Being cunning and cunning is a normal development process for middle-aged men

"The film "Dwelling House" gave those born in the 1980s the urge to be mistresses." In the reflections of readers and viewers, this It's a phenomenon worth pondering. Many netizens prefer Song Siming, a middle-aged civil servant who is having an affair, to Xiao Bei, a young boy who simply loves her.

"There are only two words for Beckham in the eyes of the audience - pitiful. The female audience, ranging from 85 years old to 15 years old, all go to Song Siming. But my favorite character is Beckham , because he was like me when I was young. He did not get beaten down by life and deceived because of the profound lessons taught to him by men like Song Siming. He was always positive, optimistic and healthy, and was still looking for his own life. The audience's emotions are understandable. Women have a mentality, which is Mu Qiang. If she is asked to choose between an incompetent man and a capable man, she will naturally be inclined. If it were me, I would. I would never choose this because I am a strong woman (laughs). I don’t like men like Song Siming at all. If it is a flower, it is in full bloom. If it is the moon, It's a full moon, but when the flowers bloom, they lose, and when the moon waxes, he actually has a fear that the best time is about to pass. This is the basis for his feelings for a girl like Haiwei. The truth has always been there. Never say a wrong word or take a wrong step. But such a man is terrible. I can also say these truths, but I will not use them to deceive young men. If you don’t have these things, you won’t be able to survive in the world. Being cunning is a normal development process for middle-aged men. Few men will always climb up in their lives. Song Siming is a person who is going down from his peak. ”

< p> The love between a girl and a middle-aged man is called "hitchhiking"

Some viewers feel that the extramarital affair between Haizao and Song Siming expresses a kind of supremacy of love. Many people regretted that they ended in tragedy, and many even hoped that the author would change the ending of the story so that it would not be so tragic.

"They are true love. Every time I hear such a cry, I can't help but sneer in my heart. I just feel that they are not love. Very objectively speaking, if a girl is in her twenties, if she If you want to choose a middle-aged man, then there must be an attribute in front of it - successful career. No young and beautiful girl will like a middle-aged man who has accomplished nothing, but the word success contains many things. Inside, this is obviously an exchange. "

"If you want to know what love is, it's very simple. I'll give you three conditions. If you answer "Yes" to both, it's love. Go straight to marriage. First, if he falls into poverty in the future, will you stay with him? Second, if he gets sick and becomes paralyzed, will you take care of him for the rest of his life? Are you willing to serve his parents as your own? If one of them is 'No', you will have a question mark about this love. In fact, the three answers to Haiwei must be 'No'. What is the love between a young girl and a middle-aged man? It has nothing to do with love. She has no intention of spending her whole life with him, but it is just a period of time when this woman is in her 40s. At the best time, will you be with a 60-year-old man forever? "

"Does Song really love her? I can put it this way, a man's love. It is complex and diverse, and you can eat vegetables and tofu. If your ability allows, no one will refuse to eat vegetables and chicken soup in one meal. The question is, as a woman, would you rather make vegetables or chicken soup? ? I’m not saying that all men are Song. But this is a reality that no one can avoid: women are more picky and choose the best, while men are more likely to accept everything. ”

Marriage will always be. Inseparable from one word - faith

There is a passage in the book that has been widely circulated on the Internet. Song Siming's wife said: "The pearls I grind out with the pain of clam meat are finally hung around the neck to show off by others. ." Chen Lin's suicide happened some time ago, so many women around her started discussing "what to do if my husband cheats".

"I sometimes feel sad about this kind of thing, and feel that it is a punishment for good people. Girls like us, when we are young, rely on our own efforts to pursue the love we believe in, and we are willing to follow this The man shared the joys and sorrows, and gave up all opportunities to take shortcuts, working hard and living with him, hoping to grow old together with him. When I encountered severe challenges in my middle age, I really wanted to say this, when I was young. I used to be beautiful, no worse than any beautiful girl nowadays, but I have to admit the reality. When I reach middle age, I originally expected that there would be true feelings in this society, at least kindness, sympathy, and mercy. If there is no respect for the past. With the mercy of life, you can hardly expect a man to stay with you for a lifetime, but I must admit frankly that I am really old and cannot compete with girls in their 20s, and no one will notice my kindness, wisdom, and kindness. Be open-minded and generous. What should we do? Someone has to pay the price during the transition period, and we women should be the bearers of the price.

A woman loses her marriage, which she has worked on for half her life, which is equivalent to everything she owns. Sometimes this makes me not believe that good people are rewarded, but is this the reason why I don’t want to be a good person? Marriage can never be separated from one word - faith. No matter what twists and turns occur in the process, two people must stick to it as their purpose. If you carry it all the way to the end of your life, then you have this belief. "

I will never put my emotions on a scale to weigh and sell

Of course, there are also many viewers who think "Xiao San'er" Seaweed is very innocent and cute.

