I still remember a funny video: Lao Li found out that his son was gay and chased him with a stick to beat him. Lao Wang next door saw it and tried to persuade him: "Lao Li, feelings are the child's own business, so just keep an open mind!"

Lao Li snorted coldly: "My son's boyfriend, That's your son." Lao Wang was stunned, then angrily picked up the stick and walked back to his house.

Behind the comedy, the irony is people’s hypocrisy: you clearly don’t agree with homosexuality, but you pretend that you do in front of others.

"Pharisaism", which Jesus criticized in the Bible, has become synonymous with "hypocrisy": anyone who pretends to abide by religious doctrines or moral norms but does not agree with them in their heart All can be called "Pharisaic", that is, "hypocritical".

"Pharisaic hypocrisy" can often be seen in our lives. The so-called hypocrisy is "appearing good in the eyes of others."

Forced hypocrisy

The attitudes of Lao Wang and Lao Li above towards "homosexuality" illustrate this point very well. At least Lao Li was still nakedly opposed and hated, but what Lao Wang showed was consistent with his hypocritical mentality: he pretended to agree and persuaded others to agree, but he did not agree with it in his heart.

Under universal values, showing dissatisfaction with homosexuality will arouse criticism from most people. So for a person who does not recognize homosexuality himself, there is an element of hypocrisy in the recognition he shows to everyone.

For a cleaner, cleaning the streets is just an obligation, but there are many people who preach "positive energy" about it. Scheler criticized Kant's "deontology" as hypocritical, and he had a point: If a person does good deeds not out of his original intention, but only to fulfill his obligations, then he has fallen into hypocrisy.

In today's society, if you dare to say "I am against homosexuality" or "I don't want to praise the cleaning workers", you will definitely be drowned in saliva.

The morals of these communities are established by human society. One of your good deeds may not come from your original intention, but from the pressure exerted on you by the group. This kind of hypocrisy has a sense of "having to do it".

Utilitarian Hypocrisy

The kindness shown by a person may have a certain purpose. When you are in trouble, the person who reaches out to you may not really want to help you, but just wants you to see him helping you.

Just like some parents don't love their children that much, but they always act like a model parent, in order to make you remember to repay them.

If a mother's concern for her children is entirely out of the calculation of raising her children for old age, rather than maternal love, then this kind of care is hypocrisy.

The hypocrisy of many couples' relationships is more secretive. In the eyes of outsiders, they are a model couple. When they live behind closed doors, they treat each other with respect and respect each other. They occasionally quarrel, but they know better about restraint and propriety. The woman cares about her husband and loves her. But there was another real man living in her heart. What's more, she just regarded her husband as the incarnation of someone else.

After a man has an affair, he buys gifts for his wife and cooks to create romance, just for self-comfort and redemption, and has nothing to do with loving her. The rational cost calculation after divorce makes them dare not take off their masks and maintain a tacit balance.

Ask yourself, do you really love the other person? Aren’t you tired of performing all your life?

When personal behavior and interests conflict, some people often use hypocrisy to protect themselves. Perhaps when the class held a fund-raising activity for the earthquake-stricken areas, he put down a few hundred-dollar bills in front of his teachers and classmates just to show off his "kindness", but he clearly had no compassion for the people in the disaster-stricken areas.

Singer Joker Xue became popular in variety shows precisely because he created an image of an affectionate and warm man who works hard. Now that all kinds of bad deeds have been exposed, and his character has collapsed, it has to be said that he has done it himself.

Utilitarian hypocrisy will not escape the eyes of others sooner or later.

Criticizing the hypocrisy of others

The so-called criticizing the hypocrisy of others means: self-righteousness and judging others.

We can often criticize a celebrity for donating too little and seek justice for the victims with just a few keystrokes. Especially in the news comments about the "onlookers" not saving people, it seems that he would disregard sharp knives and fight risklessly at the scene.

Seeing someone falling into the water, a passerby jumped in to save the person regardless of the risk of his life. The incident was widely reported by the media. Some people will smile scornfully: "Isn't it just to be famous?"

In the eyes of hypocritical people, others will always be hypocritical.

Li Ao once asked the famous writer Sanmao why he went to Africa. Sanmao said: "I admire Schweitzer very much and want to help the black people in the yellow sand.

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Li Ao asked more pointedly: "You said you helped the black people in the yellow sand, why don't you help the yellow people in the darkness? Your own compatriots need your help even more! Isn't there something wrong with abandoning the near in favor of the distant, being distant in favor of being close? "

Sanmao was speechless at the time, because Li Ao's theory seemed impeccable, but it actually criticized hypocrisy.

There are many hypocrites in this world, about There are three types:

First, all talk but no action, preaching to others, but unable to do it yourself;

Second, what you think in your heart is inconsistent with what you express externally; < /p>

Third, he is self-righteous and likes to judge and judge others.

The world’s human heart is unclear, and it is difficult to judge good from evil, and it is difficult to distinguish between loyalty and treachery.

Life is like a play, and we are all actors.

As Churchill said: "The basest emotion that human beings can never get rid of is hypocrisy.

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