, can be seen.
Only by learning not to care about giving can we grow more freely. Because growth itself needs to struggle with its sentimental heart in order to move forward.
You should know that growth is the most important thing. If one day your place can't make you grow, maybe you should consider changing places or fields to pay, so that you can keep pace with the times.
Second, giving is also the process of learning to love.
When we give, we tell ourselves that this is our choice and tell us how to practice love. Everyone should make their own efforts for their own choices and bear their own responsibilities, which is also a kind of ability of love.
In interpersonal relationships, those who learn to give must be those who know how to love. Whether it is friendship or love, not giving is taking. This kind of relationship can't last at all.
My best friend once had a crush on a girl and did many stupid things for her. For example, waiting for her on the way she must pass, for example, making her a gift on her birthday, it is rare to see a boy so delicate.
Although the last two people were not together, the girl refused him and said that she had a heart, but my good friend said that she never regretted loving someone. Because loving one's own efforts is completely willing, even if it is rejected, it is so exciting to feel that kind of love.
It suddenly occurred to me that I once said a classic sentence on the Internet, that I love you has nothing to do with you, but love is actually related to myself, and it is my own feeling of action and sweetness. Love makes us more willing to be better and more active, and it also makes us discover the happiness in this life.
Third, it is more blessed to give than to receive: when giving, don't expect too much.
When we give, sometimes we don't expect too much, so we will have an inner balance. Pay for love, there is a saying that good will be rewarded, and love will be rewarded.
We shouldn't expect too much from any effort. For example, giving to children, when giving, is itself the best reward, which proves that we have the ability to love. When giving, it will bring happiness. If expectations are too high, it will cause greater pressure and resistance to children's growth.
The best love is to let the child become himself, not to bind him with love, to bind him and make him unable to grow. I once remembered watching an animated film. The steamed stuffed bun's mother watched it grow up slowly. Finally, when the steamed stuffed bun was leaving home, she was so sad that she finally swallowed it.
The steamed stuffed bun mother's behavior is reluctant to let her children grow up and wants to control their freedom, but she doesn't know that the best love is to let them go and let them become themselves and have the ability to love.
It is also necessary to have such a mentality when giving. The best pay is not to expect to be what we want to be. The best hope is to make him what he wants to be. The best love is to awaken the child's inner conscience. This kind of love is more powerful and will be passed down from generation to generation.