< p> "A 25-year-old girl, when you did nothing, enjoyed a life that she shouldn't enjoy. When filming in Shanghai, the sofa Haizao was lying on was worth 500,000 yuan, the dining table was worth more than 100,000 yuan, and the house was worth 20 million yuan. Don't you feel guilty? At least if you let me stay there, I'll be scared. Because it's not something I've worked hard for. But I definitely don't think seaweed is mainstream among young girls. If most people seek comfort and take shortcuts, society will definitely regress. " Liuliu said.

Liuliu had written an essay earlier, "A thousand catties of friendship is no match for a breast." He scolded Xu Gehui, the leading actress of Phoenix Satellite TV, who had stolen her husband. It seems that, Liuliu’s disdain for “Xiao San” has not changed at all over the years.

“If you ask me to be honest, I don’t like seaweed. Better to add a note: the way she behaves. Because she doesn't fit in with my education and my values. You can call me an old-timer, but I know that a large number of women born in the 1970s received my kind of education: self-respect, self-love, self-reliance, and self-reliance. Girls should pursue love rather than material things. I am thirty-six years old and this idea is still deeply ingrained. I feel that I can give up my house, my money, my fame and fortune, but I will never put my emotions on a scale and sell them. What I have always been proud of, and what I am grateful to my mother for, is that I did what she asked me to do: every yarn and thread on my body was earned through my hard work and talent. I really did it, stay for love and leave for love. "

Liuliu clearly likes Mrs. Song. "She is the first wife. She is willing to help her husband in times of crisis, including selling the houses of her parents and brothers, including taking all the money. Come out and rescue your husband. What she wants is this person. Even if this person will be ruined and have no job in the future, it doesn't matter. Unfortunately, men cannot see this, especially men who are deeply loved by women. "

Young men feel a sense of loss and will take revenge wildly in middle age

Some unmarried female viewers feel that men will definitely cheat after watching "Dwelling House", so they are very concerned about marriage. Hesitant.

“The things that today’s middle-aged men do are contrary to legal etiquette, kindness, and integrity, and they affect the younger generation of men. Girls do not choose men who are struggling when they are young. Such men feel a sense of loss and will take revenge crazily in middle age. This is a vicious cycle. Chinese people believe in doing good deeds and accumulating virtue. What your generation does depends on whether it will be a profit or a loss for the next generation. Moreover, if such a middle-aged man still doesn’t feel guilty, then think about how you would feel if your own daughter grew up to be in her 20s and chose such a path. I'm thinking that if my children are in this world and my children's children are in this world, the material wealth I leave them will depreciate to have no value. What I leave to them should be spiritual wealth, such as the persistence of order. "

"A healthy, orderly, efficient, and fair society must have rules. If we were driving and everyone lined up in front of the red light and waited quietly, then I think there would not be such a crowded traffic jam. And everyone thinks it’s fair. But just because of today’s society, someone jumps in line, takes a shortcut, and makes you wait long enough. Those who took advantage secretly rejoiced, while those who did not take advantage felt they had suffered a loss. What was originally a normal rule turned into a situation where those who did not take shortcuts would suffer losses, which caused chaos. The famous philosopher Cicero said that the armor of a happy life in old age is a life that was well lived and lived with care. That is to say, if you want to be happy in old age, you must live the life you had when you were young and rely on your own strength. Now that I have taken a shortcut, I must pay it back when I am old. Do you want to live in an orderly place? Or do you want to live in a dark and disorderly place? I believe that most people want to live in a healthy environment. "

In 2009, when "Wiaoju" was first broadcast, I was 20 years old. At that time, I thought, why did Haizao choose Song Siming? There is Xiaobei who loves her so much. Xiaobei is good at everything and motivated. I still love her, but the only thing is that he didn't have the life that Haizao wanted at that time, a life like a lady. In 2016, when I was 26 years old, I watched "Small House" again, and I suddenly understood Haizao again. Although Xiaobei was still the same. It's so pitiful. Maybe Guo Haizao is vain, but Guo Haiping is the promoter. I hate what Guo Haiping said in the end. She clearly caused Haizao, but in the end she became the culprit. Song Siming, there is no such person in this society. Even if there is no Guo Haiping, just because Song Siming likes Guo Haizao, there is no way for Guo Haizao to escape. Song Siming has a lot of money that women want, and women want to help women solve problems. He will give you everything you want, but he is greedy.

If he loved Guo Haizao, he could divorce her, but he didn't. He ruined Haizao and ruined a woman's life for his own selfish interests and desires. Maybe without Song, Haizao would still be tempted by other people, but in the final analysis, what she loves is the power in Song's hands, and the ATM that can solve her problems all the time. What is love and not love? It’s all your own choice, and you can’t blame others.

Yes, seaweed is often found, but Song Siming is not.

I am right. What do you think of Song Siming?

Regarding Diaoju, everyone is not disgusted with the mistress played by Haizao, nor is they disgusted with Song Siming's cheating. Although it is realistic, it feels like a true feeling to people. A true feeling that one hopes will be fulfilled.

For Song Siming, he was a thoughtful, wise and very smart man. His corruption in career and seriousness in love left a deep impression on the audience. How many girls hope that even if they are mistresses, they hope to meet a man like Song Siming. It is not about how rich he is, but the kind of love that every woman yearns for, the kind of being cared for, cared for, and pampered. Kind of love. I don't hate him, I also like him. Regardless of the outcome, which girl doesn’t want a man like Song Siming to be by her side?

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Speaking of the drama "Dwelling", it has subverted many traditional perceptions.

Haizao Song Siming’s extramarital affair was determined to be what love should be like. Song Siming's wife said: "The pearls I grind out with the pain of clam meat are finally hung on others' necks to show off."

Who hung it on others' necks? It's Song Siming himself.

Xiao Bei, the perfect boyfriend, turned out to be a cuckold.

Who stole the limelight from Xiaobei’s classmate. There is no doubt that it is Song Siming.

"Snail House" touches on many sensitive and hot topics: mistresses, housing prices, and high-ranking officials. In the end, the screenwriter punished these people who were only seeking to lower their bottom line in the name of justice. But it did not make the audience buy it, but found the ending unacceptable.

So, who changed the past hatred of evil in this drama? It's Song Siming himself.

So the question is, how did he do it?

Song Siming’s charm lies in his ability to lift weight with ease. Song Siming showed ease among various relationships. A seamless connection between two women. In his limited space, he was able to let himself go. Putting no pressure on those who come into contact with him is an important reason why Haizao likes him and the audience likes him.

Especially for a girl like Haizao who has a lot of pressure in life, Xiaobei's existence is just to accompany her, and only Song Siming can lead her out of the predicament. This is also the reason why many young women like middle-aged uncles.

However, what was Song Siming thinking? Seaweed, to him, is just a glass of red wine with a steak. Delicious but it cannot replace a meal. So for her, seaweed is more like love than love. Therefore, he would not divorce Haizao, and he would not think that it was his actions that ruined Haizao's life.

I have done so much for you, and you just repay me with your love. We don’t owe each other anything. It is this kind of mentality that makes him extremely relaxed and calm, and he can enjoy the joy of love. In contrast, Seaweed wants more than that. With bread, he really wants roses.

So this drama is destined to have no good ending. However, to say that Song Siming can be so charming, the key point is that Zhang Jiayi acted without acting, which really made everyone feel that he was Song Siming himself.

I watched it once when I was 19 years old, and I felt worthless for Xiaobei. I don’t like Song Siming either. When I was 24, my mind completely changed. It is impossible not to be moved by Song Siming's help again and again. And I don’t think Su Chun is a coward. In real life, he is definitely a wise man. I don’t know if you have noticed that he has the most constructive lines in the whole drama, and he is also the one who can tell at a glance that there is something wrong with the seaweed. When Song Siming helped him get promoted to section chief, he resolutely resigned, saying he felt something was going to happen. As a result, Song Siming was finally arrested. If he did not resign, the consequences would be quite disastrous. As a woman, few people can help but be attracted to Song Siming

Song Siming was new and exciting at first, but later she learned that Haizao was pregnant with a boy, and Song's balance was completely tilted. I think deep down, Song Dynasty had the idea of ????continuing the family line and having a good career. He actually longed to have a son to honor his ancestors, so he loved Haizao even more. As for Haizao, because she was pregnant with a boy, the mother was more valuable than the child, so she felt at ease when she was the mistress. However, God's calculations were not as good as those in the officialdom and the love affair, and in the end the talent was gone. Greed kills people, no matter men or women

I think this is a very complicated emotion. There is no shortage of women in Song's position, but he is clean and self-sufficient and does not indulge in female sex.

The first time he met the pure seaweed, he was attracted. She looked like his first love. In fact, Song was a middle-aged man who had begun to age. He worked hard every day and struggled for many years. His wife did not marry for love. Yes, it's very utilitarian because his wife's father can help him get promoted, and he has struggled for half his life, but what he lacks most now is not women, but the love he didn't get when he was young. Pure and beautiful. So it can't be said that Song stayed with Haizao just because she was young. It was some kind of power and sex deal. But the idea of ??a person who doesn’t want a divorce and wants to have a love outside of marriage is despicable. But wanting whatever is lacking, although it is morally shameful, this seemingly successful old man does selfishly want to have a love outside of marriage. Hey, it’s time to go to sleep, that’s all I’ll say. I’ll talk some nonsense before going to bed. Does anyone want to comment?

Song Siming is a charming "bad character".

Song is considered a villain in public opinion, but from the perspective of the character created in the play, he is a flesh-and-blood, sophisticated, and deeply emotional character. It is easy to understand without extramarital affairs.

Song Siming fell in love with seaweed because it looked like his first love in college, which shows that Song is a very sentimental person. Song Siming also tried his best to help seaweed in all aspects, which shows his sincerity. At the same time, he always thought that Haiwei's first time was taken by him, and he felt that it was very macho to be responsible. He didn't even know the truth when he died, and he died on the way to see Haiwei who had a miscarriage.

Song Siming was extremely knowledgeable, had many classic quotations, and had many life insights about the government and his own work. Such as "the brilliance of national metropolises and the failure behind them", the dual dialectics of spirit and material, etc.

Song Siming has very logical thinking and pattern judgment. These points are undoubtedly very attractive to women.

There are many analyzes of Song Siming's character on the Internet, and they even analyze his work ability, gains and losses, and lessons from the perspective of secretarial science. It can be seen that this character can be loved by everyone without the moral component.

I read a website a long time ago about a survey on whether Haizao should choose a character like Song Siming or Xiaobei. 6,447 people participated in the survey and it showed, "In real life, if you were the character of Haizao, what would you choose?" When asked about "Song Siming or Beckham", 46.2% of people chose Song Siming, far more than the 22.2% who chose Beckham. It can be seen that Song Siming's role is still recognized among the new generation of people.

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I just watched Snail House this year, and it was recommended by a friend. She said that after watching it, I would fall in love with Song Siming, and it would change a lot of my ideas! Then I watched it, and in the plot, Song’s strength and flirting skills are comparable. To convince a woman, Haizao couldn't accept it at first, but when she gradually accepted it, that's when she fell in love deeply! To be honest, if it were me, I would probably make the same choice as Haizao, because I know that kind of person is born for money. Trouble, the reality is very cruel, it is really heart-warming to offer help in times of need! This kind of relationship is despised by others. I have scolded it countless times before. Now that I am in my thirties, I sometimes think about what is wrong with falling in love. Whether Haiwei is immoral or shameless, she exists in this society! Putting politics aside, Song should be the object of 50% of women's hearts!

Let's take a look at him first! Classic quotations, this is how you become a charming man

1. Seaweed borrows money. Your reason for borrowing money is very good and impresses me. Give me a chance and let me help you solve this problem. It's a troublesome question. For such a man, Haizao was originally asking for something from him, but it turned out that Haizao was granting him a chance to help her. Let's see, this favor was really given! This man has high emotional intelligence!

2. To help Brother Haizao, you have to move frequently. The more you move, the more unclear it will be. It's rotten in the pot. You must always be able to tell the difference between you and me. Every time you have a problem, you have to spend time to settle it. If you owe more, you won't have to worry about it. He will do it for you. If you do one thing, you should do it if you do ten things. If he gets a headache when he sees you at the end, then you have won. The wind will come to you, and the rain will come to you. Song Siming asked a lawyer friend for help. This classic quotation explains the essence of Chinese-style relationships, but that is not what I want to say. Song Siming solves a huge problem in Sister Haizao's family (brother-in-law faces jailing for leaking secrets). Please note that there is willingness in this. He and Haizao have broken up, so it doesn't matter if he pretends not to know, but he just wants to do something to help Haizao. Who can not be touched by this man's kindness, not to mention Haizao who loves him very much? Ah!

3. Advice to businessmen. It is impossible to maximize profits at any time. When you are pursuing the highest profits, you are actually blocking your own way. I think it’s enough to get a reasonable profit! This is the rational attitude towards money and material needs of a man who has reached a certain level.

A wise man knows when enough is enough and knows how to stop. This is really rare. Here I am reminded of another wise saying by Song Siming: "The greatness of a person does not mean how much you have contributed to society, how successful you are, but how to give up when you face temptation." He also said the same thing, fishing in a dry lake, don't do things that maximize profits, give others some convenience, and know how to stop!

There are also many classic quotations, such as "When people walk in the world, they will always meet masters. When doing things, you must start well and finish well. Since you have agreed, you must complete it. Now you want to throw this pile to Who?", "Can you play Go? There is a saying in Go, it is called fighting for the first hand. In order to fight for the first hand, it is better to give up some small gains and losses. What is important is the overall situation." I won't go into details here. Now, friends who are interested can check it out online. It is indeed a classic.